It took me a couple of tries before I could take Richard’s clothes to a men’s shelter here near where we live. I realized that Richard had so many nice clothes that they would definitely help out a man who Was looking for a job or a guy who just needed something a little newer. It was not easy to let go of his things but I knew that Richard would be very supportive of me taking his clothes to the men’s shelter to help other men. It has been 16 months for me since he passed away. This is my second Thanksgiving and Christmas without him.Not that we celebrated Christmas or anything like that but it was just the time of year and how people did seem to be much nicer to one another that is what Richard and I liked about the Christmas holiday.I really miss him during this time of the year. I am pretty much just keeping to myself and staying at home a lot. It’s a lot easier than crying in front of people. I know it’s very hard to let go of your husband’s things. When it’s the right time it will happen.

I understand completely and I’m in the same boat. I was going to have some of the clothing made into a quilt and I still cannot even do that.

When my husband died, my daughter slept in his closet, with one of his shirts. It wasn't until a house fire, a year later, that I could bring myself to do anything with his clothes. I kept two shirts and still sleep in one.

It was two years the 19th for me. Things are still pretty bad. But compared to a year ago much better. After 30 years with him I don't know if I will ever recover.

I have been soul crushed & it took a decade before the tears finally subsided. In homage I do good deeds , "In Memory of...." I make charitable contributions. Thank you W Clement Stone. Thank you Warren Buffet. Thank you Bill & Melinda Gates. For helping me to realise philanthropy. & the United States government for permitting me a deduction thru my charitable trust in honor of our bond. It has healed me. I send empathetic energy. 2 months in and I still can not go into his room to sort his high end clothes. It is an addicts room. All prescribed so...... Do I want the deduction this year or next? Do people need the winter clothes now or later. Books & CDs. I can't do it yet.