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Omen6Actual comments on Aug 30, 2018:
If there's hair, I ain't going down there. I'm not a Vietnam vet, I don't do jungles.
Barnie2years replies on Aug 31, 2018:
Says the guy with a beard!
Omen6Actual comments on Aug 30, 2018:
If there's hair, I ain't going down there. I'm not a Vietnam vet, I don't do jungles.
Barnie2years replies on Aug 31, 2018:
Says the guy with a beard!
Can someone explain golfing to me?
Barnie2years comments on Aug 29, 2018:
Golf is a game of self mental control. Even if you are playing in a group, how you play is determined by your own mindset. Each time you step up to the ball, no matter how well you hit it the the last time, how well your game has gone to that moment, your immediate concentration will determine how ...
Barnie2years replies on Aug 29, 2018:
@Qualia That's the challenge. I used to play, just because my parents played and it was a way to spend time together. You can go out one day and do great, go out a day later and look like you never played the game before. It really is a mind control game.
Barnie2years comments on Aug 29, 2018:
Golf is a game of self mental control. Even if you are playing in a group, how you play is determined by your own mindset. Each time you step up to the ball, no matter how well you hit it the the last time, how well your game has gone to that moment, your immediate concentration will determine how ...
Barnie2years replies on Aug 29, 2018:
@Qualia That's the challenge. I used to play, just because my parents played and it was a way to spend time together. You can go out one day and do great, go out a day later and look like you never played the game before. It really is a mind control game.
Masturbation
Yeah...that got your attention didn't it?
peterbenson55 comments on Aug 27, 2018:
How do you get to level 2 ? Thanks peter
Barnie2years replies on Aug 27, 2018:
Masturbate at least once or twice a week! ?
peterbenson55 comments on Aug 27, 2018:
How do you get to level 2 ? Thanks peter
Barnie2years replies on Aug 27, 2018:
Masturbate at least once or twice a week! ?
To reuse or not to reuse, that is the question.
kiramea comments on Aug 23, 2018:
My last husband used to work at a landfill company in Houston, TX. You would not believe some of the stuff he would bring home. For example:
1)For several years my daughter and son was clothed by the new clothes he would bring home. We were told that stores would rather trash them than give them ...
Barnie2years replies on Aug 25, 2018:
My mother in law used to do a lot of her Christmas shopping in the dumpsters behind retail stores. A lot of it was good stuff, maybe a button missing or a small tear. But a lot had nothing wrong with it.
kiramea comments on Aug 23, 2018:
My last husband used to work at a landfill company in Houston, TX. You would not believe some of the stuff he would bring home. For example:
1)For several years my daughter and son was clothed by the new clothes he would bring home. We were told that stores would rather trash them than give them ...
Barnie2years replies on Aug 25, 2018:
My mother in law used to do a lot of her Christmas shopping in the dumpsters behind retail stores. A lot of it was good stuff, maybe a button missing or a small tear. But a lot had nothing wrong with it.
Purely stupid stuff /pet peeves of daily life.
Livia comments on Aug 16, 2018:
Hmmm, have you ever watched Falling Down? It’s about a very peeved man.
Barnie2years replies on Aug 24, 2018:
@Livia, You’re right, and I often get words screwed up by auto text or just by not proof reading before I post. The ONLY reason I brought it up here is because he was mocking others for doing exactly what he did. If you read his rant in the post, you will see this missive: “Using 'effect' when one means 'affect', is an example. I only have about a 9th grade formal education, if that, and I know better. (I wouldn't have been much of a journalist if I hadn't!) How do some people get a High School diploma.” If you are going to criticize others, maybe be more aware of your own failures.
Livia comments on Aug 16, 2018:
Hmmm, have you ever watched Falling Down? It’s about a very peeved man.
Barnie2years replies on Aug 24, 2018:
@Livia, You’re right, and I often get words screwed up by auto text or just by not proof reading before I post. The ONLY reason I brought it up here is because he was mocking others for doing exactly what he did. If you read his rant in the post, you will see this missive: “Using 'effect' when one means 'affect', is an example. I only have about a 9th grade formal education, if that, and I know better. (I wouldn't have been much of a journalist if I hadn't!) How do some people get a High School diploma.” If you are going to criticize others, maybe be more aware of your own failures.
I was talking to a man at work who had questions about my atheism.
lerlo comments on Aug 22, 2018:
Yep, the problem of evil gets them every time. Any god that lets little kids be born into starvation in India is not someone I want to pray to. Either he's all knowing and all powerful or he's not. If god is all that and allows it, god is bad. If god has no power, he gets no prayers
Barnie2years replies on Aug 23, 2018:
Hey, he’s too busy helping ball teams win games, people choose the right car, picking which little old lady win the bingo game or get a couple of bucks out of the slot machines! How can he be expected to save children from abuse, women from torture and rape, or people from being shot in churches as they pray!
lerlo comments on Aug 22, 2018:
Yep, the problem of evil gets them every time. Any god that lets little kids be born into starvation in India is not someone I want to pray to. Either he's all knowing and all powerful or he's not. If god is all that and allows it, god is bad. If god has no power, he gets no prayers
Barnie2years replies on Aug 23, 2018:
Hey, he’s too busy helping ball teams win games, people choose the right car, picking which little old lady win the bingo game or get a couple of bucks out of the slot machines! How can he be expected to save children from abuse, women from torture and rape, or people from being shot in churches as they pray!
Is living together an acceptable alternative to marriage?
Barnie2years comments on Aug 23, 2018:
I have been married three times, divorced three times. I have never been with someone who just wanted to live together. My last wife and I cohabited for about two years while my previous wife was holding us hostage to try and squeeze a better financial settlement for herself. But there were visa ...
Barnie2years replies on Aug 23, 2018:
@Marine, does it matter? I have found that more often than not, every failed marriage has two stories, often vastly different. The first we were too young, the second was an inability to communicate in positive ways (lasted 20+ years anyway), the last was DOA before it happened, but accomplished what we set out to do; keeping a bright young boy in this country so he could have a better chance of a great future. Answer your question? Fear of being alone is a really creepy reason to stay married, let alone get married, regardless of how much family you have around you.
Barnie2years comments on Aug 23, 2018:
I have been married three times, divorced three times. I have never been with someone who just wanted to live together. My last wife and I cohabited for about two years while my previous wife was holding us hostage to try and squeeze a better financial settlement for herself. But there were visa ...
Barnie2years replies on Aug 23, 2018:
@Marine, does it matter? I have found that more often than not, every failed marriage has two stories, often vastly different. The first we were too young, the second was an inability to communicate in positive ways (lasted 20+ years anyway), the last was DOA before it happened, but accomplished what we set out to do; keeping a bright young boy in this country so he could have a better chance of a great future. Answer your question? Fear of being alone is a really creepy reason to stay married, let alone get married, regardless of how much family you have around you.
To reuse or not to reuse, that is the question.
CrazyQuilter comments on Aug 22, 2018:
I totally support reusing and buying second hand. But, my ex came from a long line of hoarders. It's a slippery slope saving everything in case it might be useful. They had 4 generations worth of junk and just kept putting up 40x30ft buildings to house it in. They had so much junk they couldn't ...
Barnie2years replies on Aug 22, 2018:
I’ve known people like that! Homes looked like unkept antique shops, though most of the stuff had no real value.
CrazyQuilter comments on Aug 22, 2018:
I totally support reusing and buying second hand. But, my ex came from a long line of hoarders. It's a slippery slope saving everything in case it might be useful. They had 4 generations worth of junk and just kept putting up 40x30ft buildings to house it in. They had so much junk they couldn't ...
Barnie2years replies on Aug 22, 2018:
I’ve known people like that! Homes looked like unkept antique shops, though most of the stuff had no real value.
Purely stupid stuff /pet peeves of daily life.
Livia comments on Aug 16, 2018:
Hmmm, have you ever watched Falling Down? It’s about a very peeved man.
Barnie2years replies on Aug 22, 2018:
@Junkman, you go on a rant about spelling, then use “herd” for heard, looksee (not a word). Elbows on the table? Personal problem. Growing up in Europe you keep both forearms on the table, knife in the right hand, fork in the left, most of the meal.
Livia comments on Aug 16, 2018:
Hmmm, have you ever watched Falling Down? It’s about a very peeved man.
Barnie2years replies on Aug 22, 2018:
@Junkman, you go on a rant about spelling, then use “herd” for heard, looksee (not a word). Elbows on the table? Personal problem. Growing up in Europe you keep both forearms on the table, knife in the right hand, fork in the left, most of the meal.
Simultaneously Fighting for Secular Government and LGBTQ Rights - TheHumanist.com
jlynn37 comments on Aug 18, 2018:
VOTE in the Nov. elections. That is the only way things will either change or continue as is. This USA will be what the MAJORITY of VOTERS want it to be.
Barnie2years replies on Aug 22, 2018:
The key word in your statement is VOTERS! If only 50% or less of people vote, it only requires 26% or less of those voters to be religious bigots, white supremists, or Nazi sympathizers for our freedoms to be lost. And the government works very hard to get their voters out, puting polling places in churches, senior residences, and other places to make it most convenient for the wealthiest and faithful to cast ballots.
jlynn37 comments on Aug 18, 2018:
VOTE in the Nov. elections. That is the only way things will either change or continue as is. This USA will be what the MAJORITY of VOTERS want it to be.
Barnie2years replies on Aug 22, 2018:
The key word in your statement is VOTERS! If only 50% or less of people vote, it only requires 26% or less of those voters to be religious bigots, white supremists, or Nazi sympathizers for our freedoms to be lost. And the government works very hard to get their voters out, puting polling places in churches, senior residences, and other places to make it most convenient for the wealthiest and faithful to cast ballots.
This is for the ladies for your man what is the facial hair that you want.
LionMousePudding comments on Aug 10, 2018:
I hate to kiss a beard. It feels lousy on my face and God knows what's in it. And it hurts my lady bits.
Barnie2years replies on Aug 20, 2018:
I can shave!
LionMousePudding comments on Aug 10, 2018:
I hate to kiss a beard. It feels lousy on my face and God knows what's in it. And it hurts my lady bits.
Barnie2years replies on Aug 20, 2018:
I can shave!
Yes it will with the right person that is.
Marionville comments on Aug 20, 2018:
“To thine ownself be true”.....this is a quote from Shakespeare’s Hamlet that I have always remembered. We owe it to ourselves not to let others change that which makes us who we are. To quote Shakespeare again....”Let me not to the marriage of true minds admit impediment, love is not love...
Barnie2years replies on Aug 20, 2018:
I would question the idea that our inner selves don’t change. Depending our age at the start of the relationship, they can change dramatically, at times faster and more pronounced than the outward changes. If the couple change in opposite directions, chances are the conflict will cause a chasm too deep to sustain.
Marionville comments on Aug 20, 2018:
“To thine ownself be true”.....this is a quote from Shakespeare’s Hamlet that I have always remembered. We owe it to ourselves not to let others change that which makes us who we are. To quote Shakespeare again....”Let me not to the marriage of true minds admit impediment, love is not love...
Barnie2years replies on Aug 20, 2018:
I would question the idea that our inner selves don’t change. Depending our age at the start of the relationship, they can change dramatically, at times faster and more pronounced than the outward changes. If the couple change in opposite directions, chances are the conflict will cause a chasm too deep to sustain.
What has been the weirdest or worst response you have received from telling someone you are an ...
Kriptikos comments on Aug 19, 2018:
Getting told I couldn’t foster dogs anymore with the foster group I had been with for a year. They praised me up till then. But it turned out to be a good thing as I help out with a better foster program now, with nice people. :-)
Barnie2years replies on Aug 19, 2018:
Because the dogs were all Christian and you would have been a bad influence on them? ? That’s nuts!
Kriptikos comments on Aug 19, 2018:
Getting told I couldn’t foster dogs anymore with the foster group I had been with for a year. They praised me up till then. But it turned out to be a good thing as I help out with a better foster program now, with nice people. :-)
Barnie2years replies on Aug 19, 2018:
Because the dogs were all Christian and you would have been a bad influence on them? ? That’s nuts!
Just got done reading this article posted by Planned Patenthood.
jlynn37 comments on Aug 18, 2018:
I purchased and used for a few years a "Fleshlight" and it was an acceptable substitute being by yourself.
Barnie2years replies on Aug 18, 2018:
@jlynn37 given how well the company is doing, you are not alone!
jlynn37 comments on Aug 18, 2018:
I purchased and used for a few years a "Fleshlight" and it was an acceptable substitute being by yourself.
Barnie2years replies on Aug 18, 2018:
@jlynn37 given how well the company is doing, you are not alone!
Just got done reading this article posted by Planned Patenthood.
jlynn37 comments on Aug 18, 2018:
I purchased and used for a few years a "Fleshlight" and it was an acceptable substitute being by yourself.
Barnie2years replies on Aug 18, 2018:
It helps remind me kind of what a vulva looks and feels like! But no substitute for the real thing.
jlynn37 comments on Aug 18, 2018:
I purchased and used for a few years a "Fleshlight" and it was an acceptable substitute being by yourself.
Barnie2years replies on Aug 18, 2018:
It helps remind me kind of what a vulva looks and feels like! But no substitute for the real thing.
Just got done reading this article posted by Planned Patenthood.
Renickulous comments on Aug 18, 2018:
Planned parenthood? Looks like buzzfeed to me
Barnie2years replies on Aug 18, 2018:
Not sure where the English comprehension problem is coming in? The article was posted on Planned Parenthood Facebook page.
Renickulous comments on Aug 18, 2018:
Planned parenthood? Looks like buzzfeed to me
Barnie2years replies on Aug 18, 2018:
Not sure where the English comprehension problem is coming in? The article was posted on Planned Parenthood Facebook page.
Just got done reading this article posted by Planned Patenthood.
Minta79 comments on Aug 18, 2018:
I totally need a job at a sex shop now, because answering the question "what do you do for a living" with "slinging dils to pay the bills" would be amazing.
To answer your questions: I am a sex toy user, I have been to shops and ordered online both are fine, I have bought them on my own and with...
Barnie2years replies on Aug 18, 2018:
Thank you for your recommendation!
Minta79 comments on Aug 18, 2018:
I totally need a job at a sex shop now, because answering the question "what do you do for a living" with "slinging dils to pay the bills" would be amazing.
To answer your questions: I am a sex toy user, I have been to shops and ordered online both are fine, I have bought them on my own and with...
Barnie2years replies on Aug 18, 2018:
Thank you for your recommendation!
Just got done reading this article posted by Planned Patenthood.
Renickulous comments on Aug 18, 2018:
Planned parenthood? Looks like buzzfeed to me
Barnie2years replies on Aug 18, 2018:
It was posted on a Planned Parenthood Facebook feed.
Renickulous comments on Aug 18, 2018:
Planned parenthood? Looks like buzzfeed to me
Barnie2years replies on Aug 18, 2018:
It was posted on a Planned Parenthood Facebook feed.
Just got done reading this article posted by Planned Patenthood.
coralisthree comments on Aug 18, 2018:
Also, shops are easier to go in to if it's not super sleezy like some are
Barnie2years replies on Aug 18, 2018:
There are definitely variations in the quality of shops depending on where you live. Here in Lancaster they are kind of shabby. I think that discourages many people from going in.
coralisthree comments on Aug 18, 2018:
Also, shops are easier to go in to if it's not super sleezy like some are
Barnie2years replies on Aug 18, 2018:
There are definitely variations in the quality of shops depending on where you live. Here in Lancaster they are kind of shabby. I think that discourages many people from going in.
Why America's 'nones' don't identify with a religion | Pew Research Center
Barnie2years comments on Aug 13, 2018:
I had a girlfriend who identified as Christian, but never attended church or identified as a particular sect. She believed that her interpretation of the Bible was more accurate than any denominational interpretation, so she refused to join a church. You know, because thousands of years of biblical ...
Barnie2years replies on Aug 17, 2018:
@ThisGuy I tried to explain to her that the Bible she read is so open to interpretation that it can support the thousands of self described Christian sects, from Amish to snake handlers, Catholics to tongue talkers, tent Evangelical preachers, to million dollar mega churches. So any interpretation she comes up with is probably just as valid.
Barnie2years comments on Aug 13, 2018:
I had a girlfriend who identified as Christian, but never attended church or identified as a particular sect. She believed that her interpretation of the Bible was more accurate than any denominational interpretation, so she refused to join a church. You know, because thousands of years of biblical ...
Barnie2years replies on Aug 17, 2018:
@ThisGuy I tried to explain to her that the Bible she read is so open to interpretation that it can support the thousands of self described Christian sects, from Amish to snake handlers, Catholics to tongue talkers, tent Evangelical preachers, to million dollar mega churches. So any interpretation she comes up with is probably just as valid.
Does anyone else get annoyed when you are having a discussion with a conservative about something ...
sewchick57 comments on Aug 12, 2018:
I refuse to have a battle of wits with an unarmed person. It's like trying to teach a pig to sing, it wastes your time and annoys the pig.
Barnie2years replies on Aug 17, 2018:
@ThisGuy I don’t understand their thinking, he is a nice kid in so many ways. From our conversations when I took him home after hockey games, it’s his mom that runs the roost and refuses to even speak to him, but his father still comes to occasional games with his sister and brother. But mom rules the home front.
sewchick57 comments on Aug 12, 2018:
I refuse to have a battle of wits with an unarmed person. It's like trying to teach a pig to sing, it wastes your time and annoys the pig.
Barnie2years replies on Aug 17, 2018:
@ThisGuy I don’t understand their thinking, he is a nice kid in so many ways. From our conversations when I took him home after hockey games, it’s his mom that runs the roost and refuses to even speak to him, but his father still comes to occasional games with his sister and brother. But mom rules the home front.
Does anyone else get annoyed when you are having a discussion with a conservative about something ...
birdingnut comments on Aug 12, 2018:
Yes, the alt-right do that, but people do that on this forum almost as much.
I finally learned to block people the moment they start arguing with me, ignoring my offered links and information, refusing to read them, declaring they don't "think" something is so, so it isn't.
I've blocked so ...
Barnie2years replies on Aug 17, 2018:
I have no issues with disagreements and him and I often end by agreeing to disagree, which after three marriages, is better than continuing to argue a topic neither of us is going to give up their position. In the current atmosphere of opposing facts, news, and diametrically opposed beliefs, sometime that is the best outcome to maintain any kind of relationship. I have not blocked anyone on here and very few on other networks. I just stop the conversation and let their position sink on it’s own lack of merit.
birdingnut comments on Aug 12, 2018:
Yes, the alt-right do that, but people do that on this forum almost as much.
I finally learned to block people the moment they start arguing with me, ignoring my offered links and information, refusing to read them, declaring they don't "think" something is so, so it isn't.
I've blocked so ...
Barnie2years replies on Aug 17, 2018:
I have no issues with disagreements and him and I often end by agreeing to disagree, which after three marriages, is better than continuing to argue a topic neither of us is going to give up their position. In the current atmosphere of opposing facts, news, and diametrically opposed beliefs, sometime that is the best outcome to maintain any kind of relationship. I have not blocked anyone on here and very few on other networks. I just stop the conversation and let their position sink on it’s own lack of merit.
Prostitution, how do you feel about it?
Rincewind02 comments on Aug 16, 2018:
I think that prostitution is a necessary evil. It has been around a long time but I am not in favour of women being trafficked or forced into it. The law in England is a mess, hypocrisy rules.
Barnie2years replies on Aug 16, 2018:
That is of course at least part of the problem. When you make something that people want (and I dare say, need) illegal, it opens the door to criminals stepping in to fill the need. And just as corporations hire undocumented workers because they can abuse them, so do criminal enterprises. The world is full of women looking for a way out of their situations and the criminals have the connections to abuse them. This should not happen, and even in countries with legal prostitution it does, but to a lesser degree. Women who wish to sell their service should be allowed and regulated as every other worker (strippers, groomers, beauticians, welders etc.) and traffickers should be hunted down and locked up like the scum they are.
Rincewind02 comments on Aug 16, 2018:
I think that prostitution is a necessary evil. It has been around a long time but I am not in favour of women being trafficked or forced into it. The law in England is a mess, hypocrisy rules.
Barnie2years replies on Aug 16, 2018:
That is of course at least part of the problem. When you make something that people want (and I dare say, need) illegal, it opens the door to criminals stepping in to fill the need. And just as corporations hire undocumented workers because they can abuse them, so do criminal enterprises. The world is full of women looking for a way out of their situations and the criminals have the connections to abuse them. This should not happen, and even in countries with legal prostitution it does, but to a lesser degree. Women who wish to sell their service should be allowed and regulated as every other worker (strippers, groomers, beauticians, welders etc.) and traffickers should be hunted down and locked up like the scum they are.
Do you ever feel like you live in a different world to everyone else?
confidentrealm comments on Aug 13, 2018:
Yes. I do live in a different world. I'm just a spectator. I'm not participating. I get very jealous. Everybody is traveling the world while I'm ill. Seeing all their posts on facebook of beautiful places and things I will never see , I cry almost constantly. I don't understand why they get to have ...
Barnie2years replies on Aug 13, 2018:
I know it’s of little comfort, but your circle of friends are far from the norm. The world travelers are a minority really, many people never leave the town they are born in. Perhaps at one time you also traveled? If so, you have memories many will never have. I am sorry you have medical problems, I have a dear friend who is in the same boat. And she is a believer, it gives her little comfort. I wish you well, and hope you find some comfort in knowing that you are not alone in your suffering, but one of many who deal with the frailties of the human body.
confidentrealm comments on Aug 13, 2018:
Yes. I do live in a different world. I'm just a spectator. I'm not participating. I get very jealous. Everybody is traveling the world while I'm ill. Seeing all their posts on facebook of beautiful places and things I will never see , I cry almost constantly. I don't understand why they get to have ...
Barnie2years replies on Aug 13, 2018:
I know it’s of little comfort, but your circle of friends are far from the norm. The world travelers are a minority really, many people never leave the town they are born in. Perhaps at one time you also traveled? If so, you have memories many will never have. I am sorry you have medical problems, I have a dear friend who is in the same boat. And she is a believer, it gives her little comfort. I wish you well, and hope you find some comfort in knowing that you are not alone in your suffering, but one of many who deal with the frailties of the human body.
Does anyone else get annoyed when you are having a discussion with a conservative about something ...
sewchick57 comments on Aug 12, 2018:
I refuse to have a battle of wits with an unarmed person. It's like trying to teach a pig to sing, it wastes your time and annoys the pig.
Barnie2years replies on Aug 12, 2018:
@sewchick57 Even if it just makes him question his indoctrination a little bit, I feel I’ve made a positive contribution to his life!
sewchick57 comments on Aug 12, 2018:
I refuse to have a battle of wits with an unarmed person. It's like trying to teach a pig to sing, it wastes your time and annoys the pig.
Barnie2years replies on Aug 12, 2018:
@sewchick57 Even if it just makes him question his indoctrination a little bit, I feel I’ve made a positive contribution to his life!
Does anyone else get annoyed when you are having a discussion with a conservative about something ...
sewchick57 comments on Aug 12, 2018:
I refuse to have a battle of wits with an unarmed person. It's like trying to teach a pig to sing, it wastes your time and annoys the pig.
Barnie2years replies on Aug 12, 2018:
I normally don’t with strangers. But I like this kid, and he is forthright in expressing himself. Sometimes he even acknowledges that some of the things I tell him make a little crack in his conservative armor. So I keep throwing logic at him until he calls a cease fire. (Let’s just agree to disagree!)
sewchick57 comments on Aug 12, 2018:
I refuse to have a battle of wits with an unarmed person. It's like trying to teach a pig to sing, it wastes your time and annoys the pig.
Barnie2years replies on Aug 12, 2018:
I normally don’t with strangers. But I like this kid, and he is forthright in expressing himself. Sometimes he even acknowledges that some of the things I tell him make a little crack in his conservative armor. So I keep throwing logic at him until he calls a cease fire. (Let’s just agree to disagree!)
Can men and women just be friends?
EddieFelson comments on Aug 1, 2018:
I think this captures it. https://youtu.be/T_lh5fR4DMA
Barnie2years replies on Aug 11, 2018:
Why does the possibility of having sex or having had sex preclude being friends? The fact that if the woman wanted sex at some point does not mean you could no longer be friends does it? And many of the women have friends that they don’t have sex with, even though they could, meaning the guys are not pushing it either. Are female friends less friends just because at some point in time you could have a sexual relationship with them too?
EddieFelson comments on Aug 1, 2018:
I think this captures it. https://youtu.be/T_lh5fR4DMA
Barnie2years replies on Aug 11, 2018:
Why does the possibility of having sex or having had sex preclude being friends? The fact that if the woman wanted sex at some point does not mean you could no longer be friends does it? And many of the women have friends that they don’t have sex with, even though they could, meaning the guys are not pushing it either. Are female friends less friends just because at some point in time you could have a sexual relationship with them too?
Men/Women, Is sex a requirement for an enjoyable romantic relationship?
daylily comments on Aug 7, 2018:
One feature about the site here that I wish was more like facebook, would be having the ability to follow a post. I'd really like to come back to this one! In short though, my personal belief and preference would definitely be for a (regularly) sexually intimate relationship.
Barnie2years replies on Aug 10, 2018:
If you Favorite it at the end of the post next to the like, you can easily come back to it.
daylily comments on Aug 7, 2018:
One feature about the site here that I wish was more like facebook, would be having the ability to follow a post. I'd really like to come back to this one! In short though, my personal belief and preference would definitely be for a (regularly) sexually intimate relationship.
Barnie2years replies on Aug 10, 2018:
If you Favorite it at the end of the post next to the like, you can easily come back to it.
Casual relationship
LiterateHiker comments on May 31, 2018:
Being exclusive does not mean a committed relationship. You are not sleeping with other people.
For three years, I jokingly called a man "my f-ck buddy." Neither of us were sleeping with anyone else. To my surprise, he asked me to marry him. Although he was an extraordinary lover, I don't ...
Barnie2years replies on Aug 10, 2018:
I have never had one of those! I have the other kind, the "no fuck buddy!" We can do anything but have an intimate relationship: dinner, movie, hike, conversation, but don't touch.
LiterateHiker comments on May 31, 2018:
Being exclusive does not mean a committed relationship. You are not sleeping with other people.
For three years, I jokingly called a man "my f-ck buddy." Neither of us were sleeping with anyone else. To my surprise, he asked me to marry him. Although he was an extraordinary lover, I don't ...
Barnie2years replies on Aug 10, 2018:
I have never had one of those! I have the other kind, the "no fuck buddy!" We can do anything but have an intimate relationship: dinner, movie, hike, conversation, but don't touch.
This is a major rant about men not reading profiles.
Barnie2years comments on Aug 5, 2018:
Well first let me say that As a man, I would like to apologize for those of my gender who cannot read! As a liberal with many conservative, Trump loving family members, not to mention religious, let me quickly point out that any form of respecting others beliefs by either of these groups is ...
Barnie2years replies on Aug 9, 2018:
@CaroleKay By the way, your sculptures are awesome! And you are a great looking lady. Don’t let the slime get you down!
Barnie2years comments on Aug 5, 2018:
Well first let me say that As a man, I would like to apologize for those of my gender who cannot read! As a liberal with many conservative, Trump loving family members, not to mention religious, let me quickly point out that any form of respecting others beliefs by either of these groups is ...
Barnie2years replies on Aug 9, 2018:
@CaroleKay By the way, your sculptures are awesome! And you are a great looking lady. Don’t let the slime get you down!
Bucket List
Barnie2years comments on Aug 1, 2018:
I would love to take a river cruise down the Rhine River from Amsterdam to Vienna. Also, white water rafting. If I ever actually have a partner to do them with, nothing is holding me back, other than I don’t want to do them alone.
Barnie2years replies on Aug 9, 2018:
https://www.vikingrivercruises.com/cruise-destinations/europe/grand-european-tour/2019-amsterdam-budapest/index.html
Barnie2years comments on Aug 1, 2018:
I would love to take a river cruise down the Rhine River from Amsterdam to Vienna. Also, white water rafting. If I ever actually have a partner to do them with, nothing is holding me back, other than I don’t want to do them alone.
Barnie2years replies on Aug 9, 2018:
https://www.vikingrivercruises.com/cruise-destinations/europe/grand-european-tour/2019-amsterdam-budapest/index.html
If you could live anywhere in the world, where would it be, and why aren't you there already?
Barnie2years comments on Aug 6, 2018:
I am quite happy right where I am! The Garden Spot of Pennsylvania.
Barnie2years replies on Aug 8, 2018:
@Redcupcoffee OK, I sent you some links. And as our state motto says “You’ve got a Friend in Pennsylvania!” ?
Barnie2years comments on Aug 6, 2018:
I am quite happy right where I am! The Garden Spot of Pennsylvania.
Barnie2years replies on Aug 8, 2018:
@Redcupcoffee OK, I sent you some links. And as our state motto says “You’ve got a Friend in Pennsylvania!” ?
If you could live anywhere in the world, where would it be, and why aren't you there already?
Barnie2years comments on Aug 6, 2018:
I am quite happy right where I am! The Garden Spot of Pennsylvania.
Barnie2years replies on Aug 7, 2018:
@Redcupcoffee About 50 miles northwest of Philadelphia, easy train ride. Trains that stop here go to New York and once a day to Chicago. If you look on Google Map, we are about three hours from Washington, two and a half to Baltimore or Wilmington DE. Lowest unemployment in Pennsylvania. Millersville University, F & M College, Elizabethtown College. NJ, DEL, MD beaches not too far away. Several rail trails crisscross the county. Minor league baseball team. I can send you links to tourist and Chamber of Commerce links.
Barnie2years comments on Aug 6, 2018:
I am quite happy right where I am! The Garden Spot of Pennsylvania.
Barnie2years replies on Aug 7, 2018:
@Redcupcoffee About 50 miles northwest of Philadelphia, easy train ride. Trains that stop here go to New York and once a day to Chicago. If you look on Google Map, we are about three hours from Washington, two and a half to Baltimore or Wilmington DE. Lowest unemployment in Pennsylvania. Millersville University, F & M College, Elizabethtown College. NJ, DEL, MD beaches not too far away. Several rail trails crisscross the county. Minor league baseball team. I can send you links to tourist and Chamber of Commerce links.
If you could live anywhere in the world, where would it be, and why aren't you there already?
Barnie2years comments on Aug 6, 2018:
I am quite happy right where I am! The Garden Spot of Pennsylvania.
Barnie2years replies on Aug 7, 2018:
@Redcupcoffee Just read your profile. We have a very active LGBTQ community here. We had a Gay Pride festival on one of the streets downtown. I was manning the Planned Parenthood tent for a few hours. Lots of people strolling all day, and it was a very warm day. Thought I would throw that out there if you were shopping for a place to move! ?
Barnie2years comments on Aug 6, 2018:
I am quite happy right where I am! The Garden Spot of Pennsylvania.
Barnie2years replies on Aug 7, 2018:
@Redcupcoffee Just read your profile. We have a very active LGBTQ community here. We had a Gay Pride festival on one of the streets downtown. I was manning the Planned Parenthood tent for a few hours. Lots of people strolling all day, and it was a very warm day. Thought I would throw that out there if you were shopping for a place to move! ?
If you could live anywhere in the world, where would it be, and why aren't you there already?
Barnie2years comments on Aug 6, 2018:
I am quite happy right where I am! The Garden Spot of Pennsylvania.
Barnie2years replies on Aug 7, 2018:
@Redcupcoffee Medium sized city, surrounded by family farms, many Amish and Mennonite, but many not. Fresh produce all summer, a lively art and arts community downtown. I live on a dead end street, quieter than when I lived in the countryside. I can walk to a major grocery store, restaurants, my doctors office. I am minutes from two hospitals, sports complexes (I don’t go, but I could!), movie theaters. There are still real estate bargains to be found, beautiful old homes, well kept yard, huge trees, nice parks. I moved around a lot with my parents growing up, came back here my last two years of high school and stuck!
Barnie2years comments on Aug 6, 2018:
I am quite happy right where I am! The Garden Spot of Pennsylvania.
Barnie2years replies on Aug 7, 2018:
@Redcupcoffee Medium sized city, surrounded by family farms, many Amish and Mennonite, but many not. Fresh produce all summer, a lively art and arts community downtown. I live on a dead end street, quieter than when I lived in the countryside. I can walk to a major grocery store, restaurants, my doctors office. I am minutes from two hospitals, sports complexes (I don’t go, but I could!), movie theaters. There are still real estate bargains to be found, beautiful old homes, well kept yard, huge trees, nice parks. I moved around a lot with my parents growing up, came back here my last two years of high school and stuck!
“We risk a lot by denying our connection with other animals.
Sorcha comments on Aug 5, 2018:
The video footage I saw a few days ago was heart wrenching. Early this summer, I had a pair of doves make a nest on my porch and lay 2 eggs. They would take turns sitting on them and I was so excited to have babies on the porch. I came home from work a few days shy of when they would have hatched...
Barnie2years replies on Aug 6, 2018:
Other birds raid the nests too. I had a robin nest at my place. Had four eggs, and then one day they were gone, no babies. Crows raid the nests sometimes. This is not the first time a nest in that location was raided.
Sorcha comments on Aug 5, 2018:
The video footage I saw a few days ago was heart wrenching. Early this summer, I had a pair of doves make a nest on my porch and lay 2 eggs. They would take turns sitting on them and I was so excited to have babies on the porch. I came home from work a few days shy of when they would have hatched...
Barnie2years replies on Aug 6, 2018:
Other birds raid the nests too. I had a robin nest at my place. Had four eggs, and then one day they were gone, no babies. Crows raid the nests sometimes. This is not the first time a nest in that location was raided.
My friend tagged me on FB to participate in a 7 day challenge which entails posting the cover of ...
Barnie2years comments on Aug 3, 2018:
Don’t judge, you asked for favorite! ?
Barnie2years replies on Aug 3, 2018:
@AzVixen52 Hmmmm? Quick poll: How many others have this book, and if you do, is it your favorites? Poll is not limited to men! Who is this t typical for? ?
Barnie2years comments on Aug 3, 2018:
Don’t judge, you asked for favorite! ?
Barnie2years replies on Aug 3, 2018:
@AzVixen52 Hmmmm? Quick poll: How many others have this book, and if you do, is it your favorites? Poll is not limited to men! Who is this t typical for? ?
I have had three different men pm me on POF the past two weeks.
Barnie2years comments on Aug 3, 2018:
If I could get just one or two requests for a meet up in a year or two, I sure would show up if I said I would, or if I couldn’t, I would let the person know, apologize, and try to reset the date. It has certainly not been my experience over several attempts that getting a woman to meet is like ...
Barnie2years replies on Aug 3, 2018:
@AzVixen52 I basically just stopped, closed all the accounts, and hang out here in the off chance of meeting someone of like mind. Point being, if I do make a contact and we set up a meet,you better believe I will be there! ?
Barnie2years comments on Aug 3, 2018:
If I could get just one or two requests for a meet up in a year or two, I sure would show up if I said I would, or if I couldn’t, I would let the person know, apologize, and try to reset the date. It has certainly not been my experience over several attempts that getting a woman to meet is like ...
Barnie2years replies on Aug 3, 2018:
@AzVixen52 I basically just stopped, closed all the accounts, and hang out here in the off chance of meeting someone of like mind. Point being, if I do make a contact and we set up a meet,you better believe I will be there! ?
Bucket List
Barnie2years comments on Aug 1, 2018:
I would love to take a river cruise down the Rhine River from Amsterdam to Vienna. Also, white water rafting. If I ever actually have a partner to do them with, nothing is holding me back, other than I don’t want to do them alone.
Barnie2years replies on Aug 1, 2018:
@Crimson67 are you taking names? ?
Barnie2years comments on Aug 1, 2018:
I would love to take a river cruise down the Rhine River from Amsterdam to Vienna. Also, white water rafting. If I ever actually have a partner to do them with, nothing is holding me back, other than I don’t want to do them alone.
Barnie2years replies on Aug 1, 2018:
@Crimson67 are you taking names? ?
"Children are the world's most valuable resource and it's best hope for the future"-John F.
Condor5 comments on Aug 1, 2018:
One of the ancillary benefits of moving to my new place here in Oxnard last month, is that there are lots of kids where I now live. Yeah, noisy kids can be trying at times, especially the screaming; but seeing those sweet little faces is so great. Kids are life. I would never want to live in a ...
Barnie2years replies on Aug 1, 2018:
Does 66 count as old?
Condor5 comments on Aug 1, 2018:
One of the ancillary benefits of moving to my new place here in Oxnard last month, is that there are lots of kids where I now live. Yeah, noisy kids can be trying at times, especially the screaming; but seeing those sweet little faces is so great. Kids are life. I would never want to live in a ...
Barnie2years replies on Aug 1, 2018:
Does 66 count as old?
"Children are the world's most valuable resource and it's best hope for the future"-John F.
COGITOERGOSUM comments on Aug 1, 2018:
He (JFK) should have left a note with this message in the White House.
Barnie2years replies on Aug 1, 2018:
Wouldn’t have helped with this science denying administration.
COGITOERGOSUM comments on Aug 1, 2018:
He (JFK) should have left a note with this message in the White House.
Barnie2years replies on Aug 1, 2018:
Wouldn’t have helped with this science denying administration.
What's for dinner?
Barnie2years comments on Jul 27, 2018:
Dijon pork chops, baked potato and a salad. Still have one left! ?
Barnie2years replies on Jul 27, 2018:
It was pretty good! Have the other one for tomorrow, with ginger green beans instead of the baked potato.
Barnie2years comments on Jul 27, 2018:
Dijon pork chops, baked potato and a salad. Still have one left! ?
Barnie2years replies on Jul 27, 2018:
It was pretty good! Have the other one for tomorrow, with ginger green beans instead of the baked potato.
Lets talk about kissing... (K) (K) (K)
Barnie2years comments on Jul 26, 2018:
I would rather practice than speak! ?????? My first wife used to orgasm when we were making out! Out of practice, but I’m willing to get back into shape if I found the right set of lips! ?
Barnie2years replies on Jul 27, 2018:
@Lauren It’s time consuming, but loads of fun! ?
Barnie2years comments on Jul 26, 2018:
I would rather practice than speak! ?????? My first wife used to orgasm when we were making out! Out of practice, but I’m willing to get back into shape if I found the right set of lips! ?
Barnie2years replies on Jul 27, 2018:
@Lauren It’s time consuming, but loads of fun! ?
Sulking.
Barnie2years comments on Jul 26, 2018:
Always being right, even when you’re not. No matter what it is, with or without reasoning behind it, only your opinion is right. I posted a profile on a dating site once, said I like to have discussions, but “because I say so” does not back up your statement.
Barnie2years replies on Jul 26, 2018:
@DeeWoman You and me both! Makes me very sad, though being on this site has restored some hope!
Barnie2years comments on Jul 26, 2018:
Always being right, even when you’re not. No matter what it is, with or without reasoning behind it, only your opinion is right. I posted a profile on a dating site once, said I like to have discussions, but “because I say so” does not back up your statement.
Barnie2years replies on Jul 26, 2018:
@DeeWoman You and me both! Makes me very sad, though being on this site has restored some hope!
Good morning! I was pleased with all the responses to my question about passion fading.
Barnie2years comments on Jul 26, 2018:
Holy shit, I hope she shows up soon! ?
Barnie2years replies on Jul 26, 2018:
I’ve known a few butts that I would have gladly held onto all day and night! ?❤️ Did not seem to make them smile for some reason!
Barnie2years comments on Jul 26, 2018:
Holy shit, I hope she shows up soon! ?
Barnie2years replies on Jul 26, 2018:
I’ve known a few butts that I would have gladly held onto all day and night! ?❤️ Did not seem to make them smile for some reason!
Sulking.
Barnie2years comments on Jul 26, 2018:
Always being right, even when you’re not. No matter what it is, with or without reasoning behind it, only your opinion is right. I posted a profile on a dating site once, said I like to have discussions, but “because I say so” does not back up your statement.
Barnie2years replies on Jul 26, 2018:
@DeeWoman It’s one thing to use it on kids (guilty myself), quite another when speaking to an adult. Which is why I fail to understand why anyone pays any attention to Trump. Every word out of his mouth is based only on his lame brain thought process rather than any factual or documented proof to the contrary.
Barnie2years comments on Jul 26, 2018:
Always being right, even when you’re not. No matter what it is, with or without reasoning behind it, only your opinion is right. I posted a profile on a dating site once, said I like to have discussions, but “because I say so” does not back up your statement.
Barnie2years replies on Jul 26, 2018:
@DeeWoman It’s one thing to use it on kids (guilty myself), quite another when speaking to an adult. Which is why I fail to understand why anyone pays any attention to Trump. Every word out of his mouth is based only on his lame brain thought process rather than any factual or documented proof to the contrary.
Sulking.
slydr68 comments on Jul 26, 2018:
Being clingy...I once dated a guy who would follow me to the kitchen when I went to refill my glass...it was really obnoxious! Even tho the sex was good, it wasn't worth it...
Barnie2years replies on Jul 26, 2018:
Sounds more like a dog! ? Can’t go anywhere without him being there too!
slydr68 comments on Jul 26, 2018:
Being clingy...I once dated a guy who would follow me to the kitchen when I went to refill my glass...it was really obnoxious! Even tho the sex was good, it wasn't worth it...
Barnie2years replies on Jul 26, 2018:
Sounds more like a dog! ? Can’t go anywhere without him being there too!
Maybe this is where some of us are going wring in our quest ;-)
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Nukdookum comments on Jul 24, 2018:
I might need a bit more, they totally skipped the "fuck me in the butt" part!
Barnie2years replies on Jul 25, 2018:
@helionoftroy I’ve been to Greece myself, lovely place. But 79 and counting dead from the most recent fires is almost more than the death toll for the whole summer in the entire Western United States. Portugal had a equally terrible wildfire last year that was extremely deadly, the 2017 fire killed 66. These are not your average wildfires and they are occurring in highly populated areas. Right now PA is having flooding, so you are right, there is no safe areas, but the current Greek fire was unusually deadly.
Nukdookum comments on Jul 24, 2018:
I might need a bit more, they totally skipped the "fuck me in the butt" part!
Barnie2years replies on Jul 25, 2018:
@helionoftroy I’ve been to Greece myself, lovely place. But 79 and counting dead from the most recent fires is almost more than the death toll for the whole summer in the entire Western United States. Portugal had a equally terrible wildfire last year that was extremely deadly, the 2017 fire killed 66. These are not your average wildfires and they are occurring in highly populated areas. Right now PA is having flooding, so you are right, there is no safe areas, but the current Greek fire was unusually deadly.
Why is it so hard to meet someone who is not fake or a flake.
Hermit comments on Jul 25, 2018:
I say kudos for trying. I've had zero experiences in the last year.
Barnie2years replies on Jul 25, 2018:
Ditto
Hermit comments on Jul 25, 2018:
I say kudos for trying. I've had zero experiences in the last year.
Barnie2years replies on Jul 25, 2018:
Ditto
Maybe this is where some of us are going wring in our quest ;-)
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Nukdookum comments on Jul 24, 2018:
I might need a bit more, they totally skipped the "fuck me in the butt" part!
Barnie2years replies on Jul 25, 2018:
@helionoftroy given the recent fires, you might be better off where you are now.
Nukdookum comments on Jul 24, 2018:
I might need a bit more, they totally skipped the "fuck me in the butt" part!
Barnie2years replies on Jul 25, 2018:
@helionoftroy given the recent fires, you might be better off where you are now.
Texas governor set to wage war on non believers rights to free speech, among other things.
jacpod comments on Jul 24, 2018:
weird man who seems to think he can say this sort of thing in a free society!
Barnie2years replies on Jul 24, 2018:
Do you know the backstory? All of this was in response to FFRF having the audacity to put up a secular, tasteful, birth of the Bill of Rights display on public property near a manger scene, at Christmas time. The governor had it taken down. FFRF sued and won under free speech law, but the governor and state attorney are appealing what has been settled law in several other states.
jacpod comments on Jul 24, 2018:
weird man who seems to think he can say this sort of thing in a free society!
Barnie2years replies on Jul 24, 2018:
Do you know the backstory? All of this was in response to FFRF having the audacity to put up a secular, tasteful, birth of the Bill of Rights display on public property near a manger scene, at Christmas time. The governor had it taken down. FFRF sued and won under free speech law, but the governor and state attorney are appealing what has been settled law in several other states.
Lmao...no pinky dinky size
HippieChick58 comments on Jul 20, 2018:
I read a few years ago that condoms in India are smaller than what is generally sold in the US. So not trusting my memory I googled it, and not so holy cow. http://news.bbc.co.uk/2/hi/6161691.stm BBC 2006.
Barnie2years replies on Jul 24, 2018:
@MissKathleen , sorry, that should have been addressed to @Alvinsmama ? Too many posts in between.
HippieChick58 comments on Jul 20, 2018:
I read a few years ago that condoms in India are smaller than what is generally sold in the US. So not trusting my memory I googled it, and not so holy cow. http://news.bbc.co.uk/2/hi/6161691.stm BBC 2006.
Barnie2years replies on Jul 24, 2018:
@MissKathleen , sorry, that should have been addressed to @Alvinsmama ? Too many posts in between.
Lmao...no pinky dinky size
HippieChick58 comments on Jul 20, 2018:
I read a few years ago that condoms in India are smaller than what is generally sold in the US. So not trusting my memory I googled it, and not so holy cow. http://news.bbc.co.uk/2/hi/6161691.stm BBC 2006.
Barnie2years replies on Jul 24, 2018:
@MissKathleen Would explain the horse ??!
HippieChick58 comments on Jul 20, 2018:
I read a few years ago that condoms in India are smaller than what is generally sold in the US. So not trusting my memory I googled it, and not so holy cow. http://news.bbc.co.uk/2/hi/6161691.stm BBC 2006.
Barnie2years replies on Jul 24, 2018:
@MissKathleen Would explain the horse ??!
100% accurate
Barnie2years comments on Jul 23, 2018:
I have no idea why you would have this problem? You seem to be a very attractive person in your pictures, which I will assume are not photoshopped, LOL. Maybe be more open to heartfelt, no hidden meaning, compliments. Sorry I am not gay or a hetro woman, nor am I trying to get in your pants! ...
Barnie2years replies on Jul 23, 2018:
@Leeshi LOL, I was referencing a previous post you had made, can’t imagine why you wouldn’t get lots of compliments.
Barnie2years comments on Jul 23, 2018:
I have no idea why you would have this problem? You seem to be a very attractive person in your pictures, which I will assume are not photoshopped, LOL. Maybe be more open to heartfelt, no hidden meaning, compliments. Sorry I am not gay or a hetro woman, nor am I trying to get in your pants! ...
Barnie2years replies on Jul 23, 2018:
@Leeshi LOL, I was referencing a previous post you had made, can’t imagine why you wouldn’t get lots of compliments.
I am very fascinated by ravens and crows.
CreativelyMe comments on Jul 21, 2018:
Oh me too! It is even on my bucket list to rescue one and train him.
Barnie2years replies on Jul 21, 2018:
@Stacey48 Crows and Ravens can be trained to talk like parrots, sometimes better. There is a bird sanctuary in Sarasota FL. They had a raven that had been found as a fledgling and raised as a pet (illegal in Florida). It had quite an impressive vocabulary.
CreativelyMe comments on Jul 21, 2018:
Oh me too! It is even on my bucket list to rescue one and train him.
Barnie2years replies on Jul 21, 2018:
@Stacey48 Crows and Ravens can be trained to talk like parrots, sometimes better. There is a bird sanctuary in Sarasota FL. They had a raven that had been found as a fledgling and raised as a pet (illegal in Florida). It had quite an impressive vocabulary.
What do you do when you're unattractive to the opposite sex?
Carla1963 comments on Jul 21, 2018:
It is not your looks, if they don't respond- just move on. i have never really really had any luck with online dating, most of the time it is nice to just chat and hang out, if there is chemistry it will take over.believe me love, lust, and dating have very little to do with looks.
Barnie2years replies on Jul 21, 2018:
In order to find out if there is chemistry, you actually have to have some kind of interaction. Chatting online can be a start, but until you meet eye to eye, it is really kind of hard to tell. If you never even get a response to a hello, or no one reaches out to you, the chemistry thing is pretty much a dead issue. (Speaking from years of experience here)
Carla1963 comments on Jul 21, 2018:
It is not your looks, if they don't respond- just move on. i have never really really had any luck with online dating, most of the time it is nice to just chat and hang out, if there is chemistry it will take over.believe me love, lust, and dating have very little to do with looks.
Barnie2years replies on Jul 21, 2018:
In order to find out if there is chemistry, you actually have to have some kind of interaction. Chatting online can be a start, but until you meet eye to eye, it is really kind of hard to tell. If you never even get a response to a hello, or no one reaches out to you, the chemistry thing is pretty much a dead issue. (Speaking from years of experience here)
Me looking for my needle in the haystack. Referring to my new companion ??
malemusician comments on Jul 21, 2018:
That is STRAW, not hay, so you there's that. lol.
Barnie2years replies on Jul 21, 2018:
@malemusician Straw is used to shit on, hay is used to make shit. Very simple! ?
malemusician comments on Jul 21, 2018:
That is STRAW, not hay, so you there's that. lol.
Barnie2years replies on Jul 21, 2018:
@malemusician Straw is used to shit on, hay is used to make shit. Very simple! ?
Yesterday sadly I had to go home after spending a week with Dan at his home in Albany, NY.
bleurowz comments on Jul 21, 2018:
Not all exes can be friends. More likely if you had a good friendship beforehand. I've also had some male friends - ex or not - who would drop me after they got seriously involved with someone else. At first it would throw me, but then I got it. Two main reasons I see: the new partner is insecure, ...
Barnie2years replies on Jul 21, 2018:
There are many women out there who feel very threatened by ex’s, I’ve dated a few. Lost some because I refused to treat a woman I was married to as a human being with whom I shared a large part of my life rather than a diseased animal!
bleurowz comments on Jul 21, 2018:
Not all exes can be friends. More likely if you had a good friendship beforehand. I've also had some male friends - ex or not - who would drop me after they got seriously involved with someone else. At first it would throw me, but then I got it. Two main reasons I see: the new partner is insecure, ...
Barnie2years replies on Jul 21, 2018:
There are many women out there who feel very threatened by ex’s, I’ve dated a few. Lost some because I refused to treat a woman I was married to as a human being with whom I shared a large part of my life rather than a diseased animal!
I was thinking about a conversation I had recently with a woman who had been sucked into joining a ...
JenBeberstein comments on Jul 19, 2018:
As reasonable a hypothesis as any other I have heard
Barnie2years replies on Jul 19, 2018:
Thank you! ?
JenBeberstein comments on Jul 19, 2018:
As reasonable a hypothesis as any other I have heard
Barnie2years replies on Jul 19, 2018:
Thank you! ?
I was thinking about a conversation I had recently with a woman who had been sucked into joining a ...
chalupacabre comments on Jul 19, 2018:
I suspect it's an emotional need and she's going to go wherever she thinks she'll find someone that can accommodate that. By attending a sympathetic gathering of people who can communicate with her in a language she can most easily understand, you're outgunned. You can do and say all the right ...
Barnie2years replies on Jul 19, 2018:
I always am. Just ask my ex-wives! ?
chalupacabre comments on Jul 19, 2018:
I suspect it's an emotional need and she's going to go wherever she thinks she'll find someone that can accommodate that. By attending a sympathetic gathering of people who can communicate with her in a language she can most easily understand, you're outgunned. You can do and say all the right ...
Barnie2years replies on Jul 19, 2018:
I always am. Just ask my ex-wives! ?
I was thinking about a conversation I had recently with a woman who had been sucked into joining a ...
242Foxtrot comments on Jul 19, 2018:
I met a woman who was a recent immigrant from China, and her transition into this country was "facilitated" by a church whose congregation was made up largely of other Chinese in the community. She felt the US offered her the "freedom" to believe in Jesus and the Bible, and was very excited to have...
Barnie2years replies on Jul 19, 2018:
In many ways, people from countries where all or even some religions are discouraged or outrightly condemned, are easily pulled into the free association of faiths in Christian countries. While the Christian Taliban, with Trump’s blessing, is hard at work trying to change the country into a theocracy, the freedom to worship how you want is addicting to new arrivals from repressed countries. I understand her need to seek this kind of support system. I do question, not necessarily with her, but in my mind, the method used to have her believe she has seen a spirit.
242Foxtrot comments on Jul 19, 2018:
I met a woman who was a recent immigrant from China, and her transition into this country was "facilitated" by a church whose congregation was made up largely of other Chinese in the community. She felt the US offered her the "freedom" to believe in Jesus and the Bible, and was very excited to have...
Barnie2years replies on Jul 19, 2018:
In many ways, people from countries where all or even some religions are discouraged or outrightly condemned, are easily pulled into the free association of faiths in Christian countries. While the Christian Taliban, with Trump’s blessing, is hard at work trying to change the country into a theocracy, the freedom to worship how you want is addicting to new arrivals from repressed countries. I understand her need to seek this kind of support system. I do question, not necessarily with her, but in my mind, the method used to have her believe she has seen a spirit.
I was thinking about a conversation I had recently with a woman who had been sucked into joining a ...
AnneWimsey comments on Jul 19, 2018:
If you cannot offer this woman the help & support she desperately needs in the life she has, why are you trying to rip it away from her? Do you pull rugs out from under people too?
Barnie2years replies on Jul 19, 2018:
If you read, I am not trying to rip anything away from her. It affected our relationship, and that was fine, the group could support her more than I could, and it provides cultural as well as social cohesion. And as long as she is not trying to drag me into the belief, we can and will be friends. When she chose to present her reason for the belief, I felt entitled to present my reason for not believing. And, as is the case for most people of faith, it didn’t change her belief and I was in no way trying to convert her to mine. If you read anything else into my story, I perhaps didn’t express myself right. Do you make assumptions about everyone?
AnneWimsey comments on Jul 19, 2018:
If you cannot offer this woman the help & support she desperately needs in the life she has, why are you trying to rip it away from her? Do you pull rugs out from under people too?
Barnie2years replies on Jul 19, 2018:
If you read, I am not trying to rip anything away from her. It affected our relationship, and that was fine, the group could support her more than I could, and it provides cultural as well as social cohesion. And as long as she is not trying to drag me into the belief, we can and will be friends. When she chose to present her reason for the belief, I felt entitled to present my reason for not believing. And, as is the case for most people of faith, it didn’t change her belief and I was in no way trying to convert her to mine. If you read anything else into my story, I perhaps didn’t express myself right. Do you make assumptions about everyone?
They say that we all have a mate somewhere.
Sheannutt comments on Jul 18, 2018:
That's what it seems like for me to.
Barnie2years replies on Jul 19, 2018:
@Seeker55 That has sure been my experience. I have tried the online, worldwide searches, and local with no real luck, very few dates or even face to face encounters. And yet my sister met the Swiss man she married at 58 online, another friend met his 20 year younger wife online, and I know other people who have been successful. The only thing I accomplished was almost getting ripped off by a Philippine woman who said she was working in China. Dogged the bullet, but it was close and got me offline for a long time.
Sheannutt comments on Jul 18, 2018:
That's what it seems like for me to.
Barnie2years replies on Jul 19, 2018:
@Seeker55 That has sure been my experience. I have tried the online, worldwide searches, and local with no real luck, very few dates or even face to face encounters. And yet my sister met the Swiss man she married at 58 online, another friend met his 20 year younger wife online, and I know other people who have been successful. The only thing I accomplished was almost getting ripped off by a Philippine woman who said she was working in China. Dogged the bullet, but it was close and got me offline for a long time.
Someone Wanting You in Their Life
Barnie2years comments on Jul 18, 2018:
Tried that. Didn’t work at all! ?
Barnie2years replies on Jul 18, 2018:
@DeeWoman I do everything in my power to make that obvious.
Barnie2years comments on Jul 18, 2018:
Tried that. Didn’t work at all! ?
Barnie2years replies on Jul 18, 2018:
@DeeWoman I do everything in my power to make that obvious.
Some helpful advice.
Barnie2years comments on Jul 18, 2018:
My feeling is in my life that many people need me, no one actually wants me. In other words, they don’t give a shit what I need. As long as I show up every time they have a problem to be solved, I’m gold. Since I have nothing else in my life, I take this as the closest thing to a sign of ...
Barnie2years replies on Jul 18, 2018:
@IAmLove Exactly!
Barnie2years comments on Jul 18, 2018:
My feeling is in my life that many people need me, no one actually wants me. In other words, they don’t give a shit what I need. As long as I show up every time they have a problem to be solved, I’m gold. Since I have nothing else in my life, I take this as the closest thing to a sign of ...
Barnie2years replies on Jul 18, 2018:
@IAmLove Exactly!
Its only Tuesday... :S
Mike1947 comments on Jul 17, 2018:
"No rest for the wicked"?
Barnie2years replies on Jul 17, 2018:
@Stargazer13 Thank goodness us non believers don’t have to worry about that, we just deal with the hell we are handed here on earth. Hopefully yours will get better soon. Find happiness where you can until it does, on your hikes, with your kids.
Mike1947 comments on Jul 17, 2018:
"No rest for the wicked"?
Barnie2years replies on Jul 17, 2018:
@Stargazer13 Thank goodness us non believers don’t have to worry about that, we just deal with the hell we are handed here on earth. Hopefully yours will get better soon. Find happiness where you can until it does, on your hikes, with your kids.
What's something that is popular right now that annoys you?
Barnie2years comments on Jul 16, 2018:
Donald Trump and family! ?
Barnie2years replies on Jul 17, 2018:
@joeymf86 as with many of the things listed here, he is not universally popular, but he is certainly constantly in the news and does have a fan club. Just like Yoga pants are not universally popular but seem to have a dedicate group of wearers, many of whom should not! ?
Barnie2years comments on Jul 16, 2018:
Donald Trump and family! ?
Barnie2years replies on Jul 17, 2018:
@joeymf86 as with many of the things listed here, he is not universally popular, but he is certainly constantly in the news and does have a fan club. Just like Yoga pants are not universally popular but seem to have a dedicate group of wearers, many of whom should not! ?
What's something that is popular right now that annoys you?
TheLizzard comments on Jul 16, 2018:
“Reality” TV. It’s not real.
And it plays the the very lowest denominator of society.
Barnie2years replies on Jul 17, 2018:
It helped get a president elected and it is now how our administration is run.
TheLizzard comments on Jul 16, 2018:
“Reality” TV. It’s not real.
And it plays the the very lowest denominator of society.
Barnie2years replies on Jul 17, 2018:
It helped get a president elected and it is now how our administration is run.
I'm visiting NC, this week.
Just comments on Jul 16, 2018:
Thankfully in the UK, we’re spared the billboard approach. Maybe a twee poster outside a church with some pun or other alluding to a “better” way of life but certainly not fed fois-gras style.
Mind you even the twee posters make me want to heave so not sure how I’d cope with the big screen...
Barnie2years replies on Jul 16, 2018:
@Freedompath If you notice the phone numbers on the billboards, they are there for a reason: to get rubes to donate money, just like all the signs for South of The Border for miles on both sides are to get you to stop and spend money.
Just comments on Jul 16, 2018:
Thankfully in the UK, we’re spared the billboard approach. Maybe a twee poster outside a church with some pun or other alluding to a “better” way of life but certainly not fed fois-gras style.
Mind you even the twee posters make me want to heave so not sure how I’d cope with the big screen...
Barnie2years replies on Jul 16, 2018:
@Freedompath If you notice the phone numbers on the billboards, they are there for a reason: to get rubes to donate money, just like all the signs for South of The Border for miles on both sides are to get you to stop and spend money.
My kind of therapy right here.
Amisja comments on Jul 13, 2018:
Yeah but its not...
Barnie2years replies on Jul 13, 2018:
How sad, your glass is empty! ??
Amisja comments on Jul 13, 2018:
Yeah but its not...
Barnie2years replies on Jul 13, 2018:
How sad, your glass is empty! ??
There's a man in our community known as "monkey man" (he always has several stuffed monkeys ...
Barnie2years comments on Jul 11, 2018:
Not sure why anyone would not tell you that you are pretty. You must giggle a lot! ?
Barnie2years replies on Jul 11, 2018:
@pepperjones Fear has a lot to do with it. Being called out for harassment, jealous spouses and boyfriends, or getting that "look" from the woman as if you just flashed her. There is on the other hand no excuse for your significant other not telling you on a regular basis, even if they are not trying to get laid ?
Barnie2years comments on Jul 11, 2018:
Not sure why anyone would not tell you that you are pretty. You must giggle a lot! ?
Barnie2years replies on Jul 11, 2018:
@pepperjones Fear has a lot to do with it. Being called out for harassment, jealous spouses and boyfriends, or getting that "look" from the woman as if you just flashed her. There is on the other hand no excuse for your significant other not telling you on a regular basis, even if they are not trying to get laid ?
My current boyfriend was raised by his Grandfather in TX to be a Southern Baptist, I tell him I have...
Barnie2years comments on Jul 10, 2018:
I guess you are in a position to answer the Christian/Atheist couple question. It makes what is complicated (relationships) even more complicated.
Barnie2years replies on Jul 10, 2018:
@joantheloon I agree with hankster, run! Before it gets violent.
Barnie2years comments on Jul 10, 2018:
I guess you are in a position to answer the Christian/Atheist couple question. It makes what is complicated (relationships) even more complicated.
Barnie2years replies on Jul 10, 2018:
@joantheloon I agree with hankster, run! Before it gets violent.
Any of you who would like to see my picture, if you are on Facebook, you can find me there.
Barnie2years comments on Jul 4, 2018:
Under Joantheloon? ?
Barnie2years replies on Jul 9, 2018:
@joantheloon Thanks! I am very active on Facebook. I have been there much longer than here. Don't worry, I am not a stalker or troll, LOL! You can, if you wish find me at Terry Dohl.
Barnie2years comments on Jul 4, 2018:
Under Joantheloon? ?
Barnie2years replies on Jul 9, 2018:
@joantheloon Thanks! I am very active on Facebook. I have been there much longer than here. Don't worry, I am not a stalker or troll, LOL! You can, if you wish find me at Terry Dohl.
Collective Identity of Non-theists
GipsyOfNewSpain comments on Jul 7, 2018:
I don't pledge allegiance to science... not I am at war with god, religion or church. I don't do poll by strangers either. You are So Way Off little kid. I hope my answer will keep me off your group and collective.
Barnie2years replies on Jul 9, 2018:
@Nicsnort Why do people respond to things they don't want to respond too? If you don't like a question or post, don't want to contribute to the particular conversation...DON"T. If your only reason to respond is to make derogatory and inflammatory comments, it seems to me you could find something better to do with your time!
GipsyOfNewSpain comments on Jul 7, 2018:
I don't pledge allegiance to science... not I am at war with god, religion or church. I don't do poll by strangers either. You are So Way Off little kid. I hope my answer will keep me off your group and collective.
Barnie2years replies on Jul 9, 2018:
@Nicsnort Why do people respond to things they don't want to respond too? If you don't like a question or post, don't want to contribute to the particular conversation...DON"T. If your only reason to respond is to make derogatory and inflammatory comments, it seems to me you could find something better to do with your time!
The White House is Tearing Down the Wall Between Church and State NY Times
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IAMGROOT comments on Jul 8, 2018:
I dislike the situation, not your post. I could not agree more. As I have commented repeatedly in response to similar posts, we on Agnostic.com should all actively, financially support the Freedom From Religion Foundation (FFRF). The wall of separation us now under direct attack by those who ...
Barnie2years replies on Jul 8, 2018:
I joined and send in donations from time to time. They are very active in taking legal action against any government agency putting religious symbols, activities, even bumper stickers on public property. Riles the Bible thumpers up something awful! They publish some of their deranged fan mail on Facebook. Makes it worth a couple of bucks to support them.
IAMGROOT comments on Jul 8, 2018:
I dislike the situation, not your post. I could not agree more. As I have commented repeatedly in response to similar posts, we on Agnostic.com should all actively, financially support the Freedom From Religion Foundation (FFRF). The wall of separation us now under direct attack by those who ...
Barnie2years replies on Jul 8, 2018:
I joined and send in donations from time to time. They are very active in taking legal action against any government agency putting religious symbols, activities, even bumper stickers on public property. Riles the Bible thumpers up something awful! They publish some of their deranged fan mail on Facebook. Makes it worth a couple of bucks to support them.
There's been some talk about singles being afraid of rejection, so they don't take the chance.
Barnie2years comments on Jul 8, 2018:
When rejection is repeated time after time, after time. When you have tried every approach within your ability, every venue available, and the result is always the same. A hesitation to be disappointed again is kind of a survival method rather than a character flaw.
Barnie2years replies on Jul 8, 2018:
@LimeySteve That's why I said hesitation, not giving up. In fact, that is one of the reasons I am on this site, not just for the interest in like minded views on belief, but the chance to take at least one of the major stumbling blocks out of meeting someone. Being an avowed Atheist, in real time meeting or most online dating sites, is generally a show stopper! LOL
Barnie2years comments on Jul 8, 2018:
When rejection is repeated time after time, after time. When you have tried every approach within your ability, every venue available, and the result is always the same. A hesitation to be disappointed again is kind of a survival method rather than a character flaw.
Barnie2years replies on Jul 8, 2018:
@LimeySteve That's why I said hesitation, not giving up. In fact, that is one of the reasons I am on this site, not just for the interest in like minded views on belief, but the chance to take at least one of the major stumbling blocks out of meeting someone. Being an avowed Atheist, in real time meeting or most online dating sites, is generally a show stopper! LOL
For all you single ladies out there ;)
[theonion.com]
Stargazer13 comments on Jul 6, 2018:
I'm going to run out and get a thin white cambric gown and wear it ( commando) while I mow my front lawn with the sprinkler on. Do you think that will do the trick? I don't live near a stream or waterfall. Damn :-(
Barnie2years replies on Jul 7, 2018:
I’d certainly stop by and after giving you my “steeliest gaze” offer to help with raking and trimming! ?
Stargazer13 comments on Jul 6, 2018:
I'm going to run out and get a thin white cambric gown and wear it ( commando) while I mow my front lawn with the sprinkler on. Do you think that will do the trick? I don't live near a stream or waterfall. Damn :-(
Barnie2years replies on Jul 7, 2018:
I’d certainly stop by and after giving you my “steeliest gaze” offer to help with raking and trimming! ?
Dear diary.
Beach_slim comments on Jul 4, 2018:
You're like the never ending stampede of liberals that come here and say the same thing. Are you following the herd?
Barnie2years replies on Jul 5, 2018:
@Paul4747 Sorry about that, but he got the message! ? Won’t penatrate his “Border Wall” between his years, and I won’t waste anymore of my time, but I got the point out there. I will take a herd of humanist over a gaggle of conservatives! ?
Beach_slim comments on Jul 4, 2018:
You're like the never ending stampede of liberals that come here and say the same thing. Are you following the herd?
Barnie2years replies on Jul 5, 2018:
@Paul4747 Sorry about that, but he got the message! ? Won’t penatrate his “Border Wall” between his years, and I won’t waste anymore of my time, but I got the point out there. I will take a herd of humanist over a gaggle of conservatives! ?
Dear diary.
Beach_slim comments on Jul 4, 2018:
You're like the never ending stampede of liberals that come here and say the same thing. Are you following the herd?
Barnie2years replies on Jul 5, 2018:
@Beach_slim BS. And you have to show me proof. You can look at statistics that show the middle class had the most advances when the wealthy were most heavily taxed (post depression years) and most stagnated after conservatives started dropping taxes on the most wealthy and ending or restricting programs that helped people move up. Not sure where you fit into the financial scale, but you are attacking the wrong end of economic scale in the hope that someday you can attain the upper class at some point. Chances are, unless you are there already, you will not.
Beach_slim comments on Jul 4, 2018:
You're like the never ending stampede of liberals that come here and say the same thing. Are you following the herd?
Barnie2years replies on Jul 5, 2018:
@Beach_slim BS. And you have to show me proof. You can look at statistics that show the middle class had the most advances when the wealthy were most heavily taxed (post depression years) and most stagnated after conservatives started dropping taxes on the most wealthy and ending or restricting programs that helped people move up. Not sure where you fit into the financial scale, but you are attacking the wrong end of economic scale in the hope that someday you can attain the upper class at some point. Chances are, unless you are there already, you will not.
Dear diary.
Beach_slim comments on Jul 4, 2018:
You're like the never ending stampede of liberals that come here and say the same thing. Are you following the herd?
Barnie2years replies on Jul 5, 2018:
@Paul4747 Conservatives are funny!! They accuse liberals of wanting to take money from the middle class to support those who are disadvantaged, while being quite supportive of unregulated capitalism which supports stealing wages and pay from the middle class to inflate the wealth of those in the top ten percent of wealth holders. I have been exposed to that mentality growing up with a father in management. I am proud to call myself a liberal and have my taxes support those who didn’t have the luck to be born into good circumstances. I will not counter your useless arguments with ugly names, that would be a sign that my mind is as numb as yours. Maybe if you hang around here long enough, some humanity will rub off on you! ?
Beach_slim comments on Jul 4, 2018:
You're like the never ending stampede of liberals that come here and say the same thing. Are you following the herd?
Barnie2years replies on Jul 5, 2018:
@Paul4747 Conservatives are funny!! They accuse liberals of wanting to take money from the middle class to support those who are disadvantaged, while being quite supportive of unregulated capitalism which supports stealing wages and pay from the middle class to inflate the wealth of those in the top ten percent of wealth holders. I have been exposed to that mentality growing up with a father in management. I am proud to call myself a liberal and have my taxes support those who didn’t have the luck to be born into good circumstances. I will not counter your useless arguments with ugly names, that would be a sign that my mind is as numb as yours. Maybe if you hang around here long enough, some humanity will rub off on you! ?
I love me some Haka!
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Barnie2years comments on Jul 5, 2018:
Groom looks like he is about to crap himself at the beginning. Then he gets into the groove at the end! And I thought my weddings were scary! LOL
Barnie2years replies on Jul 5, 2018:
@patchoullijulie Thanks!
Barnie2years comments on Jul 5, 2018:
Groom looks like he is about to crap himself at the beginning. Then he gets into the groove at the end! And I thought my weddings were scary! LOL
Barnie2years replies on Jul 5, 2018:
@patchoullijulie Thanks!
I love me some Haka!
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Barnie2years comments on Jul 5, 2018:
Groom looks like he is about to crap himself at the beginning. Then he gets into the groove at the end! And I thought my weddings were scary! LOL
Barnie2years replies on Jul 5, 2018:
@patchoullijulie Did you see the one of the military company doing this as they were getting ready to leave Afghanistan? If not I will try to find it.
Barnie2years comments on Jul 5, 2018:
Groom looks like he is about to crap himself at the beginning. Then he gets into the groove at the end! And I thought my weddings were scary! LOL
Barnie2years replies on Jul 5, 2018:
@patchoullijulie Did you see the one of the military company doing this as they were getting ready to leave Afghanistan? If not I will try to find it.
I love me some Haka!
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Barnie2years comments on Jul 5, 2018:
Groom looks like he is about to crap himself at the beginning. Then he gets into the groove at the end! And I thought my weddings were scary! LOL
Barnie2years replies on Jul 5, 2018:
@patchoullijulie They do look like some of those idols and statues you see from the Pacific Islands! It would be intimidating, especially on a battlefield back in the days of swords and spears. Even now, it would get the adrenalin pumping and make the enemy, if they could hear it, a little nervous.
Barnie2years comments on Jul 5, 2018:
Groom looks like he is about to crap himself at the beginning. Then he gets into the groove at the end! And I thought my weddings were scary! LOL
Barnie2years replies on Jul 5, 2018:
@patchoullijulie They do look like some of those idols and statues you see from the Pacific Islands! It would be intimidating, especially on a battlefield back in the days of swords and spears. Even now, it would get the adrenalin pumping and make the enemy, if they could hear it, a little nervous.
Hey there, I have been an atheist since forever, no religion growing up to speak of.
ScienceRocks comments on May 27, 2018:
I think some men are threatened because it means you think for yourself and won't "obey" (his) authority. I once had a guy in high school tell me he wanted to go out with me, and would if I would learn and recite the Lord's Prayer to him (my reputation as a heathen preceded me). He wasn't happy ...
Barnie2years replies on Jul 4, 2018:
@joantheloon, sounds like maybe he isn’t so OK with your non belief to me. My guess is he’ll never stop trying to pull you into the pool.
ScienceRocks comments on May 27, 2018:
I think some men are threatened because it means you think for yourself and won't "obey" (his) authority. I once had a guy in high school tell me he wanted to go out with me, and would if I would learn and recite the Lord's Prayer to him (my reputation as a heathen preceded me). He wasn't happy ...
Barnie2years replies on Jul 4, 2018:
@joantheloon, sounds like maybe he isn’t so OK with your non belief to me. My guess is he’ll never stop trying to pull you into the pool.
Hey there, I have been an atheist since forever, no religion growing up to speak of.
Barnie2years comments on Jun 23, 2018:
If there is one downside to being Atheist or a non-believer, it is the lack of community and networking. For many, the community and social aspect of their church is just as if not important than the actual belief. Atheist have no meeting places, social clubs or organized activities, especially if...
Barnie2years replies on Jul 4, 2018:
@joantheloon, sorry to hear about your leg. Skiing accident? ? So fat, I have never broken a bone, despite an adventurous youth, years of motorcycle riding and other activities. How did you break your’s? I am not much of an outdoors person. Even going out to walk the dog involves taking a shower in Off. Mosquitoes can find me anytime of day, and a bite will itch like crazy for about two weeks!
Barnie2years comments on Jun 23, 2018:
If there is one downside to being Atheist or a non-believer, it is the lack of community and networking. For many, the community and social aspect of their church is just as if not important than the actual belief. Atheist have no meeting places, social clubs or organized activities, especially if...
Barnie2years replies on Jul 4, 2018:
@joantheloon, sorry to hear about your leg. Skiing accident? ? So fat, I have never broken a bone, despite an adventurous youth, years of motorcycle riding and other activities. How did you break your’s? I am not much of an outdoors person. Even going out to walk the dog involves taking a shower in Off. Mosquitoes can find me anytime of day, and a bite will itch like crazy for about two weeks!
Fellow agnostics, how do you feel about believers joining?
Barnie2years comments on Jul 3, 2018:
Anyone can get on the site. The point system limits what they can do as newbies. And if the turn into trolls or start evangelizing, they can be ejected. If they simply are questioning why we don’t feel the need for faith to live normal, moral and even fulfilling lives, maybe we can sow a seed of ...
Barnie2years replies on Jul 3, 2018:
@BornAgnostic, sounds like a personal problem! ?
Barnie2years comments on Jul 3, 2018:
Anyone can get on the site. The point system limits what they can do as newbies. And if the turn into trolls or start evangelizing, they can be ejected. If they simply are questioning why we don’t feel the need for faith to live normal, moral and even fulfilling lives, maybe we can sow a seed of ...
Barnie2years replies on Jul 3, 2018:
@BornAgnostic, sounds like a personal problem! ?
Survivors of Sexual Trauma Reveal an Important truth.
LiterateHiker comments on Jul 2, 2018:
After two years, I left my first husband who sexually and emotionally abused me. I went into therapy to heal from the pain of being physically hurt by the man I loved. No one will ever hurt me that way again.
Tim, a medical doctor, pursued me for four years after our divorce.
"Why do you ...
Barnie2years replies on Jul 2, 2018:
They are reading the stories of the men who were abused, not the stories of their own abuse. Because sexual abuse is not gender related, but can happen to children or young people of any age.
LiterateHiker comments on Jul 2, 2018:
After two years, I left my first husband who sexually and emotionally abused me. I went into therapy to heal from the pain of being physically hurt by the man I loved. No one will ever hurt me that way again.
Tim, a medical doctor, pursued me for four years after our divorce.
"Why do you ...
Barnie2years replies on Jul 2, 2018:
They are reading the stories of the men who were abused, not the stories of their own abuse. Because sexual abuse is not gender related, but can happen to children or young people of any age.
[cracked.com]
Interesting article. Still processing. I've read it twice. I'm reading it again.
Mike1947 comments on Jun 26, 2018:
Perhaps Hillary kept changing her support?https://agnostic.com/images/answers/107328_jwdd68fal8c8fog_full.jpeg?v=2
Barnie2years replies on Jun 26, 2018:
https://www.washingtonpost.com/news/the-fix/wp/2015/07/09/ths-many-ways-in-which-donald-trump-was-once-a-liberals-liberal/?noredirect=on=.f91b509d6a7a
Mike1947 comments on Jun 26, 2018:
Perhaps Hillary kept changing her support?https://agnostic.com/images/answers/107328_jwdd68fal8c8fog_full.jpeg?v=2
Barnie2years replies on Jun 26, 2018:
https://www.washingtonpost.com/news/the-fix/wp/2015/07/09/ths-many-ways-in-which-donald-trump-was-once-a-liberals-liberal/?noredirect=on=.f91b509d6a7a
Well good morning fellow heretics.
Barnie2years comments on Jun 22, 2018:
What a splendidly wonderful attitude you have! You must be a morning person! ?
Barnie2years replies on Jun 23, 2018:
@Petter, I'm with you! If I see dawn, it's usually just before I go to bed! ? Anything before 9:30 am is getting up in the middle of the night!
Barnie2years comments on Jun 22, 2018:
What a splendidly wonderful attitude you have! You must be a morning person! ?
Barnie2years replies on Jun 23, 2018:
@Petter, I'm with you! If I see dawn, it's usually just before I go to bed! ? Anything before 9:30 am is getting up in the middle of the night!
You can be a realist and a believer at the same time
Having a sense for reality and believing in ...
GoldenDoll comments on Jun 22, 2018:
No it's not possible. Hunter-gatherers don't know the reasons for what happens in their world, which is why they invent gods/spirits of the gaps.. And as far as the modern day world is concerned, their cultures have more or less gone extinct.
Barnie2years replies on Jun 22, 2018:
Not sure they have gone extinct. If you consider the deep seated religious inclinations of most farmers, you have to take into account the randomness of their livelihood. When your existence revolves around weather, insect populations and genetics of animals, hoping there is some kind of supernatural force out there protecting you from the worst of those random issues, I would guess, provides a certain amount of comfort. Praying for rain or anything else may have the same effect as doing a rain dance or flipping a coin to a realist (which I feel describes my outlook), I can understand where it might give solace to someone who's very life depends on it.
GoldenDoll comments on Jun 22, 2018:
No it's not possible. Hunter-gatherers don't know the reasons for what happens in their world, which is why they invent gods/spirits of the gaps.. And as far as the modern day world is concerned, their cultures have more or less gone extinct.
Barnie2years replies on Jun 22, 2018:
Not sure they have gone extinct. If you consider the deep seated religious inclinations of most farmers, you have to take into account the randomness of their livelihood. When your existence revolves around weather, insect populations and genetics of animals, hoping there is some kind of supernatural force out there protecting you from the worst of those random issues, I would guess, provides a certain amount of comfort. Praying for rain or anything else may have the same effect as doing a rain dance or flipping a coin to a realist (which I feel describes my outlook), I can understand where it might give solace to someone who's very life depends on it.
"You never see animals going through the absurd and often horrible fooleries of magic and ...
Sydland comments on Jun 20, 2018:
I agree with you but I heard that elephants perform a ritual when an elephant dies.
Barnie2years replies on Jun 21, 2018:
That animals have feelings and many, if not most, mourn their when one of their own die is not a sign of religious belief. Animals learn from their parents, or group if they are animals who live in packs of some kind. They learn survival techniques, they learn who the leader of their groups are, how to behave toward other members. Just as tame animals learn tricks and how to behave. That they have a ritual of sorts when a member of their group die is no more surprising than that certain creatures mate for life. Maybe they are not acting like us, maybe much of our behavior is natural and we are acting like them, we just give it names and try to hard to justify it.
Sydland comments on Jun 20, 2018:
I agree with you but I heard that elephants perform a ritual when an elephant dies.
Barnie2years replies on Jun 21, 2018:
That animals have feelings and many, if not most, mourn their when one of their own die is not a sign of religious belief. Animals learn from their parents, or group if they are animals who live in packs of some kind. They learn survival techniques, they learn who the leader of their groups are, how to behave toward other members. Just as tame animals learn tricks and how to behave. That they have a ritual of sorts when a member of their group die is no more surprising than that certain creatures mate for life. Maybe they are not acting like us, maybe much of our behavior is natural and we are acting like them, we just give it names and try to hard to justify it.
Many have been in relationships where they are sitting right next to someone but feel a million ...
Sticks48 comments on Jun 18, 2018:
Misunderstandings can often be resolved, but being in a room with someone you are in a relationship with and feeling alone is as empty a feeling as l have ever felt.
Barnie2years replies on Jun 18, 2018:
I often said referring to my marriage, I would rather be lonely alone than lonely living with someone. So that has been my state for quite some time, I am alone and lonely but in a far better place than when I was married and walled off.
Sticks48 comments on Jun 18, 2018:
Misunderstandings can often be resolved, but being in a room with someone you are in a relationship with and feeling alone is as empty a feeling as l have ever felt.
Barnie2years replies on Jun 18, 2018:
I often said referring to my marriage, I would rather be lonely alone than lonely living with someone. So that has been my state for quite some time, I am alone and lonely but in a far better place than when I was married and walled off.
Not just religion that fears this...
Varn comments on Jun 17, 2018:
I’ve an intelligent charismatic cousin planning to start a church with her (less enthusiastic) husband … just waiting for my uncle (her dad) to die in order to inherit the funds..
From my observations, it’s Educated women (and men) the church/es fear...
Barnie2years replies on Jun 17, 2018:
If she is charismatic and smart, starting a church is a great way to make money. Maybe somewhat unethical, but perfectly legal and tax free in most countries.
Varn comments on Jun 17, 2018:
I’ve an intelligent charismatic cousin planning to start a church with her (less enthusiastic) husband … just waiting for my uncle (her dad) to die in order to inherit the funds..
From my observations, it’s Educated women (and men) the church/es fear...
Barnie2years replies on Jun 17, 2018:
If she is charismatic and smart, starting a church is a great way to make money. Maybe somewhat unethical, but perfectly legal and tax free in most countries.
List Makers
Barnie2years comments on Jun 16, 2018:
I have a packing list, a things to do before I leave list (adjust thermostat, lock doors, lights off etc.), movies to watch list, and a few others I don’t have listed! ? Mine are all synced on WONDERLIST app.
Barnie2years replies on Jun 17, 2018:
@Petter, I like Wonderlist because it is synced with my computer, iPad and Android phone. For groceries or other shopping lists I can add items on any device and it is automatically on all of them. Since most of the time, if I don’t add it the moment I think of it, it doesn’t get on the list. ?
Barnie2years comments on Jun 16, 2018:
I have a packing list, a things to do before I leave list (adjust thermostat, lock doors, lights off etc.), movies to watch list, and a few others I don’t have listed! ? Mine are all synced on WONDERLIST app.
Barnie2years replies on Jun 17, 2018:
@Petter, I like Wonderlist because it is synced with my computer, iPad and Android phone. For groceries or other shopping lists I can add items on any device and it is automatically on all of them. Since most of the time, if I don’t add it the moment I think of it, it doesn’t get on the list. ?
America: Do you believe Canada is a socialist country?
escapetypist comments on Jun 16, 2018:
If you consider Canada to be socialist, then you could say California is socialist, too.
Barnie2years replies on Jun 16, 2018:
Many Republicans do! ?
escapetypist comments on Jun 16, 2018:
If you consider Canada to be socialist, then you could say California is socialist, too.
Barnie2years replies on Jun 16, 2018:
Many Republicans do! ?
Incest: Immoral or Moral?
Akfishlady comments on Jun 1, 2018:
First, I don't understand why anyone would be attracted to a sibling. Incest is not only repulsive but completely fucked. Sex is about intimacy between people who are attracted to each other not related. Ugh, the idea of this is replusive and who would anyone ask such a question?
Also it's kind...
Barnie2years replies on Jun 16, 2018:
@Akfishlady, it would appear from your statement that you were raped by your brothers, which is no way normal or condoned by anyone except certain Religious groups who justify rape by blaming the female. I can certainly sympathise with your feelings of betrayal towards those who abused you. But it does not necessarily reflect the question of consensual incest, especially between older siblings and not involving procreation. In many states, marriage between first cousins is legal, though overall many feel that is incestuous. And I have known older siblings of opposite genders who lived together for all intent and purpose as married, though whether they were sexually involved is unknown. And they seemed quite happy. My guess is there are at least as many incestual relationships among “good christians’ as there are among non believers.
Akfishlady comments on Jun 1, 2018:
First, I don't understand why anyone would be attracted to a sibling. Incest is not only repulsive but completely fucked. Sex is about intimacy between people who are attracted to each other not related. Ugh, the idea of this is replusive and who would anyone ask such a question?
Also it's kind...
Barnie2years replies on Jun 16, 2018:
@Akfishlady, it would appear from your statement that you were raped by your brothers, which is no way normal or condoned by anyone except certain Religious groups who justify rape by blaming the female. I can certainly sympathise with your feelings of betrayal towards those who abused you. But it does not necessarily reflect the question of consensual incest, especially between older siblings and not involving procreation. In many states, marriage between first cousins is legal, though overall many feel that is incestuous. And I have known older siblings of opposite genders who lived together for all intent and purpose as married, though whether they were sexually involved is unknown. And they seemed quite happy. My guess is there are at least as many incestual relationships among “good christians’ as there are among non believers.
Incest: Immoral or Moral?
Wurlitzer comments on Jun 2, 2018:
Why is it immoral to a theist is the better question. If god only created one couple then he mandated incest for a time. Even without the creation myth science tells us we’re all related. Everyone in the world is no more than 15th cousins to you. It’s all relative, pun intended but sex with ...
Barnie2years replies on Jun 16, 2018:
If you believe in Genesis, then you know the entire human race was built on incest. When your god only crates two people, one male, one female, and tells them to multiply, well.... Then your god floods the world and only saves one family and only two of every species, well.... So essentially any claimed morality vis a vis incest by anyone believing the Bible is the word of their god is total bullshit! ? Throw that back at them.
Wurlitzer comments on Jun 2, 2018:
Why is it immoral to a theist is the better question. If god only created one couple then he mandated incest for a time. Even without the creation myth science tells us we’re all related. Everyone in the world is no more than 15th cousins to you. It’s all relative, pun intended but sex with ...
Barnie2years replies on Jun 16, 2018:
If you believe in Genesis, then you know the entire human race was built on incest. When your god only crates two people, one male, one female, and tells them to multiply, well.... Then your god floods the world and only saves one family and only two of every species, well.... So essentially any claimed morality vis a vis incest by anyone believing the Bible is the word of their god is total bullshit! ? Throw that back at them.
Trump: Kim's people sit up when he speaks, 'I want my people to do the same'
Barnie2years comments on Jun 15, 2018:
He is so totally envious of every world dictator, it’s palpable!
Barnie2years replies on Jun 15, 2018:
@AmelieMatisse, he is just one big joke! His followers are one step from being SS members. I am sure supporters thought Hitler’s idea of rounding up Jews was pretty funny too.
Barnie2years comments on Jun 15, 2018:
He is so totally envious of every world dictator, it’s palpable!
Barnie2years replies on Jun 15, 2018:
@AmelieMatisse, he is just one big joke! His followers are one step from being SS members. I am sure supporters thought Hitler’s idea of rounding up Jews was pretty funny too.
Standardized expectations are not always a good measure of success.
Barnie2years comments on Jun 12, 2018:
Education is what separates us from animals. Standards of education keep it going in an efficient way. It may not work for everyone, but we seemed to have advanced better than any other creatures.
Barnie2years replies on Jun 12, 2018:
@McVinegar, do you know any others who dominate the world? You can debate whether we do it well or badly, but there are no other creatures who do more to educate and increase the the thought processes of their young and improve their cognitive functions than humans. Even if you travel to areas with little education, they may not function as a modern society, but they are still more advanced than the average bear (or any other animal).
Barnie2years comments on Jun 12, 2018:
Education is what separates us from animals. Standards of education keep it going in an efficient way. It may not work for everyone, but we seemed to have advanced better than any other creatures.
Barnie2years replies on Jun 12, 2018:
@McVinegar, do you know any others who dominate the world? You can debate whether we do it well or badly, but there are no other creatures who do more to educate and increase the the thought processes of their young and improve their cognitive functions than humans. Even if you travel to areas with little education, they may not function as a modern society, but they are still more advanced than the average bear (or any other animal).
A little deep and profound but something to think about because so many people do base their lives ...
webbew1 comments on May 27, 2018:
Most people, excluding those who are born with severe mental deficiencies such as sociopathic tendencies, are who they are based on the culmination of their experiences. Both good and bad.
A child who is otherwise born with no mental deficiencies but has been locked in a basement their whole ...
Barnie2years replies on Jun 10, 2018:
I would disagree with this, as it makes a whole lot of assumptions and extremes. There are children who grow up severely mistreated that, with some help and kindness become wonderful citizens, caring and loving towards their friends and family. There are many instances of well off, maybe even privileged children becoming monsters, serial killers and even presidents (LOL). The kids involved in the Columbine massacre were average middle class kids from decent families, yet they became vicious killers. There is no black and white when it comes to development of personality and change is possible no matter what the early circumstances.
webbew1 comments on May 27, 2018:
Most people, excluding those who are born with severe mental deficiencies such as sociopathic tendencies, are who they are based on the culmination of their experiences. Both good and bad.
A child who is otherwise born with no mental deficiencies but has been locked in a basement their whole ...
Barnie2years replies on Jun 10, 2018:
I would disagree with this, as it makes a whole lot of assumptions and extremes. There are children who grow up severely mistreated that, with some help and kindness become wonderful citizens, caring and loving towards their friends and family. There are many instances of well off, maybe even privileged children becoming monsters, serial killers and even presidents (LOL). The kids involved in the Columbine massacre were average middle class kids from decent families, yet they became vicious killers. There is no black and white when it comes to development of personality and change is possible no matter what the early circumstances.
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