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I previously posted about my recent breakup. As a post menopausal woman aho doesn't really want to take hormone replacement therapy, but who loves kissing and cuddling, l just want to ask the guys out there...are any of you out there in the same boat sexually?

Caligirl 4 Oct 14
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Coitus is not the only path for lovers seeking satisfying bliss....orgasm is a great pain relieving flash of naturally produced endorphins encaphalins....people our age need moments away from chronic pain management....lovers can massage kiss tickle and warm each other when they decide to be lifelong mates and caregivers ....I know happy couples in their 90's still swimming bicycling and kayaking to secluded sandbars for open air love making....and sadly I know too many people my age in wheelchairs wasting life reading bible verses against fornication....freedom to choose, eh ?

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I went through this with my ex. With her it was passion one week and nothing the next with no explanation other than "our marriage has changed." What sank us was probably not the stepping away from that element of our intimacy, but the absolute lack of communication and discussion about alternatives. I think (because she never said specifically) it was related to vagina pain and dryness. There was also a characterization of love making as un-clean and bothersome. Marriage is kind of a contract and if you want to or have to make major changes it needs to be with communication and some level of negotiation. I fully understand that is sometimes impossible for some, but that is also where it all falls apart.

bobbio52 Level 5 Nov 6, 2019
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There are guys out there that are in the same r similar boat.
I enjoy cuddling, kissing, and physical affection, I will admit that can and frequently does lead to sex, but it doesn’t have to. I know when I’m not feeling well or stressed my sex drive drops.

CS60 Level 7 Oct 15, 2019
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|Some guys really enjoy cuddling and kissing and hugging but when some males sex drive wains they get into more oraly satisfying a women fully before them selves and intercourse is only an option at times,lot of women enjoy this

RoyMillar Level 9 Oct 14, 2019
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My ex partner

bobwjr Level 10 Oct 14, 2019
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I went through a phase where I was stressed , bad divorce, just totally messed up my adult children and I lost my drive . I had some ladies wanting to do things and I had to adapt to get them off and not be embarrassed. Eventually however I started taking Maca powder from health works because it was said to balance out hormones, about three months in my mood started changing, my drive and stamina picked back up and I am feeling good. Someone close to me is going through a similar situation ( female) menopause, it’s been tough for her but if you find the right guy it can work , don’t give up on companionship. Try looking into some ways to naturally change your direction not just for sex but Overall well being.

Awesome! Glad for you!

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It’s been 3 years since I’ve had an intimate relationship. At this point just a hug would be nice.

Haemish1 Level 8 Oct 14, 2019
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I can only hope the boat is not the Titanic 😊

IamNobody Level 8 Oct 14, 2019
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Yep, all I want at this point is to have someone to
Cuddle with when I go to sleep. If more happens, then it does. Not an expectation at this point in my life..

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Guys, most of the older men in my environment use bimix or trimix. Look it up!

zesty Level 7 Oct 14, 2019
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Aging is catastrophic on sex drive. Men need Cialis or Viagra...women need hormones...to "maintain the sexual adventures" we enjoyed commonly - what seems like just a few years ago.

You simply have to weigh the merits of keeping your active (intercourse) intimacy in tact - or switch to a non-intercourse "intimacy" that works for you and your partner.

It's a tough call...and varies from day to day, person to person.

The keys - the most important issues, IMO, is staying flexible, open, and healthy.

Robecology Level 9 Oct 14, 2019

Not necessarily catastrophic. Do a little cardio, keep your testosterone level high, use trimix if necessary. Enter the swinger lifestyle, make new and interesting sexy friends all the time!

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I love kissing and cuddling too! It would be much better than having no contact at all. As far as sex goes, I've pretty much forgotten what it's like, so I might be in the same boat with you.

BitFlipper Level 8 Oct 14, 2019
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There is a fine bible verse: " if 2 shall not lie down together, how shall ye have heat ? " the conclusion page of Ben Edward Ackerley author X-RATED bible all King James bible citations, American Atheist Press 1985

I don't mind keeping each other warm.

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Sidenafil citrate is not a hormone but if that is the object of your sexually boat question the answer is somewhat yes due to a low ventricle ejection fraction.... I am told women benefit from blue pills similar to men because of the warm feeling and body fluids drawn down to the bottom of a pelvis....however oral mutual stimulation costs nothing totally free of charge and be more enjoyable than vigorous lubricated coitus....actually most post menopausal women report IMPROVED AND satisfying climax without fear of ovulation and pregnancy

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Yes I do like those things, and I REALLY like sex also. The sex doesn't always have to be part of it, but I definitely don't want a sexless relationship.

Sticks48 Level 9 Oct 14, 2019
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I am the whole enchiladas guy, not just the salsa and chips.

St-Sinner Level 9 Oct 14, 2019
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One thing most always leads to another, not 100% of the time, but enough to make me believe what l just typed.

nogod Level 7 Oct 14, 2019

Well, l guess time will tell if ever l do meet another partner.

@Caligirl may l ask, did menopause shut you down to physical attachment? now l'm curious.

@nogod no l sill enjoy affection....its just my sex organs are not responsive🙁

@Caligirl When my wife reached the point your'e at now, l was shocked and delighted. l didn't know what to expect. But what l got was more of the physical type you seek, but also, our sex took off like a rocket. The right person makes ALL the difference.

@Caligirl You might find the blog I posted a bit ago (10/19) interesting and possibly of some hope ... It’s not unusual to feel unresponsive at our age, but you certainly don’t have to stay that way.

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