I would not. I would view that as highly controlling behavior.

I do not need my husband's passwords, unless he passes away and I need access. We have a joint bank account, and we have separate ones too. He doesn't have my passwords and I don't have his, but if I have a question he shows me the transactions, and I would show him too. Just takes simple communication.

If there is honesty and trust between partners, there is no need to be looking over each other's shoulders like that. If you or your partner feels that it's necessary, then the relationship is already in deep trouble.

There's a difference between openness and honesty and invasion of privacy. Shared finances are one thing, but monitoring their online interactions? Sounds like a recepie for trust issues.

Trust and honesty are the two most important aspects in a relationship for me. So long as they're both in place, I have no need nor desire to know my partner's passwords.

Telephone, email, social media and any private individual accounts—absolutely not. People are entitled to privacy.

Joint accounts and non-private accounts, sure.

However, if my partner behaved guarded and paranoid (i.e. continually taking phone to shower), my suspicious activity antenna would be engaged.

I've had the PWs to an ex bf/still-friend's devices (because I use them, occasionally--especially when he's driving and wants my help doing something) and practically all of his online accounts--because I have a little more silicon in my blood than he, better eyesight, and I can type 1000x faster, so I've helped him do all kinds of things online. He trusts me implicitely; I only get into his stuff when he wants me to, and I do only exactly what he wants done--and he knows it.

He doesn't have access to my accounts because I don't need help with anything, and neither one of us cares about the differential. If he wanted to see my emails or texts or whatever I'd share, but it's never been an issue and likely never will. We tell each other everything anyway, so there's no reason to think there would be any surprises anywhere.

I had another bf who didn't like me using his phone (I would occasionally ask to borrow it to look something up if mine was out of juice or something), never gave me any PWs, and frequently talked about his sensitivity to privacy which arose from his jealous, suspicious ex-wife who was always accusing him of cheating and sneak-checking his phone. I thought it was a little hypervigilant and grudge-y to carry that sensitivity over in our relationship, but I understood, gave him all the privacy he wanted, and didn't worry about it much. We never had joint assets or anything, so it wasn't an issue.

I don't mind sharing info with a partner, because I'm an open book. And I don't mind giving access to someone I trust, if there's a reason, like unlocking my phone to do a Google search, or we're sharing an account, or I'm getting help with something.

But if you want access to my stuff just because you want to keep tabs on me? That's a major red flag and I'm not dating you.

I don't want access to anyone else's stuff unless I have a solid, legit reason to be in there. If you can read and type and balance your own checkbook and do your own spreadsheets and docs, I probably don't.

if you have to know all that shit you are effed as a couple

I know some of them and she knows some of mine. We share finances so all of our accounts are joint. We're friends on social media. We also respect each other, not just our privacy, but all around. It's a nice mix.

Someone’s passwords and accounts are not my business. Trust can be betrayed, but if it is, who cares? It would expose the deceit and allow you to end something that is detrimental.

Strange, but I've not thought about this in years.
We both know all passwords, account numbers, the combination to the safes.... jeez. It's just really foreign thinking, not sharing these.

Trust is of paramount importance. So is open honesty. So if my wife/girlfriend honestly tell me that they have some things they need or want to keep private I'll trust that they have their reasons.

It's a large majority. My wife has always had access to all my accounts and I don't care because I have nothing to hide. And I have access to hers if I want.

I don't need that info.

Nope, I respect privacy.

Access to my finances/money ?
No way. Been down that road, not going to redo.
The rest, eh....nothing to hide.

With out trust a relationship can't work. Also be secretive can destroy a relationship pretty fast too. People need to communicate and be open with each other for it to work.

I don't want that info and I don't want anyone else to want mine.

I trust my husband. I have no need to get into his phone or personal accounts.

Relationships are built on trust and friendship. They are nurtured by communication and personal freedom. I cannot imagine a relationship taking root in the kind of soil you describe. My wife has always had a sky to fly in and she has given me the same freedom to be. Only prisoners live in cages.

Anybody who expected/asked to share those financial bombs would be History! NO financial intermingling unless legally married, and even then keep a bit of a stash!

I’m assuming you are referring to a committed personal (romantic) relationship. Sure, honesty and trust are foundational principles for a successful connection of this sort. But it’s developmental and there should be qualitative priority in this area. That is, complete and total trust and honesty from day one is probably not realistic. We share, open up and communicate more fully and completely as the relationship developments. As the connections grows, we tend to open up more and trust more or relationship falter or end. More importantly, not all issues have equal weight and meaning. Maybe sharing passwords are signs of ultimate connection or it can be an indication of personal insecurity. Personally, I don’t think we can a complete open book to anyone. We are complicated complex humans with layered inner lives that should be respected. Share what you want. Ask for what you need. Keep an open heart. Love and don't judge.

We all have our own trust levels, a.k.a. handling the fear based side of us, which we all have imo. I have nothing to hide at all and wouldn't care too much if my partner is the same or not, I am (and have been in the past) secure in myself and their level of love and respect for me and 'us.'

I think there is a difference between willingness to share and demanding to know. My late partner had a business and a web-site. She used the site for financial info and even e-mails. I didn't care about anything on the site as it was her business. She would have shared if I asked, but I didn't. However, after she died a lot of important information was on that site and it as a real pain in getting it. You never know.
I see openess and honesty is critical in a committed relationship and that applies to both parties.