New to this group , but have been on Agnostic for a bit.
My wife Pat passed away on Dec. 23. She complained about not feeling well after supper. I asked if she wanted to go to Emerg. She said no. I mentioned this a few times- Emerg.com/Ambulance-nope. The problem here was that she did not want to go to tne hospital because of Covid-she was high risk. When she finally said call the Ambulance it was pretty well too late. She coded right after they arrived and never came back. She has had cardiac issues for a time. It is a family thing, her mother, brother and recently (Nov.18) her sister passed. All with heart failure. So needless to say it was a bad Christmas. House seems empty without her, our dog is taking it badly too. Does not like to come in the house because that is where mommy isn't. To make matters worse we have been in lockdown for a while so social interaction just isn't happening. I get together for meals occasionally with my sister though. Everybody else is phone or Zoom. Still cannot believe she is gone, but looking at her ashes on the bookcase lets me know she is. We were coming up to our 15th anniversary in March. Pat was divorced and I was widowed. My first wife died of cancer, and we had a year from her diagnosis to her death , so she was able to plan her own memorial service. Pat and my first wife Brenda knew each other, we volunteered with Lions and at a summer theatre together.
I miss her a lot. Wonderful conversations. She was well known for her sense of humour led by a devastatingly sharp wit-you have no idea. She wasn't a rule breaker as much as she was a rule bender. Renowned for always taking the high road, a peacemaker , a feminist.
She was always asked by people to edit e-mails or letters they were going to send even after she retired.
Memorial service sometime in the future as I do not want a virtual event. Have a lot of her friends lined up to help with this. Cousins too, she had 12 aunts and uncles.