Hi! I am new & this is my 1st post. I am a non-shy, introvert. I just read an interesting article on Introvert Hangover here - [sciencealert.com] [ I hope it's OK to add this link, I couldn't get the Community Guidelines to open so I could read them.]
It was interesting for me because I am a shy introvert, but my husband is a extrovert. So it kind of gives me a better understanding about him. He doesn't get me and that's very irritating sometimes... ?
Interesting article. It seems to me there are quite a lot of us non-shy introverts in this group so maybe that is the norm. With regard to parties, if I have to go, I make sure I arrive rather late when everyone has had a few drinks, make sure that the most gossipy people i know see that I am there, have a few words with my host, then sneak out again and go home. I simply can't do small talk and get criticised for having real conversations and 'monopolising' people.I was brought up to behave well so I am always polite and friendly, but I really don't like a lot of social interaction except with my few close friends.
That's a great article. I agree with everything that was said. I'm also fairly social. I don't dislike people, which is the common belief about introverts. But I find them exhausting in groups. I cannot process a lot of simultaneous stimuli. I can't have a conversation in a noisy environment. I can't stand loud music in restaurants. And I absolutely have to sit at the end of the row and the outside seat in a booth. Always planning my escape The most torturous thing for me to have to attend is a party in someone's house, because I feel obligated to stay and talk to people for a few hours. Oh the horror!
Yes, parties are a drag. Especially when your best friend carts you off to meet their newest friends and you have absolutely no interest in them or natural connection to them. Ugh...
I've had to Chair some big campus committees for the past 4 years and I'm definitely going to shrink into nothingness or into a garden, whichever comes first ha ha!
That's it. I am a non shy introvert never understanding my social anxiety. Thank you for the link & welcome.
It is after a social event that my mind begins running thru evey minor detail that I might have stumbled. So I avoid those social situations. Just going to the grocery store is examined profusely. I will go but if I can delegate to someone else, I do so.
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