Death doesn't change what type of person you were. It just doesn't. Having said that though, you never know the whole story. And double standards still,unfortunately, very much exist. I guess this is a diplomatic way of responding to this.

Sounds like the kids just had it in for being her being unfaithful and abandoning them. Who knows, there is always more to a story than what's posted. Sounds like some very deep rooted feelings got hurt.

Wow...

As I said before, I suspect there was far more to this story. Women are so often villianized for not sacrificing themselves for husbands and children. It's a particularly nasty trope running through our society. Would a man have recieved such vitriol for leaving his family? Men do it all the time and its generally excused as him, struggling while women are "evil" for doing the same.

My daughter was thirteen when she asked much me, "Why do we have to act like someone was a good person when they die even if they were a total asshole?"

I never understood it myself, but I was impressed that she was courageous enough to ask outright.

When my paternal grandfather died, his daughters spoke at the prayer service. They said that all he cared about was running his business, that he never had time for them, and that they felt cheated out of having a father. Seems like Gina and Jay could relate

Perfect example of brutal honesty. I like it!