One of the problems with trying to “deconverting” the religious or conservatives (or liberals for that matter) is that the extreme in all cases are arguing through emotions. We, on the other hand, argue through reason and logic. And like Rudyard Kipling’s poem “never the twain shall meet.” (The Ballad of East and West" )

I have learned that simply listening to the arguments of the conservative and liberal extremists as well as the evangelical right-wingers, I can get a better feel for the falsies of their arguments and develop better counter-discussions simply by asking them to explain the inconsistencies of their positions.

A large and complex subject. The first question is why de-convert? Religion is woven into the fabric of our culture. Are we in danger of unraveling that part of our national identity if we pull out the thread of religion? Then what does the culture look like?
If religion could be eliminated where would those in need of the reassurance, inclusion and emotional dependence turn? What would take the place of religion?
Religion provides a certain place of privilege in our society. How would that privilege be maintained?
And - if there are physiological differences, slight though they may be, that predispose the acceptance of the conservative philosophy would not that same predisposition embrace religion?
There is a lot to consider here. Including the fact that other attempts to extinguish religion have not been successful. It does make a good conversation and opportunity for speculation.

I personally think we should just focus on critical thinking. That produces more atheist, but more importantly, it produces more critical thinkers. Which is what we actually want. It doesn't really matter if they believe in a God or other not since. Almost everyone I know, atheist included, had some sacred cow belief. But the better there critical thinking skills they have, the less influence nonsense has in them.

Up against a rock decision must be personal

Not a bad thought at all!

I think that you might have a point there . Since much of right-wing thought in this country is rooted in religious based dogma , specifically Christian Reconstructionism [rationalwiki.org] , I think that it could be argued that we must first tackle the cultural hegemony [en.m.wikipedia.org] , before we can successfully take on the ruling class .