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June July and August are tough months for me I have in order;
the anniversary of my mother's death
my parents wedding anniversary
my father's birthday
the anniversary of my father's death days before my birthday
the anniversary of the grandfather's death on my birthday

A friend was holding her 50th birthday on the Friday after the first one on the list and just before the second one on the list.
Work has been flat out and stressful
I did not go to her party
I saw photos of the people there and my first thought was thank goodness I didn't go look at all of the people.

Am I a really bad person?

#weddings #parents #Friday #death

Budgie 8

Answer 1

If she is a true friend, you shouldn't have to worry about it.

Answer 2

You are not a bad person. However, I WILL say that a change of perspective might be beneficial. I do not dwell on the date of the deaths of those I love; I choose to remember their beautiful lives and precious moments spent with them. Yes, grieving is necessary, but if it never ends, it is not good for you. The bottom line is this: every single loved one you have lost would want you to be happy, not spend the rest of your life grieving.

Answer 3

So sorry that's sad

Answer 4

Not at all. I've learned to embrace my introversion and not feel guilty about skipping functions I don't want to attend. You have a right to grieve in your own way. You could take your friend out to lunch, just the two of you. That's much less stressful.


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