I can really relate to what you have to say. I don't like living alone but I am alone almost all the time now. I want a gf but all I have are websites and I come across as too pushy and corny. I do enjoy my life most of the time, but the problem is that those shy quiet moments I end up defining my whole life by. I am so hard on myself. I am really funny and a great guy to be with, but I do not believe that on a subconscious, inner child level. And the negativity and "woe is me" doesn't help either.

Maybe you should get a dog (no sarcasm intended) and just let the other shit go. Dogs are so much better than people at being good friends (they never, ever borrow money or your car!), and they're very time consuming so you won't have time to worry about being lonely. Just a thought.

I'm sorry that some have been unkind. to even be here on this site shows we are all different and our belief system is non-conformist. being an introvert is not criminal; it's just who and what we are.

I'm sorry that some have been unkind. to even be here on this site shows we are all different and our belief system is non-conformist. being an introvert is not criminal; it's just who and what we are.

It is best if you can describe yourself right away as an introvert and that another introvert would be good for you. It is too bad you don't live in my city, Minneapolis, we have meetup groups for introverts and it is quite easy to find other introverts. My advice is to find places where introverts tend to hang out - book discussion clubs are good for that. Failing that, move to Minneapolis, where many people are introverts - you would have women beating down your door, begging for dates. Minnesota is a haven for introverts.

I'm the same, just female.
I have friends from school but can't seem to pluck up the courage to make new friends.
I am a very solitary person and I doubt I'll ever have another meaningful relationship.
I have two cats and one dog to keep me company.

I spend most of my time alone. I wish I had at least one friend who shares my interests to do things with. I've always been a loner but still enjoy the occasional outing with a friend !!!

You read my mind, fellow Introvert. : )

why do you care about "the ladies" ?
You are into everyone and anything that moves like a human.
I'm not going for your jugular, but it just sounds like you want some attention by coming off as the loner that you really aren't.

I am INFJ and just as one is described, I tend to spend a lot of time alone, don't really want to mingle and then wish I had some more friends to hang out with. My best advice is to just get out there every once in a while. Maybe try Meetup.com.

I know the feeling, you're not alone with this problem. I've had it about as long as you have, and you're right- it's no fun. I wish the Westworld robots were real, at least they would offer us some hope. And nice guys don't finish last- they just have a lousy love life.

No advice, just know you're not alone in the struggle.