What exactly is mindfulness?
I'm filling up my water bottle using the spigot for the filtered water. I'm watching the water going into the container and I'm watching and I'm thinking....
There's the water. It looks pretty good... It's 1/4 of the way full. ... Still filling... Halfway full. I like how clean the water looks. I wonder if it's making a sound. Almost to the top. I have to shut it off in time... There we go... Done! (I turn the spigot off.)
Me... Filling up my water container 6 months ago....
Let me turn this on... Do I have to iron my skirt? Is it still in the closet? Have I gone shopping in a while? Let me leave this container here while I run upstairs and check my closet. What did I come upstairs for? I should probably take down the laundry. Should I make a phone call now about the pharmacy error? Was it really an error and am I supposed to take that? I'm going to call. Why is all this water all over the kitchen floor?
It's amazing the difference any amount of time can make when you start thinking in a more mindful way. We think multitasking is good and it makes us like superheroes but all it really does is make us act like freaks over time. I'm learning to live in the moment... Practice being in the present. It sounds odd, but it made a huge difference and I'm able to think clearer.
I highly recommend this age-old practice.
Ok, this is going to sound strange but I grew up an overweight kid and young adult. I started using this technique a couple decades ago when I eat. I always describe it “eating mindfully”. Forces you to eat slower, consider what you are eating, rather than shoveling food in. I’ve past it on to my kids to avoid the fast food trap.
A wonderful tip!
I was introduced to this in connection with my mental health treatment, and it has been wonderful for me.
It's very helpful!
Just food for thought.....
Yes! I find not taking things too seriously to be key!
@SukiSue yup, even ourselves... ?
The final objective is to assume control.
Most of times we do stuff without living that moment. we are planning the next step, or distracting ourselves (singing a song mentally for example).
This mindfullness techniques are there for this, to train you to be able to identify this side thoughts and bring back attention to the main topic when you need. You don't need it to drive or to walk around, but when you need to focus it will be nice to have this tools there.
And this tools consist on learning to let this side thoughts come and go, and not focus on them and loose focus on the main activity.
This main activity can be work, or can be improving the quality time with your beloved ones, focusing more on them and their details.
It the end is training and acquiring tools to use in real situations.
The best way to train is to put yourself in this situation where you have to identify and let the side thoughts and let them go away, and what better situation than doing nothing? Your brain will be crazy to go sideways. So here is what people don't say, the exercises are not about thinking about nothing, is about forcing this side thoughts to come and get rid of them, this way when you need to focus this action will be on auto-pilot and your brain won't focus on distractions.
Think of all the actions you do subconsciously while driving your car; Starting the engine, putting it in gear,stopping,and merging in traffic,almost automatic in purpose.
But it gets tricky when you're driving the car and mentally trying to memorize a grocery list.... !
It is the practice of the present moment but it isn't your thoughts. It's the watcher inside you, the part of you that is aware of your thoughts and of the subject of your thoughts but doesn't identify with either - the silence behind all wordiness. That's how I understand mindfulness, anyway.
Interesting...
All is relevant. That is the bottom line. We comprehend what our brain opts to focus on. But do we see the event from all possible points. The glass is half full of water but the displaced air is still around us. The glass may be just a container or it may be a place water is poured. Still the same ration of water in the room to the volume of air remains the same. Just a perspective. Like those that claim they say jesus at time of death. It it what the mind opted to examine and then make a moment of interpretation.
Words to live by. Especially if you are a forgetful person
Or have been through a traumatic event of any kind.
I have been consciously making an effort to live this way for a couple years now. At first it is difficult, it's a great change from the norm. But, once you've been practicing it for awhile the practice begins to become habit, and once these economies of thought and motion become ritual, or habitual, it frees one's mind to pursue other interests. It makes everyday living easier.
It really does!
I have always maintained that multitasking is bunk. Thanks for verifying! ?
6 months doesn't seem like long. I'd have thought this sort of thing would take longer to learn and make into a habit. Any secrets?
copious amounts of alcohol, and near self-destructive dips into self-reflection.
I practice The Four Agreements. Speak impeccably, don't take things personally, never make assumptions and always do the best you can. That keeps me in the present for the most part.
Is this an age old practice, or an old age practice? ?
Both!?!?
Cannabis helps.
But then so do many approaches. Find the one that works for you sans addictive side effects
Luckily, my problem has been only temporary and was due to trauma. But I have learned to have a new respect for my mind, prioritizing and living in the presence. I am going to continue!
Technically, I think "they" say there is no such thing as multitasking because your brain can only focus on one thing at a time really. Even if there is a thing as multitasking, it seems that not focusing on one issue at a time by ONE person is less efficient at fulfilling that task to the best of your ability.
I'm with @jwd45244 that it is just the latest woo. Nice sunflowers.
Whatever woo works!
We have a multi layered brain for a purpose. We do not need to use our cerebellum for repeative tasks. That's us what our "rat" brains are for. If you drove your car and got home safely and don't remember how you did it, you can thank your rat brain. If an unsafe situation arose it would have awoken your higher brain functions to deal with it. You don't need to be mindful about everything. That's just the latest woo.
And too much multitasking is for wimps!
Good observation...and nice sun flowers.
A beautiful gift of sunflowers! I enjoyed them immensely.
life is an endless lesson, and most of us learn best one step at a time. So live life akin to that way, one step at a time.
I'm learning!
You have ADD.
I almost wish! I was subject to an emotional traumatic event which affected my abilities.
@SukiSue I say that in good humor. I have ADD and do things like you describe. And I go back and forth between "hyper focus" and "attention deficit ". It's the condition of our lives and as long as we cope with it there's not a problem. I think you are probably fine. We are all impacted and sometimes traumatized by life events. I'm pulling for you. We're all in this together.
I am mindful of everything. I'm told that I analyze things too much but I have to know and I do believe that I live in the moment.
Here is a mystery. My hair brush always sets in the same place in the master bedroom right by the big mirror. I use it and put it right back in that same place and nobody else lives here. Over night it has white stains on it that look like paint drippings. Absolutely nothing will clean this and it cannot be removed. I even tried paint remover and denatured alcohol. What happened and where did the white stains come from? I do not have the answer but the solution was to simply buy another hair brush.
Any ideas, or has my living in the moment wet to excess?
Well I don't know about analyzing too much, but I do know that dwelling on my past is painful and thinking about the future can be scary at times. I'm happiest when I concentrate on what I'm doing right in the moment.
Mindfulness = Not leaving the stove on. Setting up the coffee pot before bed.
Remembering to take the correct meds at the correct time.
Making sure the dog gets taken out between 11 and 11:30, so she doesn't have
to pee in the middle of the night.
Being out front to meet the bus no later that 3:45.
I think I may be missing the point.
I check my stove and other things before I go out the door every day. I knew someone who did not do this and they left quickly with the stove on and damn near burned the house down. I also unplug the coffee pot when not using it.
Yes. Being mindful of these things is also important! I think they just chose to use the word "mindful" in relation to meditation because it was the closest they could get to meaning "focusing on the moment you are in."
I'm finding it's a luxury to be mindful of every second while waiting. I wasn't always able to be so leisurely, but the mindfulness I can afford to practice now does allow for some moments of pause, recalibration of my momentum, to reflect on my happiness.
Using your example, usually when I'm filling up my water bottle, it's because I'm in a rush to get out of the house for work or exercise where I have time limits because of my schedule. So, it's a good time to just wait for the water to take its time and give my brain a rest.
Exactly!
See if you're thinking about ironing your skirt whilst you're filling a water bottle you're much less likely notice if something you really don't want be drinking drops out of the spout, spiders crawl up those things on hot days you know.
Or just generally speaking, being distracted with daydreams whilst you're performing activities are an excellent way become a statistic. I've always thought on my feet quite well, been mindful of activities and it's helped reduce injury when accidents do happen, eg. I got run over at work by a delivery driver speeding into the delivery bay just as I was crossing it from the loading ramp (they're supposed to check for pedestrians in the delivery bay and enter slowly), but instead of tensing up at the last minute when I saw it coming up behind out the corner of my eye, I wasn't even surprised (the delivery driver wasn't real bright and hardly a surprising person), I just rolled backwards over the hood which went under me at probably 15mph and the grill/headlights barely brushed the back of my knees before I was up and over it. I came down to one side near the windscreen and landed heavily and sure I went to a clinic but ultimately I just had sore legs for a couple a days, not even any bruising. I would've have two broken legs if I tensed up busily daydreaming whilst crossing the bay, but being a habitually mindful person I think being in the moment just allows a more logical natural reaction than shock-freeze, to lessen injury.
I've been a mindful person because I've had to be in very rough environments at an early age, was undersize and understrength and required any advantage for survival and emotional well being, such as being a step ahead of danger by being a little more keenly aware of it before it gets nasty. Point is I started doing that for an actual reason and it actually works. It's how streetwise people seem cunning or mature, they're not necessarily, they're just noticing ten times more things than most people at any moment because they've had to, they can still be immature or irrational like anyone but are very good at influencing followers among sheltered personalities because they seem so switched into everything.
Very few things surprise me and I rarely appear unprepared for anything which people do near me, even if they're unpredictable or outside experience. It's just being mindful that does that for you and I don't find it boring. That'd be like calling a night sky of stars boring.