I am against qualifiers. I am a complete no doubts athiest. I have dated Catholic (my fiance was one), Sunni Muslim, Tibetan Buddhist and gool ole' fashion Christian. I don't think a belief makes a person annoying. It stems from their personality, IMO. So, my experience has been that an annoying, preachy person will be themselves regardless of what they believe.

I made a conscious decision on November 10th to actively avoid Christians. You know the type. Evangelical. Since I have decided to actively discriminate, that will impact my interactions. But I also have no interest in dating or relationships.

The point I am making is that if you or anyone else is interested in a relationship I would suggest determining if the person's personality meshes with yours first. The religious litmus test, to me, is secondary. If you're not raising kids together, then the god debate is much less important.

Of the women I mentioned above, the biggest pain in the ass was the one who was also black but a Christian. My soulmate was not black and Catholic (non practicing). Chemistry, connection, equal worldview, comparable intelligence, shared interests, physical attraction all carry much more weight (or did) than shared views on god, to me.

Just my 2 cents.

I think of need to post something about 15 times just to annoy those who are so worried about it lol

I had one friend that I would have gone out with despite his religious beliefs. But we were the best of friends and often joked to each other about our stance in this world. When I went to his father's funeral in a catholic church I sat at the back and my friend told me I could move further in I would not go up in smoke I pointed out that the church may not survive me and we both hugged and smiled a bit.
He actually pointed out pastafarianism to me when he first heard about it and we cracked a lot of laughs over the fact it was a religion I could almost but not quite get into as being a vegetarian I don't believe in meatballs. Which would of course start more conversations with double entendres.

But generally no thanks to the religious people I don't need that in my life.

I feel pretty much the way you do with it, Buck. The difference is I did my own divorce, still care, but have almost zero stress in my life. My ex was all about control and drama. My religious friend who died not so long ago was always trying to get me back in church so I could meet a woman who cared about me. Sorry. That will never happen. BTW, beware of any "self professed atheist." Often this is just people not wanting to waste their time in god belief. That's not good enough and they may change later. I go by logic and evidence. Many believers think they do as well, but they tell you their logic comes from their god. Gotta quit. I'm gonna either laugh a lot or throw up.

Yup, I'm the same way. I won't even date anyone who identifies as Christian.

Please delete 3 of you extra postings.

She just "wandered off"?? Lucky you!! A divorce is usually financially catastrophic. Hopefully you can easily get an annulment .... but I would recommend that only if you plan to never do the matrimony thing again. I think it is one of those foolish things we do out of tradition .... you know, like running with the Bulls in Spain.

Like you, I wonder where all the atheist/agnostic women are hiding. But hey, no hurry. Being single is not nearly as bad as being with the wrong person ... right?

And umm ... yea, I agree. Women using power tools are HOT!!

You need to keep an eye out for making duplicate posts, man. You ended up posting this three times. Need to delete the other two copies, maybe...

No can do. Some things you simply can't agree to disagree on. Besides, who would want a partner who doesn't share your core values? I wouldn't want to have to censor myself in a relationship, and believe me I couldn't.

It depends on the christian girl.

If she's the sort of christian that genuinely accepts that being a christian does not mean she has the divine right to ram her faith in other people's faces, then the difference in 'religious view' could be manageable.

If, on the other hand, she's a full-blown Evangelical Christian Angel-of-Delusion, then if she was UNBELIEVABLY hot it might be fun to 'wickedly corrupt her and lead her into sin' in the form of a depraved one night stand, but there's no chance of anything serious or lasting.

It's a big disincentive, that's for sure. For me, it's looking grim for any sort of romantic endeavor, religious or not, but my non-religious dating pool is absolutely bone dry.

At this point, a 20-year dry spell, I'd do doggy with a woman while she did the rosary.

One of the wildest women in the sack I ever met was a Catholic card-carrying Communist. It was good while it lasted, but she mysteriously disappeared.

All I can say is you never know. I grew up outside of Bourbon Missouri, a town with a population just over 1600 as of the 2010 census, and I never would have thought there was any non believers there. But there's someone from there on this site!!

I could live with one if they kept their religion and politics to themselves as I keep mine to myself.

I could actually tolerate a believer as long as they were a human rights liberal and did not prostylize me. Then there's the politics thing and I could never tolerate a right-wing Republican.

I had a wonderful 38 year marriage so of course I miss that kind of relationship. It also made me pretty picky so I'll probably be alone the rest of my life as well because the majority of Oklahomans are mean spirited and God loving nuts.

My ex so wandered off in 2009 also. Just as well but I've known since I was very young that I would be a single person. Not that I always wanted that but I was unwilling to play second fiddle. I've also been a non believer since I was 12 or 13.
I would never say never, there have been many happy match ups made by people on this site.

Yep, sure do. But I would never say "never"......anything's possible