Sorry about your Dad. My father died in 72, of an aneurysm in his head that burst, he was jogging age 52.

@EdEarl That is sad. My dad lived to 81, so I can't say he didn't have a good run. Also, much of what killed him was probably connected to years of bad habits like smoking, drinking, eating poorly (chips & bologna sandwiches poor) After he had a heart attack, doctor told him to lose weight. Having been lean, with a high metabolism until he retired, he had NO concept of how to do this.

For years I knew he had an arrogant attitude about weight, that those who were fat were just lacking motivation, self control, etc. Well, you know the attitude. He was always looking for the "magic" weight loss system but he never found it. Sadly, even with all the diets I have been on and all the struggles I've had with weight all my life, I sometimes catch myself having judgmental thoughts when I see an overweight person. Not a trait I am proud of but sometimes things we "learn" as children will just not let go.

@DotLewis Dad and I weren't close; he was absent in my early years.

My search for the magical diet was similar to your dad's. It tends to cause a person to give up on dieting. One reason I post here daily is I hope someone understands my message.

Losing weight is easy, but you must make changes in what you eat. People like what they eat. To change the foods you like, just start eating something you don't like much, and keep eating it. Given time, you will dislike it less and less, and one day you will like it. Conversely, stop eating something you like, and your craving for it will slowly subside and die. I once ate double cheeseburgers and loved them. I grew up eating bacon and eggs for breakfast and pork chops with mashed potatoes and gravy. I remember my last bite of a cheeseburger, from one my wife was eating. It tasted awful, like a bite of thick fat on my tongue; it was a shock that it tasted bad, a total surprise.

If you want to change your diet, try try again. Don't give up. You can learn to like and really love things you once thought tasted bad. There are two exceptions for me. We are programmed to like sweets; just change to fruit instead of refined sugar. Some people find greens bitter, and that will not go away AFAIK. I eat some greens because they are good for me, not because I like them. Oh the other hand, there are many vegetables I enjoy. Good sauces without sugar and fat are a cdhallenge.

Being judgmental about being fat is necessary to lose weight; we must judge ourselves, and that spills over to the general population. Moreover, we are programmed to like healthy bodies. Don't beat yourself up too much. If a person learns to eat right, they will lose weight, and they will be healthier. That's a good thing.