It's quite the dilemma trying to find someone who is also reclusive. They're like me, inside somewhere! I have learned to state that I'm an introvert on any site that I participate in so that only serious inquiries are made. You could talk to someone about creating a dating site for introverts and make money while searching.

I'm in a similar situation. I was in a relationship for over 14 years and we broke up. I would love to find someone again, or get her back, I have no idea how to do it now. These computer dating sites are just beyond me I don't understand how people get together on it. I don't like them. I dated one girl for a month but she turned out to be crazy so I had to get rid of her. LOL.

Also, this site may help to, as all members have a certain level of compatibility.

Jen,

I know the feeling, as I’m an introvert myself. I’m dealing with the same thing, but I guess my answer would be that you don’t actually have to go out to a club or someplace else to find someone.

It may be someone at your place of work or maybe at the beach, etc. As an introvert, wherever you like to go may be someone, because you wouldn’t want to find someone at a club if that’s not your thing or if you end up with an extrovert.

I hope this helps.

I wish I had an answer for you. Everyone tells me to go to meetups and singles dances.. and I'm like "hello! Introvert here!"

My only way to meet people is through country dancing. I love to dance, and go a few nights a week. I can have fun in a crowd by myself and I do meet a lot of nice people with whom I'll exchange a few words now and then. And it's not a meat market. People are there because they love to dance.

Through work.

I found my boyfriend on this site just by talking to people in private messages until I found someone I really got along with. It's kinda funny, but we basically do all the things we normally did as introverts except alongside each other.

Find interesting local groups and attend. Go online to the dating websites. If you like, filter out religions other than agnostic/ atheist. Create a 'business' card with contact info. When you meet someone interesting, give them a card and say call/ email me.

I would agree with the idea of joining a group that does something that interests you, or take up an issue you care about and you will meet people who share your views Quite often when you do that, it takes a few sessions before anyone is friendly so it won't be rushing into things too fast, I wouldn't think.

Try an online dating service. POF, Zoosk, Match. Just be patient , very picky, and ask a lot of questions of everybody.

Not sure I can be much help as I'm in a similar boat. That said our local library does a weekly chess night and I have gone when the opportunity presented as a way to meet people in a way I am comfortable. My recommendation would be for you to look up local events and see if you can find anything that does interest you. For me, a setting that I am familiar with (around a game table) helps me with the unfamiliar (meeting strangers).

I know what you mean and I don't have much of an answer other than pursuing things that are interesting to you. Maybe you can find someone that you have something in common with.