There's no denying that being around like minded people gives you a sense of peace. No one wants to have to justify themselves constantly. I'm glad you found a group you can relate to... but I hear you about wanting that one special person. I do too.... and he just hasn't stumbled into my viewfinder. Meanwhile I have you people

@TheoryNumber3 I feel the same way. I live in a very small, very religious community and most often when I meet someone their first question is "What church do you go to?" At first I would respond with "I don't" but that only led to endless invitations to "their church" Then I began saying "I'm atheist." because I was irritated and tired of invitations, but that led to mostly either stunned silence or prayers for me. It also served to alienate me right off the bat, and in a small town, it doesn't rub off easily or quickly. One time, I had a neighbor gluing Bible verses to my front door. So now, I answer, "I don't because it's not my belief system, but thank you." I've been here 5 years and still don't have what I would consider a friend - someone to hang out with on a regular basis, but I am "friendly" with certain folks. It's been a lot better since joining the local Democrats club and I'm hoping to build some friendships there. This is only my second day here, but I am grateful and hopeful about making some meaningful connections. Thanks for your comment! I enjoy reading your contributions here.

@JustAskMe Well welcome to the group, Patti. Thank you for your kind words. I'm not sure I could live in a situation like yours but you're right... the best way to make friends is to hang around with like minded people. I live in a town that tends to be very white and very christian also....fortunately not as challenging as your situation... there are pockets of secular progressives that I've managed to find, so I try to cultivate friendships within those groups.

I'm glad you're enjoying the discussions. It's nice to have a forum like this where we can talk about our unique issues as introverts with people who "get it".

I can relate. Alcoholism took my husband as well

Yes, but you already know how to climb it, right?

@TheoryNumber3 Of course. I've got some distance to cover to catch up but I'm confident that I'll get there.

I know... but I have to believe it's possible (she said wistfully)

I think it's an humble conclusion...shows a nice person's mind. We learn from that, at least.

Well I can't argue with that. Except that I can't bury myself in my work, cause I'm retired.

I've had way too many of those disappointing first dates.... Nice guys, but not the one I was hoping for. The older you get, the more difficult it is. Most of the men I meet are looking for either someone who is exactly like their deceased wife, or nothing like the witch they divorced

@TheoryNumber3 I totally agree !! Even if I'm 51 I can see the difference. Recently divorced men want to "party" ( I don't blame them). But my own "partying" is done...maybe a widower.