I live in Phoenix, a very large metro area, and I feel the same at times . However, I know I am particular about who I date, so that in itself shrinks the dating pool. That being said, I'm also very happy being alone, and enjoy my own company. I notice the harder you TRY to find someone, the more desperate you appear; sometimes it's best to let things happen when they are supposed to happen.

I have found that many men my age want to find a woman who lives within a 10 mile radius. Although I live in a small city there are not a lot of single men my age and also I'm particular about who I'm going out with. And honestly, the older we get the more set in our ways we become so we need to be aware of that behavior. Give yourself time, you never know when it will happen, anyway that's what I tell myself.

OK, You can be my case in point for today.
I was out for a walk this morning and my brain never stops.
So it was pondering the women on this site.
We have a group of attractive, intelligent, friendly ladies in this forum many of whom seek dating.
I chose to consider the ladies because the world knows it is easier for females to get dates than it is for guys.
Firstly, how many straight single men within your desired age range and distance.?
How would you find them/they find you?
What is stopping you/them asking to meet?
If online does your profile exclude a section of the male population? eye colour height or whatever?
So, how many guys have you contacted seeking to meet allowing for the above?
I am a guy, if I contact a lady on a dating site, I either get ignored, or they are friendly but not interested in meeting, or we meet and chat.
There are 6500 people in your town within 10years of your age, overall the gender split is 50/50 in your age range there are 0.2% more women.
There are more single men (never married) but more divorced women.
[factfinder.census.gov]

I think we all have to ask ourselves how open we are to meeting people, I did since joining this site and have since changed my profile to remove dating.
BTW you are quite a beauty so no need to be insecure.
I think you should bite the bullet and seek to meet a couple of guys. In public places of course, perhaps with a good friend in the vicinity.

You look to be quite the catch. I am guessing you have reasonably high standards. That means it will take a while.

I'm sure Honey Boo Boo's mom has a different par than you! Plus those relationships are probably peppered with dysfuntion. Not everything that glitters, is gold. And you're not alone in that boat. Hence the reason we are all here.

Thank you all for the very sweet comments! I was feeling a little sorry for myself after a few at happy hour last night. For the most part I’m good and enjoying single life. Occasionally I miss having someone to hold.

Not sure if I can promise anything long term but if you'd like to come up to Minneapolis I can promise an interesting afternoon. Lots of parks and great places to eat. Message me if you want.

It’s the fame factor, if that woman still lived in a trailer park and no knew who she was she would be a single mother on welfare

What is Honey Boo Boo?

I know a great little Vietnamese place in San Diego... ?

standards_good taste__and self respect

Aww, sorry hon. Maybe your are swimming in the shallow end of the pool and need to try out the deeper end? I dunno. Keep at it.

Hang in there, and stop looking. That's when you'll find someone to hang out with.

We already know you don't want "Honey Boo Boo's" type! You want men of intelligence, humor and responsibility! HANG IN THERE!

It's the same with me...I like to think that my standards aren't high but I know what I want and apparently that means I sleep alone. Lol

Ha ha, I know right?! Wtf?? Me too!

I'm right there with you. It's not that hard to meet people, but it's hard to connect with someone who is not aligned with your views on religion (no thanks) and politics (tree hugging progressive). I'm sure the fact that I'm old, overweight, poor and not great looking has nothing to do with the fact that I'm not dating

Take up square dancing... Bring the party to them... Your a lot smarter...

I don't think that you want boo boos mother's men. You seem like a very intelligent, well spoken woman, boo boos mama's men, are lucky that they graduated 6th grade.

Marcie, I have had the same thoughts recently. I have a friend who got married for the 6th time and here I sit! I think we all have those moments of “why not me!?” I can’t wait for your post that says you have met someone wonderful. It’s probably closer than you think.

Another great gal just too far away..... Yeah, life keeps taunting me, day in day out. @Marcie1974 wish you the best

With life experience, you’ve higher standards? Do you find yourself filtering out or past perspectives quicker than ever ...cuz you’ve a far better eye for trouble than in younger years? Have you noticed ‘the best ones’ are married/ taken..? Are you trying too hard.?

I’m likely projecting here, because I’ve felt the same, but you sound to ‘have the attitude,’ and look fine from here.. Skip to your destination

Your looking too hard. Let them find you and the best way to make that happen is to just be your self and don't dress up or over do your appearance. The more of the real you they see the more they will want to see and know.

Maybe because your one of very few and people are so shallow they will go out with honey boo boos mother because she is on tv.

Sucks.

Maybe because you live in Minnesota's 22nd biggest city? Partly it's a numbers game, if the pool of potential partners is bigger, then more people will meet your standards and visa-versa.

Are you using other dating sites like OkCupid?