It's realizing what masculinity really is. It's not chest-thumping. It's not trying to bed every woman you can, any way you can. It's not fathering as many children as you can, even if you can't support them. It's not a continuous, "My penis is bigger than yours!" mindset that leads to violence & wars. We need to weed out the toxic aspects of "masculinity" & stress the good. Same with "femininity", women need to throw off the old, "the man will handle it" attitude. That a man is just the means of support or money. That they can't do math or science. I am all for the differences between men & women, viva la difference', but we need to meet in the middle & acknowledge that tho we are different, we're both human & want the same things! (Except men would like an occasional BJ, too!)