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zeuser comments on Apr 27, 2018:

What could be verse?

Focus on one objective until successful. Is this why some people are successful and others not?

zeuser comments on Apr 27, 2018:

Sometimes goals are complementary, or sequential, or hierarchical, or serendipitous. Just because there's more than one doesn't mean they are all going in different directions. As well, different people have different styles and skillsets. If you chase only one rabbit, it might get away too, and now you have no second rabbit to pursue. ?

Mistaken Identity

zeuser comments on Apr 27, 2018:

When I was much younger and had a mustache but nothing on the chin and wore wraparound sunglasses, some folks thought I looked a little like Richard Petty. It ain't much, but that's all I got.

Some text.

zeuser comments on Apr 27, 2018:

This cuts a little close to the bone for me.

Seriously! Seriously, if Honey Boo Boo’s mom can find boyfriends, why can’t I find one?

zeuser comments on Apr 27, 2018:

Aww, sorry hon. Maybe your are swimming in the shallow end of the pool and need to try out the deeper end? I dunno. Keep at it.

I've been playing around with a thesaurus and trying to come up with a unique website name that ...

zeuser comments on Apr 26, 2018:

In the ones you listed, I like the last one. Since this is about words, maybe use "words" in the site name and price it out. AllTheRightWords or something. Fwiw. Good luck!

Are progressives against enlightenment? This is what some republican talking head stated.

zeuser comments on Apr 26, 2018:

The key part of the assertion is the Republican talking head part. To me, that's like a warning label that says Hey, ignore this.

"The percentage of kids with autism in the United States continues to rise, according to a new ...

zeuser comments on Apr 26, 2018:

It's not a question of diagnosis, but of definition. People don't "have" autism, it's not a disease, but they can only process sensory input in ways that fall somewhere on the autistic spectrum. It's a different way of being in a world that doesn't appreciate differences.

Why do we all overthink dating?

zeuser comments on Apr 26, 2018:

Under doing leaves overthinking as the remaining option. People have mentioned the distance factor. It is tough to arrange a quick meeting over a long distance. That requires planning. Planning is work. Work is unpopular.

What do you think of separate rooms for couples?

zeuser comments on Apr 26, 2018:

My ex-wife's bedroom is 10 miles away. That works out just fine.

Is anyone else overly excited about the new Avengers movie?

zeuser comments on Apr 25, 2018:

I'll wait till mid week. But I want imax 3d, baby.

What would you do for a Klondike bar?

zeuser comments on Apr 25, 2018:

Ask me about what I'd do for a legitimate canoli. You'd be surprised, but in a good way.

Losing friends

zeuser comments on Apr 25, 2018:

Try your best to be truthful and forthcoming without being judgemental, but keep your expectations low. I wouldn't volunteer any information, but give matter of fact answers when asked, and politely hold your ground. Good luck!

This giggle is needed as I am grading social psych study proposals that say "amount of participants ...

zeuser comments on Apr 25, 2018:

I think I know the guy in the cartoon.

How can I overcome my introvert?

zeuser comments on Apr 25, 2018:

A compliment is a surefire conversation starter - where'd you get that shirt, it looks great on you. That sort of thing. As for carrying your end of the discussion, you're on your own there.

What wisdom would you pass on?

zeuser comments on Apr 25, 2018:

Do what you want right now, your time it's gonna run out on you whether you do or don't. And ignore that stuff, good or bad, that people say or think about you - blow it off!

Your thoughts on going to religious ceremonies?

zeuser comments on Apr 25, 2018:

Attending for a friendship's sake doesn't imply support for the propaganda. I go. I'd draw the line at snake handling kinda stuff, but I've never been asked so it's all good.

Is anybody curious about how members came up with their online names?

zeuser comments on Apr 25, 2018:

It's a childhood nickname originally used as a deliberate mispronunciation of my surname to make fun of the new Polak kid in an Italian parish school. I embraced it. ?

I am on a dating site and I contacted a gentleman and we spoke on the phone last night.

zeuser comments on Apr 25, 2018:

Get the coffee, look the guy over. If he's a hunk, who cares what he believes, at least once or twice. Then you can at least make an informed decision. Lots of Divinity majors are good guys.

Is anyone else sick and tired of all the Superhero movies?

zeuser comments on Apr 25, 2018:

Hell no! This is comic book heaven for all of us who only dreamed of this kind of fx as kids. Some are better than others, but I go see them all!

Christian Whose Rapture Prediction Failed Now Says It’ll Happen Later This Year – Friendly ...

zeuser comments on Apr 25, 2018:

Get good odds, bet big money. If you lose, hey, it's the rapture, you know? The guy won't be there to collect. If you win and get any static about payment, sue.

The Amish community has very nice people.

zeuser comments on Apr 24, 2018:

I like it. I've personally staked a lot on being able to come up with a cheesy joke, and yours was better than cheesy. Respect. ?

When I was in public High School, my guidance counselor was a Catholic Priest.

zeuser comments on Apr 24, 2018:

When I was in Catholic high school, my guidance counselor was a nun. I had pretty much figured out where I was going to college, and her influence was non existent. So that sounds similar. It turned out ok, but no thanks to the nun.

So I've begun another relationship with a very attractive & smart man.

zeuser comments on Apr 24, 2018:

It's always good, though rarely accomplished, to establish clear expectations at the beginning of a relationship. It doesn't have to be deadly serious, but a few simple questions now will either put your mind at ease, or avoid trouble down the road. You seem to have some of those questions, and you probably should ask them sooner rather than later. Good luck! A new romance is always such a rush. ?

The Agnostic Treadmill

zeuser comments on Apr 24, 2018:

Agnostic.com levels are harder, cuz Dante's work is fiction. What do I win? ?

Musicals!!!

zeuser comments on Apr 24, 2018:

Evita. I loved it, still do. Pippin was good too. I'm probably dating myself here.

Has anyone got up and left a meeting while you spoke?

zeuser comments on Apr 23, 2018:

This happened to me a while ago at my work. It was a meeting to prioritize the work my group did with representatives of the user and testing communities. The user representative was a plain old bully who liked to change the subject when challenged. I out-prepared her one time, and when she objected to decisions we had already just made at the meeting, I offered to reopen the discussions. She didn't like that, and walked out of the meeting in a huff. That's different than your situation, and for me it was very satisfying.

Do you responsibly avoid sharing misinformation?

zeuser comments on Apr 23, 2018:

If I had a nickel for every hoax I've verified as false and corrected with a link to just Snopes, I'd have enough for a nice lobster dinner. People are gullible, but they do try to be helpful. Those are fertile conditions for the spread of misinformation.

Well this pretty much says it all, doesn't it?

zeuser comments on Apr 23, 2018:

The assumption underlying this is that there is one objective standard of maturity. I doubt that. This is a general statement applied to ALL boys and ALL girls, and it describes a process that is quite different for each person regardless of gender. So while you can make the case that girls mature differently than boys, you can also make the case that each person matures differenrtly than any other person. Having said that, SOME boys are allowed to engage in sophomoric behavior way too long, but so are some girls, IMHO. You get into trouble when you generalize.

Parents: Do you use punishment?

zeuser comments on Apr 23, 2018:

I held my kids accountable by suspending priveleges, and stuff like that. It wasn't to punish, because you're right, that doesn't work. But it reinforced the notion that actions have consequences, which is important to keep in mind for anyone. They turned out all right, both have jobs and live good lives. They were both here for dinner last night.

Why do we fall in love?

zeuser comments on Apr 23, 2018:

It always seems like a good idea at the time. Sometimes, it is. Other times, it's a disaster. Hard to tell which it's going to be at the beginning. But it's not something you decide, it's a feeling, and you can't really control those.

I was born fourth generation Mormon.

zeuser comments on Apr 23, 2018:

Good for you, partner! Don't worry about the past, nothing you can do about it now anyway. And remember, science is true whether you believe in it or not.

Evolution operates on populations of species, each having a range of traits.

zeuser comments on Apr 22, 2018:

Well, the principle is natural selection, that individuals with traits conducive to survival replicate more readily and lead to more individuals with those traits. So an individual produced with a productive trait that might be based on evolution can propogate that trait. Right?

Wonderful events!

zeuser comments on Apr 22, 2018:

That you can take the same pile of raw vegetables, spices and meats and just based on the way you prepare them can create a number of different and delicious meals. To me, that's magic.

Free will means you make your own choices based on nothing but the information you receive and your ...

zeuser comments on Apr 22, 2018:

Your life is yours to live as you see fit. You can rely on rationality, reason, logic and facts, or you can rely on faith, or some combination of the two to inform your decisions. Whether you think you have free will or not, you do. Circumstances can change your situation, but ultimately what you do is your choice.

How about Synchronicity?

zeuser comments on Apr 21, 2018:

Well, I've learned that shit like this can happen. I chalk it up to experience.

Do you think, like gambling and smoking, this site should carry an addiction warning?

zeuser comments on Apr 21, 2018:

Honestly, you could market the site based on the warning alone. I'm ok with it. ?

Lost in Translation

zeuser comments on Apr 21, 2018:

It's hard to project context accurately in a written message medium. People make inferences based on their own interpretations. If you find more than one person who miss your meaning, it can be a coincidence, but it doesn't hurt to strive for more clarity when you write. If you are doing the best you can, blow off that kind of response as not your fault.. Communion has two ends, sending and receiving. You can only do so much at your end, the rest it's up to the other guy.

Thinking about LEVELS...

zeuser comments on Apr 21, 2018:

I can't tell if this is on the level. LOL

How do you handle rude people when you've tried your best to accommodate them?

zeuser comments on Apr 20, 2018:

I disengage. You get to a point where further engagement is pointless.

Which is worse?

zeuser comments on Apr 20, 2018:

Further away seems worse. You can aways start up again with someone close by, but it's been my experience that in spite of promises to stay in touch, it usually only happens via facebook, if at all, with friends who move away.

Do you have wonderful ex or current in-laws?

zeuser comments on Apr 20, 2018:

I only have my sister in law, her husband, and my two nephews (once someone calls me uncle, that person is always my nephew, or niece, though I don't have a niece). The boys (well, the men really) are in different places geographically, but when either or both are in town, there is a meal somewhere with all involved. My former SOL in particular has been very helpful in stepping in as a surrogate for my kids when I and my ex had difficulties connecting with them. So I guess that counts. My nephew and his wife just had a little boy, and I can't wait to see him.

Just wanted to share my good news with you all.

zeuser comments on Apr 20, 2018:

Good for you! If I were close to your pharmacy, I'd make sure you would be the one to sell me blood pressure pills.

If you were forced to put together an atheist "church" service on Sunday, what would your "sermon"...

zeuser comments on Apr 20, 2018:

It would be a good chance to try out any standup material I might have. Some religious sermons are unintentionally hilarious (to me at least), so I think it would be good to drop the pretense and just try to be funny. Think how George Carlin ( a favorite from another thread here ) would go about it. It would be something to aspire to, at least.

When is too late to start looking for a life partner?

zeuser comments on Apr 20, 2018:

Maybe it's never too late, but I can see a case where it might not be a bad idea to take a break. You can want something so much that it can cloud your judgment and lead to bad decisions. That would be a good opportunity to stop for a bit and reassess your motivations. But not because it's "too late".

What is a good reason to be happy?

zeuser comments on Apr 19, 2018:

If nothing hurts, if you can eat and eliminate without any problems, if you have good friends, If you have enough food, a secure home, and lots of good books, those are all good reasons. I like your approach of being serious but really it's a con until you pull the gag or say the punchline, I do that myself, and yeah, it makes me happy,

Do you believe in Karma?

zeuser comments on Apr 19, 2018:

This is one of those things that I wish was true. It would be immensely satisfying if there was some guarantee of ultimate justice. But I don't think it exists as a separate agency making sure everybody gets what they deserve. How would that work, exactly? Who or what decides that someone deserves one thing or another without a value judgment of some kind? Nope, nice fantasy idea, just not true.

So you're invited to a masquerade party! What statement would your costume make about you?

zeuser comments on Apr 18, 2018:

When I was younger, ingesting certain fungi beforehand made this sort of thing enjoyable. I never wore a costume, but I always had a helluva time.

I couldn't agree more!

zeuser comments on Apr 18, 2018:

Oh my. Yeah, you're right.

OKAY.

zeuser comments on Apr 17, 2018:

Every so often, you just gotta book.

"You should always keep an open mind, but not so open that your brains fall out.

zeuser comments on Apr 17, 2018:

In the same spirit as your mantra, I offer this. You have to stand for something, or you'll fall for anything. Also, never ever let them see you sweat.

Today is a rare day for me.

zeuser comments on Apr 17, 2018:

Oh hell yeah. Everyone has a boiling point. Nice glass of wine, some of the herb, and straight ahead jazz. Forget about all the jackwagons and douche canoes and roll it out smooooth.

Does this point of view seem rational? does it offend you?

zeuser comments on Apr 17, 2018:

It's all good if all parties aren't acting like assholes, and don't restrict your right to your own opinion or practice. Makes the world go round, you know?

Quick questions... or maybe not... How does everyone feel about marriage?

zeuser comments on Apr 17, 2018:

Just like anything else, people can abuse marriage and use it as a tool of exploitation. The best case is a partnership where affection and a sense of shared purpose and responsibility make two more than the sum of the individuals participating. There are many many versions of worst cases. It depends on you and your spouse, really.

Well this should be interesting. What is bothering you today?

zeuser comments on Apr 17, 2018:

I'm drowning in paper. My filling (or lack of it) always looms over me. I take care of most of my business without any trouble. Organizing the steady stream of incoming is always an issue.

I would like to thank all the members who responded to my previous post regarding the passing of my ...

zeuser comments on Apr 17, 2018:

You're more than welcome, brother. You know where to find us.

Well in my humble opinion, of course without intending to offend anyone who thinks differently from ...

zeuser comments on Apr 16, 2018:

No, no, you got it right!

Why does it seem that some people go out of their way to be unpleasant?

zeuser comments on Apr 16, 2018:

That's the only way a lot of folks know how to roll. Wish it was different.

Where does the other sock ever go? Is there a sock black hole?

zeuser comments on Apr 16, 2018:

You find a lot of them when you move, but not all of them. Just get more socks.

How do you deal with the death of a son? Last thursday I lost my son (Age 32)

zeuser comments on Apr 16, 2018:

Oh no, I am so sorry. It's gotta be very hard, my sympathy to you and all who knew and loved your son. Cherish the memories. ♥

Do you get visits from missionaries often?

zeuser comments on Apr 14, 2018:

Three or four times a year. I get calls from people who want to fix my credit too. Same vibe, different scam.

Raising a decent human being

zeuser comments on Apr 13, 2018:

Provide resources, opportunity, guidance, responsibility with accountability, patience, and a good example.

What’s your views on the death penalty laws?

zeuser comments on Apr 12, 2018:

As long as the death penalty exists, it can and will be misapplied or applied mistakenly. I believe some acts justify it, but I can't condone the state killing in my name, even if someone richly and truly deserves it.

What, me worry?

zeuser comments on Apr 12, 2018:

If it was just me, I'd agree with you. I do worry about what I need to do for the people who rely on me. I guess responsibility can cause worry, or at least be identified as a cause. I try to not do it. Good for you that you've figured out how to let it go. I'm working on it.

Are we all tired of being classified by a color, or what???

zeuser comments on Apr 11, 2018:

This is a good approach if you are on the right side of the dominant cultural privilege. If you are holding the shitty end of the racial stick where you have to live, you view things from a somewhat different perspective. It may be childish in theory, but when it's you on the bottom for no reason other than your color, it's not theoretical. I agree with your point. Good luck getting rid of it, except in your own life, and even then it's harder than you think. The point of racial privilege it's you don't even realize when you are exerting it. I wish it wasn't that way. Lots of things I wish.

What’s your un-guilty pleasure?

zeuser comments on Apr 11, 2018:

Pizza, bud, super hero shows and movies.

Getting over someone

zeuser comments on Apr 11, 2018:

What's holding you up? Can you put a name to it? Name the problem, then think of the solution. That sounds simple, I know, and is not easy, but that's all I got hon. Some possible examples: you keep running into the person - ok, start moving in different circles; you miss the sex- ok, you know what you do; you feel betrayed - ok, try to forgive and move to new things in order to forget; you think maybe it was your fault - ok, were you gaslighted? I dunno. Fwiw.

Day-drinking....yes or no?

zeuser comments on Apr 11, 2018:

Oh hell yeah. I like to get home before it's dark, so this is my preferred method. Day drinkers are the best!

Does someone have to be college educated to be intelligent?

zeuser comments on Apr 2, 2018:

Not all colleges are the same. Not everyone has access to any college at all. Not all education happens in colleges. Intelligence and education are not the same thing. Education is the result of effort. Uneducated intelligence can be very good or very bad. So no. ?

Do you think that Burt Langcaster was an exceptional actor who deserved more recognition by the ...

zeuser comments on Apr 1, 2018:

Atlantic City was a high point. Local Hero was wonderful. Winning Oscars is, imho, overrated.

Do you like country living? For those that do, did, ? Or want to

zeuser comments on Apr 1, 2018:

I never lived in the country. I really can't say. I do like urban amenities. But I like to hear the barred owls hoot too.

Who remembers when they last seen a paper boy or girl doing a paper round ?

zeuser comments on Apr 1, 2018:

I stopped getting a physical newspaper maybe 2 years ago, but prior to that, delivery was handled by adults throwing the news from cars. As newspapers continue to decline as viable businesses, I doubt we'll ever see paperboys or girls again.

Did I screw up?

zeuser comments on Mar 31, 2018:

No, you're good. We always let our kids enjoy the cultural pagan benefits of xtian holidays.

For all the non-whites out there, a question: Does it bother you when people inquire about your ...

zeuser comments on Mar 31, 2018:

Most people point out my resemblance to a mythological guy who delivers toys right around the winter solstice. And whole I do serve that purpose for certain family members, I do not have a North Pole cultural background. Now southern Poland, that's a different story, but the beard doesn't even register as a Polish fashion choice. ?

Why Ohio??

zeuser comments on Mar 31, 2018:

Now let me stop you right there...

Walking to work I'm approached by an woman with a pamphlet.

zeuser comments on Mar 31, 2018:

See if you can bottle it. You could sell a million, at least.

I think I have to stay away from Facebook this weekend.

zeuser comments on Mar 31, 2018:

It's easy for me to ignore the FB noise, there's a lot of it there even if it isn't Easter. I don't try to provoke anyone, although I do seem to do it by accident anyway. And I always wondered why egg nog isn't an Easter tradition. You're only allowed one kind of egg each holiday?

Should women still act like women and men like men?

zeuser comments on Mar 31, 2018:

The key word in your question is "act". Men and women shouldn't act like anything and just "be", and not worry about fulfilling anybody's expectations. Granted that's easier to say than to do for a number of folks. But you shouldn't stop being yourself just because some arbitrary set of rules makes it harder. Men have always felt insecure, women have always felt the need to be very strong. Acting in a way that denies any of it will inevitably hurt you.

Have you ever looked back on something did and wondered how you survived?

zeuser comments on Mar 30, 2018:

Oh hell yeah. I should have died 8 or 9 times, at least.

People describe me as a sinner. What is sin?

zeuser comments on Mar 30, 2018:

You got it right, brother. You know what's right and what isn't. When someone else tells you what is right or wrong, the assignment of sin is an enforcement mechanism. I don't like anyone defining my morality, and especially not with an enforcement mechanism based on a subjective definition of sin. You're on the right track here. ?

Do you want a funeral, or a celebration of your life?

zeuser comments on Mar 30, 2018:

I told my kids to surprise me.

I recently bought a crock-pot and learning to use it.

zeuser comments on Mar 30, 2018:

I make a very good posole in the Crock-Pot, that isn't that hard, it's good and hearty, and you can spice it up quite a bit. Here's an easy one, take pork loin and put it in the crock pot with a can of root beer, let it cook on low for 5 or 6 hours, remove, shred, and serve with your favorite BBQ sauce and Cole slaw on an onion roll.

Favorite pholilosophere?

zeuser comments on Mar 30, 2018:

Heidegger, Husserl, Sartre, Pierce. Phenomenologists, an existentialist, and a pragmatist. Sounds like the beginning of a joke, if you got them walking into a bar. ?

Do you agree or disagree?

zeuser comments on Mar 30, 2018:

They hype it as the greatest story ever told. But it's a story. And not even that great, if you ask me.

How do you know what they wrote in the bible,koran and the bagavate gita is all true ?

zeuser comments on Mar 30, 2018:

You don't, but you can use your own logic to see the problems with the myths and suggested timelines. Most older scripture, regardless of the faith, it's based on oral tradition, politically manipulated at some point to support the actions of those in power. Other newer scripture, relying on the angel Maroni or alien thetans for their delivery, are just plain ridiculous on their face.

Should an athiest or agnostic be a god parent?

zeuser comments on Mar 30, 2018:

I wouldn't do it if someone asked. So far, that hasn't happened, so this is a hypothetical for me.

I have a cousin whom I love dearly.

zeuser comments on Mar 29, 2018:

I'd tell her what she wants to hear, just to make her feel better, the do what you can by conventional means.

Are you patient?

zeuser comments on Mar 29, 2018:

I modify my behavior so it looks like I'm patient, but I do seethe internally when something goes on for what seems like forever. Does that count?

Sex, fine food or good company?

zeuser comments on Mar 29, 2018:

Is it gourmet pizza? Then the food.

Do You Have a Phobia?

zeuser comments on Mar 29, 2018:

Acrophobia. I got zero sense of balance and wobble on a 2 foot high step stool.

How fast do you drive in a 35 mph zone?

zeuser comments on Mar 29, 2018:

40, it's easy to get to 35 if you see a cruiser.

What is the plural of Jesus?

zeuser comments on Mar 29, 2018:

Jedi, no?

Why are men so afraid of meeting face to face on online dating?

zeuser comments on Mar 29, 2018:

Well, suggesting a meeting immediately gets withdrawal, in my experience. Plus, now don't judge me, I expect to pay for whatever happens at the first meeting, and most of the ones so far have resulted in very little chemistry. So I'm careful.

Heart breaker..

zeuser comments on Mar 28, 2018:

Back in 1980. No, she married someone else, so did I, and that was that.

Every time I say good bye to my now 95 year old dad it wrenches my heart.

zeuser comments on Mar 28, 2018:

I'm in a similar spot. My dad's 93, I am about 10 hours away by car. I call him every day and usually visit 3 times a year. Could only make it once in 2017 due to my on life demands, though I am traveling up for a 2 week stay starting next week. My mom is gone, all his brothers and sisters are gone, all my mom's brothers and sisters are gone, I am an only child, and when you get to 93, most of your friends and neighbors are already in the ground. It's rough.

Can a guy have a female best friend and sex never enter the frame?

zeuser comments on Mar 28, 2018:

Well, friendship is one thing, being a best friend is something else. I have several female friends without the benefit of sex. I don't consider any of them my best friend. YMMV

I gotta know.

zeuser comments on Mar 27, 2018:

I spit when I need to spit. If I spit indoors, I do it in a sink or a toilet. Outside, a sink or toilet may not always be available when the need arises. I prefer to spit in a natural area, but will spit in the street if I must. Y'all need to deal with that. ?

Would you date a woman that had sex on the first date?

zeuser comments on Mar 27, 2018:

Turned out ok for me. *Ahem*

Why do people say, "I have been to every corner of the world", when the earth is round?

zeuser comments on Mar 27, 2018:

Not if you look at it on a map. A map of the world has corners.

Since my mid forties, I have found myself becoming progressively more of an introvert.

zeuser comments on Mar 27, 2018:

The older you get, the more you realize all the ways things can go wrong if you interact with anyone. It makes you a bit more introspective and cautious before you engage with people. That's not being an introvert, and it certainly isn't insane.