I find the subject of attraction very interesting. Sure there is purely physical attraction. I've seen men that look DAMN good. However, if I'm thinking about the type of man I want to be with in a serious relationship, it is much more about a mental connection mixed with some physical attraction.
I want someone I can talk to for hours. I want someone who can stand up for what they believe, but also listen to the other side. I want someone who knows how to treat others.
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Feel free to reply to any comment by clicking the "Reply" button.Am I the only one who senses a kind of tension between seeking physical attraction and seeking commitment?
It's as if there are two mindsets:
- Living in the moment; acting flirty, sexual, and funny
- Living in the future; acting smart, competent, and reliable
I often see the latter given as explicit criteria, but the former is what actually gets attention. There is pressure to be both, despite how opposed the two mindsets are...
JordanFried
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Mar 21, 2019
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Without a good connection, isn't the attraction diminished? I think on a scale of attraction the personality goes a long way in adjusting the attraction of physical looks, both for or against.
ownworstenemy
Level 7
Sep 26, 2018
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I agree wholeheartedly.
Physical attraction is not that important to me. If someone has inner qualities they shine through, and as I get to know that person they become more attractive in my eyes.
bleurowz
Level 8
Sep 25, 2018
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I agree. I've been attracted to men of all different sizes and varying physical traits. If they have a great and kind personality, they definitely become more attractive.
I totally agree. I mention this in my profile along with emotional (stability). For me at my 'stage of life' there are other areas as well (health and fiscal independence).
BTW I am from Dallas, most of my family live there and my late partner and I met, long distance, while she was living there (Plano).
JackPedigo
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Sep 25, 2018
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