A friend of mine made the argument yesterday that although religion has its flaws, no other social structure can provide the same opportunity for consistent, long-term, face-to-face social interaction as religious communities can.
I did not have an immediate response, and I'd like to hear your experience. What communities have you found or built that provide ongoing meaning for you?
My 'in-person community' consists of my good, decent and trusted friends, my neighbors ( barring a few that is), some of the counter staff at local corner shops and the many people I've and talk to regularly when I take the bus every fortnight.
I need no Church Congregation to create one their false communities for me, I have made my own and it works wonderfully I might add.
If I lived close to you, I come hiking with you too, however probably would only do 1/2 hour of it to start of because all that hiking you girls do would kill me. But I would have a go.
I would love to have you join us.
@LiterateHiker you would need to bring some kind of contraption so as soon as I no longer could walk and was under the impression that death was imminent you have to carry me to safety or somewhere where a nice fire was and someone giving me a toddy to get over my ordeal. Probably 15 minutes into the hike I think.
I get it from my music groups, work friends, dance friends, and a local atheist group. We have more things in common than religion.
People can have that experience by communicating with their neighbors. They don't have to separate into, say, butterfly collectors or a fraternity of used car salesmen or left-handed armenians to have meaningful social interaction. Giving churches credit for that is like giving the same credit to a chain gang.
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I don't have a strong personal community. If I belonged to a church, I still wouldn't have a strong personal community.
I am thinking of joining the Democratic Party but not interested in campaigning or running for office.
I have a very large social network... It's called friends and family....
People I either work with, drink wine with, cook with, hike with or travel with!
There are tons of secular organizations, the claim is bs.
Elks, Lions, etc......not to mention working at shelters, soup kitchens, not to mention playing Bridge, Canasta, etc etc rtc....open your eyes!
After leaving religion behind, I built up my confidence and self esteem up to where I don't feel a need to belong.
This goes against our evolutionary instincts. We evolved as animals which for survival purposes gathered in groups for safety, and many people still feel unsettled if they do not belong to a group or community. A sense of belonging and community is the ONE positive thing religion provides for its members, as it does fulfill an instinctual need.
However, I'd rather be alone than a part of any religion.
actually being in the lifestyle (swinging) for decades , we have found that was the best long term community to belong to and the sex was amazing
Workplace, school, neighborhood, clubs, volunteer organizations, family structures — all provide long-term, real-world social interaction. I guess I don't quite understand your friend's meaning.
The religious seem to think that them getting together is "special" and nobody else can attain that without religion. Dumbasses the lot of them.
Have you heard of social media? Social media is the new community, it is replacing religions community.
social media can be useful, but it definitely isn’t a replacement for in-person socialization.
One of organized religions' strong points is the social interaction that favors groups....
With us agnostics just still a minority, there's little fundraising, hardly any (that i know of) "church-building" or "assembly-hall-building" of any kind...so the #religulous have an advantage there.
But that shouldn't stop you from "socializing" - even with the religious.
I don't attend church (haven't in close to 50 years) but I stay in touch with and was even a guest of honor at a religious group luncheon. My opinions and style of debate are respected there; so I do enjoy an occasional visit with my friends....I even contribute to their cause as part of the "Smile.Amazon.com" experience.
Don't let the "religious" stop you from being sociable. They look at you as a chance to "proselytize" and I look at them as a chance to "enlighten" - so we often have lively debates.
Me n da boys hang at intersections asking for money. Give what you want.
No community for me thanks, I'm driving. Seriously though, I do not have any desire to be part of a face to face community. I was an only child and do quite well on my own without being part of a group. I do go out here and there, am friendly and chat with strangers, but feel no need to be part of a group face to face. If I am part of any groups it is on line here or on line gaming.
Social nudism. Nothing brings respect and enjoyment of life than having no way to judge another by the clothes they wear. Look up AANR for more information.
@maturin1919 I don't think you know nudism or nudist lifestyle to say something like that.
@Ellen-SoCal I wouldn't because I have an ugly penis. Don't tell anyone!
I don't have an in-person community. It's all virtual.
@bitflipper that's not so good....
I resemble that remark, LOL!
You and birdingnut ought to get together... Just sayin'...
Theater, movies, politics, classic literature....basically EVERY social structure with a common interest can have the same effect as religion if the participants have enough love and respect for each other.
there isn’t one community that can provide the same thing because there are so many. the difference is that with most things, the way to do it is to actually build lasting relationships. you can join a book club, and that probably won’t last forever, but if you make good friends in the club, you can keep seeing them after it’s over. churches don’t necessarily foster long-term relationships. the same people just go there every week, so you’re going to see each other even if you’d never spend time together outside of church.
personally, i don’t have a community, but that didn’t change. i had my brothers and sister before i became an atheist, and i have them now. one online friend, a few cousins i talk to sometimes, and that’s it. i think this is less a problem with community not being available and more the result of not being socialized properly as i was homeschooled growing up. though my parents did that for religious reasons and used church as a stand-in for a social life, so maybe related issues.