Don't give up, but don't go against your values either. Sometimes you have to meet a lot of frogs--yeah, I know that's not the exact quote.

Keep trawling . There are lots of lonely boys out there. after age 28 only the quiet ones are left !

Usually, a relationship fails to spark if one, or both sides, thinks like an animal.

I'm sorry. I know what you mean about dating sites. I haven't even gotten an actual date yet, but the people I've talked to just don't cut it.

I'm not married.

I have found jerks online and in RL. I do not understand some men either. I had given it up until recently. I have been ask out in RL and I have had some chats.meet for coffee episodes that started on line. They start with the do you think we can hook up. I get up and leave. One followed me clear to my car begging me to go sit in here car with him. I never said a word to this one. When I got home I called my married daughter to ask if hook up meant screw. She said yes. I gave up. It is 20 years since my last RL 4 yr relationship. I thought maybe things changed so I see if that last special man I would spend the rest of my life with is there. So far the answer is no. I am not like some women. I do not need a man to complete me, but I would like a great guy to be with. If is doesn't happen I have all kinds of interest/hobbies I can play with. You will have t let me know how you do.

Update: I called and told him how I felt about the situation. He said he had thought we had a real connection. You never know how it looks from the other side unless you ask, I guess.

Always remember "no to feel guilty for seeking your own happiness". Other people happiness is not your responsibility.

You've not met yet so why are you so worried ? If he messages don't reply straight away . Let it dwindle if he's on a dating site he will be chatting to others and will have his time taken up by them . Think of it this way if you were in a bar you'd be using the just popping to the loo excuse and not returning to him but also saying hi the next time you passed him in the club

The only advice I can give is to be gentle but blunt. Let hime know that you don't see this going anywhere and you think you should disconnect. One thing I've learned about online dating is that a curtious rejection is still better than a cold disconnect. If he's still amenable then you could also point out what he did that turned you off so he could work on that part of his character. If he is actually a "good guy" and not just some deuche with "nice guy syndrome" then he will respect you and thank you for your honesty.

So what is new on dating sites ?

It's just life. your statement just isn't true.

When you find the right one, you will be able to tell him “I went through xx number of screw ups just to find you!” It happens to us guys too, finding the right woman is no better roses. At least you can smell a jerk or weirdo right away, but try dealing with drama and the “I deserve the absolute freaking best” attitude!! But, we will keep trying. Don’t take it as a screw up; think of it as one of those dresses you take to the fitting room and just was not what you thought it would be.

Hi Blindbird, Your happiness should come first in a new relationship. You found out that this man is not for you because he is not mentally stimulating. Sometimes you can look for love and can't find it, then out of nowhere you will meet someone that is intellectual, funny, kind, and with similar interests. Good luck finding your match!

Depends on the compatability between 2 ppl he was sounding like he wanted a one nighter and then move on to chat is to get to know the real person inside if u don't u just going in circles and there is more to life than that

I personally don't feel is a screw up...just open up to him about how you feel maybe he might change his approach to how he communicates with you.

Not all the fun ones are looking to cheat.some of us just want someone to play around with.in a good way

It could be a robot! There are a number of psychology students doing projects using auto resposes...your description of repetition and emotionless replies makes me very suspicious.

As the guy on the other end of these conversations, I don't mind, other than a couple of hours of disappointment. In most cases, if it isn't romantic, I'll still have made a new friend.

Just tell him the truth..it Is Him and Not You..obviously he has nothing invested emotionally in you..so don't worry about his feelings.

Some of this is caused by a man thinking that you feel exactly like he does. We are all guilty of that. The truth is, nobody feels exactly like you do. True with men and women alike. This is why we have to discuss things and get to know each other. Often we lie about this. We "want" others to feel exactly like we do and often just assume they do by the way we interpret our chat.
I used to think my ex wife felt exactly like I do on many things. It means I kept on believing this nonsense even after we were married a while. If it was true she would not be an ex wife would she?

Imagine a man and woman laying on their backs smoking cigarettes under a starry sky just after they have had sex. One asks the other "are you thinking what I'm thinking?" Sorry folks. There just is no way possible that this is real.

Awe. What site/app are you using?

Is his name 45? Some call him Trump.