Whole lot of truth in that statement...looking back with unveiled eyes or is exactly what a male dominated society wanted. They wanted women to think it was all their fault...kind of sounds a little biblical doesn't it ? Its the old Adam and Eve fairy tale...blame the woman, that's what GOD did...didn't matter if men had free will...they are forgiven...but women. NOOOOO. Women have been the scapegoat for men since the beginning of time and its got to change ... Men don't want to have to take responsibility for their actions...and right now Washington has a majority of politicians who don't want that to change...and they want to load the SCOTUS to ensure their domination over women...there is only one way to fix this and that is vote them out.
It is a sad state of affairs, hope that it starts to get better.
Exactly. Why is it the fault of women/girls that some men/boys cannot control themselves? Why should we get the blame? I have NEVER understood that.
I remember when I took the guy who thought it was okay to put his hands on me
to court. I even brought the clothes I was wearing that night, just to prove that I was
not dressed "provocatively". It didn't matter. The jury still believed him when he lied
and said he did nothing wrong. His lawyer painted me to be the worst kind of person
walking the planet, and the jury believed it. He just sat there, all kinds of smug, with his little wife behind, and his little bible on the table in front of him.
And they wonder why women don't report? Fuck them all.
I'm sorry. It can't be said enough. ((((KKGator)))))
And I really hope people raising children right now teach accountability.
Your genitals don't 'run off without you'.
And when someone says they are uncomfortable or want to be left the hell alone - that's when you stop.
Or you know - ASK FIRST? FFS.
It was way past time to report when I figured out that what a Catholic Priest had done to me wasn't normal. (And he'd already been tried and sentenced).
At least you tried. I'm sorry it went all shades of wrong. We had a judge like that I when I worked at a Battered Women's Shelter. We all tried to avoid him in the system. Not very easy.
Ok now I'm pissed.
I am sorry for that, It pisses me off that this continues and nobody seems to care.
@RavenCT Thank you, sweetie. I appreciate it. It wasn't my intention to piss you off. Sometimes, I get triggered more easily than others. This was one of those times. I'll be cruising right along, just living my life, I'll see or hear something, and BAM, I'm right back there again. I try to keep that shit in check, but sometimes, I just get pissed off all over again.
@zorialoki Thanks. There are so many of us (females) who have experienced this more than once, and to varying degrees. I know there are males who have had it happen to them, too. We're ALL made to believe that it was OUR fault. That the person who did it shouldn't be held responsible. It is damned near impossible to reconcile that.
@KKGator My anger at the Catholic Church is pretty bottomless. Pretty sure I spouted off one Easter Sunday (after there were no small children present) about the "hide the priest" game the Vatican played. (Bugged eyed Catholics in that living room).
Not your fault at all.. When this crap comes up in the news - anyone who has ever been affected is going to be reminded.
Sometimes I can kind of block it out. Other times I get righteous pissed - and that's okay too.
@RavenCT I feel you. I said in another post, on another topic, that I think the catholic church should be forced to stop operating in the US. Bring RICO charges against them for running a criminal enterprise and seize all their assets and properties. Sell everything and give the proceeds to all the victims and their families. If people still want to practice that religion, they'll have to do it in their homes. If they do still practice it, they should be ostracized by their communities.
@zorialoki My Mother & all three of my sisters have had multiple cases of at least major inappropriate actions or worse! The "boys will be boys", or the attitude of accepting "locker room" talk has got to end, & it's the MEN who have to do it! NO more silence! NO more chuckles! NO more "Way to go"'s! We, as men, real men, need to stand up to this attitude & outlook & take a stand! No one is "owed" anything, especially what is not yours, to begin with!
@phxbillcee I totally agree with you
@KKGator Fully agree. Everything here...
And whenever it reaches this level in the news it is triggering for every single person who has experienced it.
(I know 'Triggered" "Snowflakes" it's tempting to make fun - but not in reality - not one bit.
I learned a lot more working with others (Maybe more than I ever did working on myself) - because that allows you to see that you are hurting yourself by not forgiving yourself for things beyond your own control.
I actually succeeded in having a tw@t tell me to go fuck myself today on the site? Triggered... maybe I was? But he sure as hell needed to hear what I was selling even if it made not one whit of difference in his pointy little head.
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