It's not you- when you're in the right relationship -some things will be self-evident. Don't waste time on people who aren't right for you.
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Feel free to reply to any comment by clicking the "Reply" button.IMHO... One of the saddest things is ending a relationship with someone you care about but they aren't right for you. The pain eventually fades away and you realise you made the right choice. One of the hardest things in relationships is finding/knowing what is right for you but you'll know when you find it.
pmar074
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Jan 10, 2019
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Makes me wonder if she had responded to her suddenly "I want to experience an open relationship" guy that - actually, now that you mention it, I've been kind of fantasizing about another guy lately so - yeah, let's go for it.....do you think he would have been quite to eager to go down that road? I've known a few guys who have come right out and said they want to be able to play the field but they want their girlfriend/wife/partner to be monogamous. ???? Are some men just hardwired that way? Does it have to do more with their emotional maturity (or lack of)? This phenomenon seems to be just as prevalent today as it was in previous years....despite all the changes in how we view relationships (and sex) that have occurred over the years.
Lavergne
Level 8
Jan 10, 2019
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"but he said there had always come a point in his relationships when he wanted to sleep with other people, and now he needed to make a lifestyle shift,"
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.. any guy that would say that, Doesnt understand the concept of fairness, and probably had little respect in the first place..
@hippydog I just assumed he said that in an attempt to make her feel that this situation was not about her - you know the ole' "its not you honey, its me" thing? A lot of people have a very low boredom threshold and that seems to drive them continuously from one person to the next. Relationship ADD... 
It goes without saying that you are better off without people like that in your life - but even that knowledge doesn't take the sting out of feeling you somehow just didn't measure up. We all wear our hearts on our sleeve to one degree or another.
Part that buggee me about that ladies story was ..
"but he said there had always come a point in his relationships when he wanted to sleep with other people, and now he needed to make a lifestyle shift,"..
Imo.. the initial problem was he was NEVER honest from the start.. and then throwing this at her , mid relationship.. augh..
I really think half of our relationship problems is we don't communicate.
hippydog
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Jan 10, 2019
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