Married for 34 years. Mostly good, some great and some tough. Spent pretty much all of 2015 in treatment for an aggressive breast cancer and he helped me but i guess got hooked on the attention and has developed a severe case of personal pity , sad put upon syndrome. Midlife crisis i guess, he turns 60 in september. I miss great sex too!. Treatments left me needing a gallon of lube and a bullet to bite on! His with holding affection and being hyper critical doesnt help. And he has the typical ED probs older guys get. Makes him angry and he is looking at other ways to get attention. But sometimes its still so good! We cuddle infront of netflix ( doing Longmire now) drink a little , make out..... I miss him, the guy of a few years ago....
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I am sitting at this moment in a Circle K convenience store . There are several Fools that come in here on a regular basis with a side arm and one Fucking Idiot that carries 2 ! If you are too scared to get a cup of coffee or fill up the family sedan without being armed to the teeth, Your Problems go much deeper than what a gun can solve .
GEGR
Level 7
July 9, 2019
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UUNJ:
Thought the same thing when a young man with an age 10-ish daughter walked into a gas station mini-mart with a semi-automatic on his hip. Is he living in fear or making up for his emotional shortcomings?
Some idiot came into our vet's office with a sidearm. Because kitties are scary!
I'm not going to generalize because I don't know but I was in similar position to your husband with my ex. Wasn't cancer but mental issues I had to support her through. Until I couldn't do it anymore.Basically, at some point in the shopping, working, housekeeping, hand holding I ceased being her husband and started being her caretaker.Great sex disappeared -partially my emotional response and partially her meds numbing her fun zone. Was I greedy and unfair -yup, Did I feel robbed and put upon? You betcha. Hopefully you two can get the counselling you should have to at least be able to identify where you both hurt. And remember, whether it was talked about, you both were staring a possible death in the face. That was a kick in the head for both of you, but I bet he had to be very brave and manish about it. I remember when my step-mom had a stroke. My father was scared and angry, things I had never seen before in him.
RonWilliam53
Level 7
July 9, 2019
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@Dogsnotdogma Please talk to him about counselling after that.
I can speak for myself as a guy. We go through some tough changes as well as women do. It's not easy for either one. I truly miss me from aspects of being younger.
Our_existence
Level 9
July 9, 2019
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My favorite is Canadian Cialis (Tadalafil), 20 mg.. Easy to find on-line. Ask for a small sample first; they'll always try to sell you bulk. Tell them "if the sample works I'll order more". Far cheaper than getting regular prescription Cialis.
Robecology
Level 9
July 9, 2019
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@Dogsnotdogma Maybe it's time for a chat with a couple's therapist.
I, too have tried Viagra...it doesn't do well for me either. Cialis works differently; effects last 2-3 days. I strongly urge you to try it...and the therapy.
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