Being a man "of a certain age," I find I have a lot of questions about my identity and relationships in a culture so hyper focused on sex and sexuality that everything is seen through the lens of gender.
I would like to find or form a group the explores the issues of relationship, intimacy, affection and sexuality in the post-childbearing stage of life.
This would absolutely not be a pick-up group! It just isn't possible to be in an open, vulnerable, and honest exploration of these issues, if you are also angling a sexual agenda.
I have experience as a therapist and counselor, so I can lead such a group, but that also means I participate less in the discussions than I would like.
For those of you local to Portland, I used to lead a discussion group near Gresham that explored a lot of these issues, but broke up when lives changed a people when their separate ways. I believe that the group had served it purpose and that was a natural ending point.
Online discussion serves it's purpose, but is often limiting, so I propose needs, say, live group chats and in person meetings, for those will to do that, at public places or my office.
Is this something you could be interested in? I know from experience that these discussions can be difficult, confronting and challenging, but also fun and exhilarating! My group had tears and laughter. If you're interested, let me know and we can see where that leads us. Thanks for reading!
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Feel free to reply to any comment by clicking the "Reply" button.It sounds very interesting, thank you for your proposal. Location might be a problem for those interested. Personally I am not in a situation where I need it now, but I am sure we always need this at a certain moment in our lives.
Merseyman1
Level 9
Jan 4, 2020
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Alas, I don't live near enough for an in-person group, but a live group chat online would suit.
ailurophile
Level 7
Dec 10, 2019
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I’m very interested! Lately, I’ve been feeling like I wish I was younger because there are relational things happening I’m interested in but predominantly younger folks are into. Polyamory is one. I’ve zero experience but think it could be a very satisfying life in a small caring group. Another is the authentic relating and circling movements. I’ve thought of, where can I find other older folks who are open to finding new ways to be, and not missing out due to age.
IrishGypsy
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Dec 4, 2019
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Oh, I missed the in person part. I’m on the east coast
In a small group of thoughtful people who know themselves, communicate well, and genuinely care about each other it could be satisfying and mutually beneficial. I have not yet witnessed that, but I like to believe it's possible. Unfortunately, I'm a wee bit crispy around the edges from thirty-plus years experience with polyamory. If I can find one person open to doing relationship work, I'll be happy.
There are, or used to be, plenty people our age into polyamory. I don't think the alt.usenet group is still around, but many of the people who were (might still be) active on it would be about our age. I'm out-of-the-loop, so don't know where people are congregating these days.
It’s unclear to me what you’re seeking, regarding the issue of gender. Are you seeking a group for men? For people exploring gender identity in older age? If the latter, there is an LGBTQ group on the site.
I’m an AASECT certified sexuality counselor and educator with a specialty in sex and aging. I have offered to answer anyone’s questions thru private messaging. A number of folks have taken my up on the offer, and I’m happy to continue that support. Their concerns have not been the type people are likely to want to share in public forums online.
If you find people who’d like to meet, a virtual platform like Zoom or Google Hangouts might work.
UUNJ
Level 8
Dec 3, 2019
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Don't just say what you want to do and hope for approval. Do the thing you want to do, for goodness sake.
Shawno1972
Level 7
Dec 3, 2019
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You can't start a group until you're level four.. good luck
Cutiebeauty
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Dec 2, 2019
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