What do men want in a woman?

VirginCotton comments on Feb 4, 2018:

A beachcomber found a jug on the beach picked it up, out jumped a Genie, who said to the man, 'I can grant only one wish.' The man scratches the head, he is from Hawaii, so he says; I want a bridge from here to Hawaii.' Genie says; 'Man that's impossible, judas, isn't there anything...

DUCHESSA replies on Feb 5, 2018:

I GUESS YOU WANT A WOMAN WITH A MIND LIKE A MAN'S

I would like to know which system of the brain gets activated by religion in order to produce what ...

AxeElf comments on Feb 4, 2018:

Well of course it's the cerebral cortex--that is where intentional actions come from. I don't know if it's "activated by religion" per se, though; more likely activated by a kind of groupthink desire to be one of the cool kids.

DUCHESSA replies on Feb 5, 2018:

@AxeElf Well, then, the professors who taught me about limbic system and neocortex were stupid? I will consult a person who knows.

I would like to know which system of the brain gets activated by religion in order to produce what ...

AxeElf comments on Feb 4, 2018:

Well of course it's the cerebral cortex--that is where intentional actions come from. I don't know if it's "activated by religion" per se, though; more likely activated by a kind of groupthink desire to be one of the cool kids.

DUCHESSA replies on Feb 4, 2018:

I will consult a professional; I don't think this irrational reactions spring out from the cerebral cortex

I would like to know which system of the brain gets activated by religion in order to produce what ...

wordywalt comments on Feb 4, 2018:

It is the same part of the brain which is involved in violent mob activity.

DUCHESSA replies on Feb 4, 2018:

IMHO...is the lymbic system...

So I decided to join a Grief Share group even though it is held at a church and is based on the ...

DUCHESSA comments on Feb 4, 2018:

We grieve exactly in the same way as other persons do.

DUCHESSA replies on Feb 4, 2018:

@jlynn37 Exactly,. When my kitty Blair Amanda passed... Amadeus...my other four legged kid when w/o eating for two days.

No way no to.

AnneWimsey comments on Feb 2, 2018:

1. 80 miles is about 2 hours, hardly a major impediment...meet halfway if you must. 2. Ageism is very unattractive, at any age.

DUCHESSA replies on Feb 4, 2018:

@AnneWimsey Dear, my supermarket is located six blocks away from my apartment....and the other at 15 blocks away. I don't drive 60 miles to meet s person....not even 45. Period.

Recently I had to send my beautiful cat, Appollo, to the Rainbow Bridge.

DUCHESSA comments on Feb 3, 2018:

I am sorry Apollo is not longer with us....and I congratulate you for giving your love and protection to Fin and Fiona; I know Apollo is happy you adopted them. I lost Amadeus, my wonderful Russian Blue....He was with me 21 years; I miss him dearly.

DUCHESSA replies on Feb 4, 2018:

@IAmLove I don; t want to cry...so I want tell you the things he did. He was the sweetest

No way no to.

AnneWimsey comments on Feb 2, 2018:

1. 80 miles is about 2 hours, hardly a major impediment...meet halfway if you must. 2. Ageism is very unattractive, at any age.

DUCHESSA replies on Feb 4, 2018:

@AnneWimsey Son? I never had -fortunately- kids...neither I have any related Freudian issues. I meant match...and you know it. Again, re-read my post.

Was at the National Holocaust Memorial in DC today.

Davesnothere comments on Feb 2, 2018:

I have stood in Dachau, in Nuremberg all the street signs show images of the streets after the fire bombings with the term "nie wieder", never again, so at each street you can see what it looks like today, and what it was then NEVER FORGET is the point. TOO MUCH of America now resembles Germany...

DUCHESSA replies on Feb 4, 2018:

@Davesnothere Thanks.

Ricky Gervais -- "I am an agnostic atheist" .

DUCHESSA comments on Feb 3, 2018:

Please, explaIn to me what do you mean by "agnostIc -atheIst" sInce the fIrst one means you are not sure god exIsts / doesn't... And the second means "god doesn't exIst".

DUCHESSA replies on Feb 4, 2018:

@AMGT No...but I am the person who enjoys sarcasm and the reactions it causes.

Recently I had to send my beautiful cat, Appollo, to the Rainbow Bridge.

DUCHESSA comments on Feb 3, 2018:

I am sorry Apollo is not longer with us....and I congratulate you for giving your love and protection to Fin and Fiona; I know Apollo is happy you adopted them. I lost Amadeus, my wonderful Russian Blue....He was with me 21 years; I miss him dearly.

DUCHESSA replies on Feb 3, 2018:

Amadeus

Ricky Gervais -- "I am an agnostic atheist" .

DUCHESSA comments on Feb 3, 2018:

Please, explaIn to me what do you mean by "agnostIc -atheIst" sInce the fIrst one means you are not sure god exIsts / doesn't... And the second means "god doesn't exIst".

DUCHESSA replies on Feb 3, 2018:

@Paul628 Indeed...LOL

Has Anyone Here Had Lasik Eye Surgery?

GipsyOfNewSpain comments on Feb 1, 2018:

Lasik surgery correct your deficiency in your eyesight but does not do anything when your eyes loses elasticity in the focus muscles. That is why sooner or later we all need reading glasses. Those are two different issues. Separated from each other. They can correct your eyesight to perfect but you ...

DUCHESSA replies on Feb 3, 2018:

What you desvribe is known as "presbicia"

No way no to.

AlasBabylon comments on Feb 3, 2018:

I got two results within 10 miles of where I live a few weeks ago. I hope to manage to get at least one of them to meet me at a coffee shop for conversation.

DUCHESSA replies on Feb 3, 2018:

@MST3K Indeed....but I get along a lot better with the guys.

I've been binge watching a lot of debates of late, and have been disappointed by the logical ...

silvereyes comments on Jan 28, 2018:

I cringe when theists debate. You can't fight logic with a desperate need to hold on to faith.

DUCHESSA replies on Feb 3, 2018:

@RobCampbell When I was wild and ferocious I used to waste time explaining things to them, .then, by the age of 13, I realized that their brains couldn't be cleansed.

Ricky Gervais -- "I am an agnostic atheist" .

DUCHESSA comments on Feb 3, 2018:

Please, explaIn to me what do you mean by "agnostIc -atheIst" sInce the fIrst one means you are not sure god exIsts / doesn't... And the second means "god doesn't exIst".

DUCHESSA replies on Feb 3, 2018:

@AMGT Agnostinc means "I don't know if god exists / doesn't....and Atheist means "No god." Period.

Does everyone know their nationality, or are some of you unsure?

david7wk comments on Feb 2, 2018:

My nationality is a mystery as I am adopted and have never investigated my birth parents.

DUCHESSA replies on Feb 3, 2018:

Well, for all intent and purposes you are your adoptive parents' nationality.

Does everyone know their nationality, or are some of you unsure?

KKGator comments on Feb 2, 2018:

I'm most definitely an American, and have the pedigree to prove it. Father's side were Dutch and Cherokee. Mother's side were Italian and French Canadian. I'm a mutt. The heartiest and most resilient of dogs! :D

DUCHESSA replies on Feb 3, 2018:

Only "in a lot of countrues? How about everybody under the sun?

Was at the National Holocaust Memorial in DC today.

Davesnothere comments on Feb 2, 2018:

I have stood in Dachau, in Nuremberg all the street signs show images of the streets after the fire bombings with the term "nie wieder", never again, so at each street you can see what it looks like today, and what it was then NEVER FORGET is the point. TOO MUCH of America now resembles Germany...

DUCHESSA replies on Feb 3, 2018:

@Davesnothere The faulty education our kids receive is nothing new / accidental; it has been orchestrated during decades. Lack of information / misinformation are two means very well implemented in our society. Why? Because the stupider a person is the easier to manipulate him / her....and said techniques have washed in many of those that today are in front of the classrooms. Not long ago, I overheard two teachers saying: "I don't understand why the Jews cry so much; the Holocaust is not truth." I hope during my 26+ years as a teacher I made some difference. I am sure I did. LOL, in more than one occasion the debates held by my AP students brought in the Principal thinking a fight was taking place in my classroom.

No way no to.

BobMcDowell comments on Feb 2, 2018:

Don't knock younger until you try it. heh heh When I was 55, two 30 yr. old women lived with me for four memorable months.

DUCHESSA replies on Feb 3, 2018:

@jlynn37 Indeed...to each its own....but I would feel revolted dating a guy more than three years younger than myself.

No way no to.

HippieChick58 comments on Feb 2, 2018:

If he trips your trigger go for it!! You might teach him a thing or three.

DUCHESSA replies on Feb 3, 2018:

Read my OP...read it carefully. Please.

No way no to.

ThereisnoDog comments on Feb 2, 2018:

Numbers mean nothing to love! Except 16, that number means a lot of bad things.

DUCHESSA replies on Feb 3, 2018:

Numbers may be nothing to you but a lot to others.

No way no to.

AnneWimsey comments on Feb 2, 2018:

1. 80 miles is about 2 hours, hardly a major impediment...meet halfway if you must. 2. Ageism is very unattractive, at any age.

DUCHESSA replies on Feb 3, 2018:

I LOVE WHEN PEOPLE READ WHAT I DIDN'T WRITE. I never said I was meeting anybody....only that all of the "nearby members" live too far...and the best natch could be my son. BTW, 80 miles is a veeeeeeeeeeeeery long distance.

No way no to.

Wildgreens comments on Feb 3, 2018:

Enjoy yourself life is too short. :)

DUCHESSA replies on Feb 3, 2018:

??????????????????????

No way no to.

Rugglesby comments on Feb 3, 2018:

I just had a look, 3 ladies in appropriate age range within an hours drive. Unexpected considering where I live, just shows we must have a lot of non believers in the region. One shows as 100% match. Will try and organise to meet for a coffee next time I head in that direction. She has intelligent ...

DUCHESSA replies on Feb 3, 2018:

One of these days I will post -for everybody to see- the list of all the A/A organizations I have.

No way no to.

AlasBabylon comments on Feb 3, 2018:

I got two results within 10 miles of where I live a few weeks ago. I hope to manage to get at least one of them to meet me at a coffee shop for conversation.

DUCHESSA replies on Feb 3, 2018:

And if it doesn't grow into something "serious" I hope you make two new friends.

No way no to.

Dick_Martin comments on Feb 3, 2018:

Maybe we are better off not meeting in person? Maybe we can have a meaningful relationship when it is not cluttered with bad hair, morning attitude, over-anxious pets, expensive dinner tabs, and farts?

DUCHESSA replies on Feb 3, 2018:

And who says that people want to share 24 x 7?

Was at the National Holocaust Memorial in DC today.

Davesnothere comments on Feb 2, 2018:

I have stood in Dachau, in Nuremberg all the street signs show images of the streets after the fire bombings with the term "nie wieder", never again, so at each street you can see what it looks like today, and what it was then NEVER FORGET is the point. TOO MUCH of America now resembles Germany...

DUCHESSA replies on Feb 2, 2018:

@Davesnothere While many may flinch back when facing this truth....my point is that there are many others who dpn't even know about the other tragedies.

No way no to.

BobMcDowell comments on Feb 2, 2018:

Don't knock younger until you try it. heh heh When I was 55, two 30 yr. old women lived with me for four memorable months.

DUCHESSA replies on Feb 2, 2018:

A man of 55 with a 30 y/o girl....OK...but the other way around..........hummmmmmm

No way no to.

BobMcDowell comments on Feb 2, 2018:

Don't knock younger until you try it. heh heh When I was 55, two 30 yr. old women lived with me for four memorable months.

DUCHESSA replies on Feb 2, 2018:

@jlynn37 All depends from which end are you analyzing the issue.

No way no to.

BobMcDowell comments on Feb 2, 2018:

Don't knock younger until you try it. heh heh When I was 55, two 30 yr. old women lived with me for four memorable months.

DUCHESSA replies on Feb 2, 2018:

I often wonder what a man / woman finds in a person who is 40 years younger; the experiences / knowledge are so different

Who never was religious?

DUCHESSA comments on Feb 2, 2018:

I was born into an Atheist (3 to 4 generations) family.

DUCHESSA replies on Feb 2, 2018:

@Condor5 Freethinking (a k a reasoning) was ENFORCED. Why and Are you sure? were common question among us.

Do you drive

DUCHESSA comments on Feb 1, 2018:

Trust me, those drivers that "drive pressing the brakes" infuriate me all the way to Timbuktu. They are annoying and prone to cause an accident.

DUCHESSA replies on Feb 2, 2018:

@Condor5 Of you are intelligent...

Was at the National Holocaust Memorial in DC today.

Davesnothere comments on Feb 2, 2018:

I have stood in Dachau, in Nuremberg all the street signs show images of the streets after the fire bombings with the term "nie wieder", never again, so at each street you can see what it looks like today, and what it was then NEVER FORGET is the point. TOO MUCH of America now resembles Germany...

DUCHESSA replies on Feb 2, 2018:

That's my point. Many have forgotten about the other genocides...and many others don't even know they took place.

Was at the National Holocaust Memorial in DC today.

DUCHESSA comments on Feb 2, 2018:

A side comment: We always talk about the Holocaust and its horror....but mankind never says a word about the 60 million people eliminated by Joseph Stalin....In fact, mankind never says a word about the genocide committed by the Europeans on the people of the New World... from 1492 and during ...

DUCHESSA replies on Feb 2, 2018:

@Davesnothere Well, people know a lot more about Cambodia, Cameroon and Armenia than they do about Ukraine (Stalin). About Argentina -and I am from there- was no genocide...unless you are referring to the thousand of people killed by the guerrilleros./

I've been binge watching a lot of debates of late, and have been disappointed by the logical ...

silvereyes comments on Jan 28, 2018:

I cringe when theists debate. You can't fight logic with a desperate need to hold on to faith.

DUCHESSA replies on Feb 2, 2018:

@RobCampbell IAW = In another words You interpret Sagan's words as a message to help others....I, on the other hand, I read his quote as the following: "They are so engulfed in their ignorance is a royal waste of time to talk to them. As individuals, we interpret things in many ways....OK?

Do you drive

DUCHESSA comments on Feb 1, 2018:

Trust me, those drivers that "drive pressing the brakes" infuriate me all the way to Timbuktu. They are annoying and prone to cause an accident.

DUCHESSA replies on Feb 2, 2018:

@Condor5 Sometimes you don't have other choice but to drive behind them.

Sooo.

DUCHESSA comments on Feb 1, 2018:

Your mom doesn't want you to meet a girl and settle down....no, what she wants is to become a grandmother...to have somebody (kid) to mold exactly as she thinks is OK. I had a "mommy" like yours....I never gave into her tricky ways....in fact, I put thousands of miles between her and myself.

DUCHESSA replies on Feb 2, 2018:

@SilverDollarJedi My dear...there are all kinds of bullies. Yes, there are people who always want to impose their ways; they usually end up alone.

Has Anyone Here Had Lasik Eye Surgery?

GipsyOfNewSpain comments on Feb 1, 2018:

Lasik surgery correct your deficiency in your eyesight but does not do anything when your eyes loses elasticity in the focus muscles. That is why sooner or later we all need reading glasses. Those are two different issues. Separated from each other. They can correct your eyesight to perfect but you ...

DUCHESSA replies on Feb 1, 2018:

Exactly....can't be avoided.

Has Anyone Here Had Lasik Eye Surgery?

DUCHESSA comments on Feb 1, 2018:

Yes...I did. Great decision

DUCHESSA replies on Feb 1, 2018:

@twshield Dry eyes....but drops solves the problem

Has Anyone Here Had Lasik Eye Surgery?

BucketlistBob comments on Feb 1, 2018:

My wife had it done before we hooked up... all she needs is 2.5 power reading glasses... I guess that's good. She pays a dollar for them at the dollar store... they look nice.

DUCHESSA replies on Feb 1, 2018:

@twshield Not necessarily; each case is different....it also depends on your original prescription. They performed cataracts surgery on me (first) although I didn't have cataracts but my prescription was too high and no laser was powerful enough for my case. They gave me the maximum allowed (crystalline) and laser on top.

Has Anyone Here Had Lasik Eye Surgery?

Vic47 comments on Feb 1, 2018:

Yep. Had it and it worked for 7 years. Now back to contacts and specs - more due to age though.

DUCHESSA replies on Feb 1, 2018:

@twshield I renewed the DL after the surgery: 20/20

Has Anyone Here Had Lasik Eye Surgery?

Vic47 comments on Feb 1, 2018:

Yep. Had it and it worked for 7 years. Now back to contacts and specs - more due to age though.

DUCHESSA replies on Feb 1, 2018:

@Vic47 I bet you new prescription is not anywhere near to what it used to be before the surgery.

Has Anyone Here Had Lasik Eye Surgery?

Vic47 comments on Feb 1, 2018:

Yep. Had it and it worked for 7 years. Now back to contacts and specs - more due to age though.

DUCHESSA replies on Feb 1, 2018:

It is....probably the person developed another condition....such as glaucoma or detachment of the retina....

Have you ever been told you look like someone famous?

DUCHESSA comments on Jan 31, 2018:

Yes, Bette Davis....all my life.

DUCHESSA replies on Feb 1, 2018:

@twshield Fortunately, I am not as ugly as Joan Crawford.

I've been binge watching a lot of debates of late, and have been disappointed by the logical ...

silvereyes comments on Jan 28, 2018:

I cringe when theists debate. You can't fight logic with a desperate need to hold on to faith.

DUCHESSA replies on Feb 1, 2018:

@RobCampbell IAW, Sagan was telling the world: "Don't waste your time with them..."v

Have you ever been told you look like someone famous?

DUCHESSA comments on Jan 31, 2018:

Yes, Bette Davis....all my life.

DUCHESSA replies on Feb 1, 2018:

@AMGT In the whole face...and in the eyes in particular.

Bullies---TIME'S UP Workplace drama - Day 2 A young lady from the new hire class walked out ...

silverotter11 comments on Jan 30, 2018:

The mean girls group needs to be dis-banded. Hope they got the message and don't just go off and try to justify their behavior to each other. Nice job JustLuAnn!!

DUCHESSA replies on Jan 31, 2018:

@silverotter11 Teachers can't do anything; we are not the disciplinarians. BTW, the school administration always intervenes...and if it doesn't work the matter is passed to higher authority within the DOE.

Bullies---TIME'S UP Workplace drama - Day 2 A young lady from the new hire class walked out ...

AlasBabylon comments on Jan 30, 2018:

Bullying, gossip, ridicule can certainly cause pain and psychological harm to a young person. I got laughed at a lot in high school, and it seriously harmed my self-esteem and feelings of self-worth. I know that many kids have been treated a lot worse than I was, and suffered much more. Children...

DUCHESSA replies on Jan 31, 2018:

Nothing like "getting the same". A kid...10 y/o...was told he was fat and stupid....and he retorted with "Your balls are small; I saw them at the locker room." The bully run away (still running) and my brother laughed until the day he passed.

Bullies---TIME'S UP Workplace drama - Day 2 A young lady from the new hire class walked out ...

Duke comments on Jan 30, 2018:

In my opinion, that sort of activity should be monitored during the hiring process. Those people should have been released and not employed.

DUCHESSA replies on Jan 31, 2018:

@Alicia_J I WOULD NEVER ACCEPT A BULLY' S APOLOGY AND i WILL NEVER BE HIS / HER FRIEND.....BECAUSE APOLOGIES DO NOT TAKE AWAY THE PAIN CAUSES AND i CAN'T BE FRIENDS WITH A PERSON THAT ENJOYED HURTING OTHERS. SOMETHING IS WRONG WITH HIS/HER BRAIN.

Bullies---TIME'S UP Workplace drama - Day 2 A young lady from the new hire class walked out ...

Duke comments on Jan 30, 2018:

I drive a Subaru. I have no need to prove that I have a bigger dick than anyone else. I also have no need to prove that anyone else is inferior. I was bullied when I was a kid. I get emotional when I see it happen to anyone... at any age. Fuck that. Don't tell me how or why I should learn how to ...

DUCHESSA replies on Jan 31, 2018:

Only victims of bullying will understand you. I laugh when people say "We talk to the bullies to solve the problem." TALKING TO THE BULLY ONLY MAKES HIM / HER TO FEEL HER DOING ARE SUCCESSFUL.

Bullies---TIME'S UP Workplace drama - Day 2 A young lady from the new hire class walked out ...

silverotter11 comments on Jan 30, 2018:

The mean girls group needs to be dis-banded. Hope they got the message and don't just go off and try to justify their behavior to each other. Nice job JustLuAnn!!

DUCHESSA replies on Jan 31, 2018:

@silverotter11 Teachers, my friend, are not there to educate but to provide knowledge. I didn't earn a Masters in Anti-Bullying / Manners but in Teaching Spanish. We, teaches, report the situation and the school administration and the Justice System are the ones that should be taking action.

5 Freedoms of Animal Welfare 1.

azzow2 comments on Jan 30, 2018:

Last time I had looked humans were animals, mammals as I remember.

DUCHESSA replies on Jan 30, 2018:

Sure but a lot less intelligent / caring than the four legged ones.

Bullies---TIME'S UP Workplace drama - Day 2 A young lady from the new hire class walked out ...

HippieChick58 comments on Jan 30, 2018:

Good for you!!

DUCHESSA replies on Jan 30, 2018:

I also remember saying "¿Alguien más?" = Anybody else?

Who is the better parent?

DUCHESSA comments on Jan 29, 2018:

IMHO, the courts gives the kids to the mother for something that is known as "tradition". I don't doubt in the past the courts wanted the man to be free to date / marry again....while the same system saw the women as individuals who shouldn't think about a second chance in life....and having to ...

DUCHESSA replies on Jan 30, 2018:

@JackPedigo Lovely.

Who is the better parent?

DUCHESSA comments on Jan 29, 2018:

IMHO, the courts gives the kids to the mother for something that is known as "tradition". I don't doubt in the past the courts wanted the man to be free to date / marry again....while the same system saw the women as individuals who shouldn't think about a second chance in life....and having to ...

DUCHESSA replies on Jan 30, 2018:

@JackPedigo i AM SURE A SUGAR-DADDY ONLY WANTS THE TANGIBLE THINGS YOU MENTION. SURE.

I never wanted to have kids, is that weird?

UrsiMajor comments on Jan 30, 2018:

Thanks so much for your post. I know exactly how you feel. Most people around me are having rivers of babies and sometimes I feel like a freak for having zero interest in kids. My marriage is ending because he thought I would change my mind.

DUCHESSA replies on Jan 30, 2018:

U always wonder why people feel they have the right to "change" the other person's mind

Bullies---TIME'S UP Workplace drama - Day 2 A young lady from the new hire class walked out ...

AtheistInNC comments on Jan 30, 2018:

@JustLuAnn You never answered the question: had the young lady been flirting with the trainer? What actually had the young lady done or said to cause this reaction? Also, by your description, I'm not sure whether this reaches the level of bullying. If they weren't addressing her directly with ...

DUCHESSA replies on Jan 30, 2018:

I read the first paragraph of your post....and I had to answer. Why do you imply it was the lady's fault? See, I was victim of bullying in more than one occasion....and my only doing was to be -according to the others- ugly and with eyeglasses. See, if the young lady was flirting....SO BE IT....Maybe the other girls were pissed off because the trainer didn't pass a ball to them.

Who is the better parent?

DUCHESSA comments on Jan 29, 2018:

IMHO, the courts gives the kids to the mother for something that is known as "tradition". I don't doubt in the past the courts wanted the man to be free to date / marry again....while the same system saw the women as individuals who shouldn't think about a second chance in life....and having to ...

DUCHESSA replies on Jan 29, 2018:

@JackPedigo Dear, if a man can become a sugar-daddy (in a fruitless effort to recover youth) a woman has the right to go cougar/ (personally I think is stupid to go cougar but to each its own).

Who is the better parent?

Trajan61 comments on Jan 29, 2018:

What bothers me the most is most judges give strong preference to a religious church going person over an atheist regardless of which one is the better person and more financially stable.

DUCHESSA replies on Jan 29, 2018:

And this happens because ignorance REACHES TO ALL LEVELS.

Seems like as safe a place as any to ask this! Many men say they like a strong woman.

azzow2 comments on Jan 29, 2018:

How do you mean strong? If someone is intelligent this is an asset. If they are aggressive this means that they are driven and want power, power gets capital and capital can buy things. If a woman is passive aggressive can bee seen a deceitful. There are a lot of factors that come into play it is ...

DUCHESSA replies on Jan 29, 2018:

The word is not aggressive but assertive.

Household Chores

Zster comments on Jan 28, 2018:

Washing the dishes. I hate the texture, the odor... it's just blech!

DUCHESSA replies on Jan 29, 2018:

Get a dishwasher.....jijijijij

Household Chores

AndyFreakingFord comments on Jan 29, 2018:

I don't dust. It's how I remember where everything goes...

DUCHESSA replies on Jan 29, 2018:

dear, the floor doesn't get dusted...Good comeback anyway.

Has your disbelief ever stained your reputation?

RandyMoose comments on Jan 29, 2018:

Many people assume I’m christian and become startled when I tell them otherwise. Saying, “ but you’re so nice,” or “how can you be so happy?” Like my being an athiest makes me a depressed grouch by default.

DUCHESSA replies on Jan 29, 2018:

I go through similar experiences....but for my last name (is extremely religious); people can't understand that a person whose last name starts with "saint" is an Atheist. Everybody in my family have had the same experience.

Question

ToakReon comments on Jan 29, 2018:

It is an indication of how closely agnostic.com thinks you 'match' with that person, based on the answers in your profile - or so I understand myself.

DUCHESSA replies on Jan 29, 2018:

@ToakReon No, no, no....YOU match me 68%......LOL

Question

ToakReon comments on Jan 29, 2018:

It is an indication of how closely agnostic.com thinks you 'match' with that person, based on the answers in your profile - or so I understand myself.

DUCHESSA replies on Jan 29, 2018:

I must be a rare critter....since I don't much with anybody. LOL

Gender bias & agnosticism

DUCHESSA comments on Jan 28, 2018:

I believe most men don't know how to chat.

DUCHESSA replies on Jan 29, 2018:

I won't tell you when / where...but a gent wanted to start a conversation with me. Each one of his answers was made of one word...and sometimes two words. He was not the only one. I don't say they don't have the knowledge to keep a conversation going but, simply, most don't know how to use said knowledge. I

I made it all the way to Level 7....PINPONPOM I am getting ice-cream to celebrate.

GipsyOfNewSpain comments on Jan 29, 2018:

Felicidades.

DUCHESSA replies on Jan 29, 2018:

De nada.

Household Chores

DUCHESSA comments on Jan 28, 2018:

Many years ago I received a kick on my back (gym) and any chore that requires I bend forward (making the bed / sweeping the floor....) is still painful....so, I bought a robovac (I named Eloise) to sweep for me. I wish they invent one to make the bed.

DUCHESSA replies on Jan 29, 2018:

@FrayedBear I use -like everybody- fitted sheets but I never heard of "doona". I' ll check.

I think it shoudl become federal law that rapists have no parental right for any children resulting ...

CS60 comments on Jan 28, 2018:

I would add: In cases of rape abortion should be an option. If it’s proven who the father is, he pays. I also think, this would lead to a fiasco in the courts - the old, he said, she said. I doubt rapes would drop because rape is all about power.

DUCHESSA replies on Jan 28, 2018:

Abortion is always an option...and not only in case of rape.

I think it shoudl become federal law that rapists have no parental right for any children resulting ...

Dick_Martin comments on Jan 28, 2018:

Criminals expect to not be caught. Shoving a list of consequences in front of them is not a deterrent. But more importantly, you appear to just assume that the woman is going to quite happily shift her life all around to bear and raise some violent stranger's child, even if it means depriving her...

DUCHESSA replies on Jan 28, 2018:

We do....and we exercise them....from the "Day after pill to abortion." BTW, I don't think the member assumed the woman will bear the kid but, in the case she does, the rapist has to support that kid until he/she is 18 u/o

How many folks here know who this is, and/or remember his presidency?

DharmaBum50 comments on Jan 28, 2018:

I was in junior high gym class when somebody came into the locker room and told us all that the president had been assassinated. Later on, my mother--a Republican--broke down and cried at the library, where we had gone after she picked me up at school. We watched all the TV about the assassination...

DUCHESSA replies on Jan 28, 2018:

@fantasticalice Do you mean "the truth your parents told you? No, I know JFK was not saint.

Assuming you are out of school, does continuing to learn matter to you?

NeoXerops comments on Jan 28, 2018:

Absolutely. I grew up in a crap town with crap schools. They only put emphasis on sports and very little on knowledge. A lot of our textbooks were grossly outdated. Most of the stuff I know today, I learned in the years after I left school. I learned from other people, by watching documentaries ...

DUCHESSA replies on Jan 28, 2018:

No, no crap schools but crap teachers.

Is it wrong to challenge the beliefs of the elderly?

wordywalt comments on Jan 28, 2018:

We do need to take care. If religious beliefs define the core of who that person has become, destroying that core can be debilitating if the person has nothing to replace it with and has limited time left.

DUCHESSA replies on Jan 28, 2018:

Nothung to replace it with? How about logic?

I've been binge watching a lot of debates of late, and have been disappointed by the logical ...

silvereyes comments on Jan 28, 2018:

I cringe when theists debate. You can't fight logic with a desperate need to hold on to faith.

DUCHESSA replies on Jan 28, 2018:

Carl Sagan said it best ""You can't convince a believer of anything; for their belief is not based on evidence, it's based on a deep-seated need to believe.""

What kind of snob are you?

DUCHESSA comments on Jan 26, 2018:

A geography snob. I go bonkers when a person says I went to Africa and I fall in love with Ukraine. / The Amazon is the longest river / Is cold in the Patagonia? / Rio de Janeiro is Brazil's capital / Amsterdam is a great country........

DUCHESSA replies on Jan 28, 2018:

@LennyP49 Darling, I wrote what I hear all the time. These are examples of the ignorance of many that I hear day in and day out BTW,, Rio de Janeiro USED to be Brazil's capital. Do you know the capital of Iceland, Turkey, Ukraine....even the capitals of the USA 50 estates?

What color (colour) are you?

DUCHESSA comments on Jan 27, 2018:

I like orange and turquoise...but never for winter clothes. I also love white, acqua and lilac ans salmon.

DUCHESSA replies on Jan 27, 2018:

@EllenDale Well, NY os warm during the summer////

How many people here have lived overseas

DUCHESSA comments on Jan 26, 2018:

I did...Argentina and Spain.

DUCHESSA replies on Jan 26, 2018:

@btroje An airplane...LOL

How do we know Christians are delusional? [youtu.be]

think-beyond comments on Jan 26, 2018:

When they speak for God!

DUCHESSA replies on Jan 26, 2018:

Well, the video is abiut something else.

How do we know Christians are delusional? [youtu.be]

BobMcDowell comments on Jan 26, 2018:

It's nice outside of the bubble.

DUCHESSA replies on Jan 26, 2018:

A lot nicer.......

How many people here have lived overseas

DUCHESSA comments on Jan 26, 2018:

I did...Argentina and Spain.

DUCHESSA replies on Jan 26, 2018:

@btroje I am from Argentina...which from USA is overseas....I like Spain OK I lived there only six months.

Can you guys give me some feedback on athiest churches?

Donna_I comments on Jan 25, 2018:

We could call the meetings 'salons' or is that to pretentious.

DUCHESSA replies on Jan 25, 2018:

I love it.

Can you guys give me some feedback on athiest churches?

DUCHESSA comments on Jan 25, 2018:

Here. Virginia Atheist Artists and Free Thinkers, Fairfax Charlottesville Skeptics Richmond Area Freethinkers Northern Virginia / Beltway Atheists Richmond Reason and Naturalism Association Meetup Shenandoah Valley Atheist and Secular Humanist, Cross Junction Tidewater ...

DUCHESSA replies on Jan 25, 2018:

@Anonbene I did the homework. According to MapQuest, Cascade, VA is located 53 miles from Burlington, NC...and there you have Burlington Atheist Meetup.

Can you guys give me some feedback on athiest churches?

DUCHESSA comments on Jan 25, 2018:

Here. Virginia Atheist Artists and Free Thinkers, Fairfax Charlottesville Skeptics Richmond Area Freethinkers Northern Virginia / Beltway Atheists Richmond Reason and Naturalism Association Meetup Shenandoah Valley Atheist and Secular Humanist, Cross Junction Tidewater ...

DUCHESSA replies on Jan 25, 2018:

@Anonbene I am sure there are more org. in your state; one of the org. in the list may know of new groups....and maybe of one closer to you. Also, you can attend those in other states. I used to go to one in CT because I live near said state.

Here in Iowa they are voting to put the Bible in our schools as a class.

mt49er comments on Jan 25, 2018:

Religions should be taught in school, but no religion should ever be taught in schools by a follower as schools are there in an attempt to enlighten.

DUCHESSA replies on Jan 25, 2018:

THE ONLY THING that should be taught about religion is its ompact on mankind since ever.

Here in Iowa they are voting to put the Bible in our schools as a class.

david7wk comments on Jan 25, 2018:

Hmm. There are arguments on both side. The Bible contains a lot of material that one should know if they wish to consider themselves educated in our culture. It also contains a lot of material for indoctrination. It all depends on how the course are taught. A neutral religious studies course would ...

DUCHESSA replies on Jan 25, 2018:

Do you actually think the course will be taught as culture? Please, is poor indoctrination.

“A penny saved is a penny earned.” How do you save or earn extra pennies?

I_dont_know comments on Jan 25, 2018:

I hardly ever buy clothes, ie. once or twice per year (50% off). I'll splurge on food. I try to stay away from the big box lumber/tool stores, and have been somewhat successful. The problem surfaces when it comes to hobbies. I currently quilt and I've not been able to curb the compulsiveness of ...

DUCHESSA replies on Jan 25, 2018:

A hint. I quilt as well....and whenever I am close to a second hand store (Salv. Army / Goodwill / My unique...) I check all the remnants they always have. NEVER USED. Last time, I bought material to make Thanksgivings place-mats..,one was orange and the other had flowers....I paid U$S 3,99 for both....and I made six place-mates. BTW,I also buy most of the wool we use for the blankets we make in the same stores. Michael's sell the spools from $4,99....and I usually pay $ 2,99

How Important is Nudity?

Babyseal comments on Jan 24, 2018:

I am a nudist and have been to resorts, hi. You are normal and now way you are a jerk

DUCHESSA replies on Jan 25, 2018:

@Babyseal In Australia (lovely country) I went to Bondi beach...but I prefer the resorts.

Loneliness and disconnection in the virtual age.

DUCHESSA comments on Jan 25, 2018:

Isn't all; this loneliness that we blame the Internet for... nothing else but a huge fear of rejection?

DUCHESSA replies on Jan 25, 2018:

@Akfishlady You just hit the nail on its head. One hour ago, at the comm. center, I was listening to my girlfriend's messages....in Spanish...and a member said "Again listening to "novelas"? I reacted kind of nasty....but few moments later I realized that I was an idiot since she was only joking. I apologized.

“A penny saved is a penny earned.” How do you save or earn extra pennies?

cap7ray comments on Jan 25, 2018:

I only ever buy necessities.

DUCHESSA replies on Jan 25, 2018:

@JackPedigo Exactly as you said....each curve have to be tailored to each person. Sure

“A penny saved is a penny earned.” How do you save or earn extra pennies?

cap7ray comments on Jan 25, 2018:

I only ever buy necessities.

DUCHESSA replies on Jan 25, 2018:

Well, wants are also nice....LOL

How Important is Nudity?

Babyseal comments on Jan 24, 2018:

I am a nudist and have been to resorts, hi. You are normal and now way you are a jerk

DUCHESSA replies on Jan 25, 2018:

@Babyseal I never visited that one.

What is Empathy?

azzow2 comments on Jan 24, 2018:

Not that I remotely agree with religion but not all priest are pedafiles. Not all cops are corrupt. Not all doctors are just practising.

DUCHESSA replies on Jan 24, 2018:

Needless to say....

Loneliness and disconnection in the virtual age.

AMGT comments on Jan 24, 2018:

What do you think the consequences of this disconnect will be? I prefer to be alone, though I don’t get much alone time. I don’t get lonely, except for my son. I have a wealth of friends, but I *really* appreciate quiet and alone. My social skills haven’t suffered as a result of my ...

DUCHESSA replies on Jan 24, 2018:

Several years ago, thIs Argentinian writer provided us with an answer to your "What do you think the consequences of this disconnect will be?" Apocalypse by Marco Denevi It was during the last years of the 32nd Century when the human race fell into extinction. The manner in which this occurred is described therein: the machines had reached such a high caliber of perfection that mankind was not in need of eating, sleeping, talking, reading, thinking, or of doing anything. It was sufficient enough for them to press a button and the machines would do everything for them. Gradually, everything began to disappear: the Bibles, the works of Leonardo da Vinci,tables, chairs, roses, the recordings of Beethoven’s 9th Symphony, the antique stores, the wine of Bordeaux, the swallows and orioles, the tapestries of Flanders, all of the compositions of Verdi, the Azaleas, chess, telescopes, the Palace of Versailles, the Gothic cathedrals, football stadiums, the Pieta of Michelangelo, the maps containing the ruins of Trajan’s Imperial Forum, automobiles, rice, the Redwoods, even the Parthenon. Only the machines remained. Afterwards, mankind began to take notice that they were also progressively disappearing while the machines were increasing in numbers. It only took a matter of time for the machines to duplicate themselves. The machines eventually occupied every possible place. One could not pass or move without tripping over them. In the end, mankind was eliminated. Since the last one forgot to disconnect the machines we then continued to go on functioning.

Where should the line be drawn, between religious freedom and mental illness?

DUCHESSA comments on Jan 23, 2018:

No sure....specially after this afternoon...when an acquaintance told me that my Atheism offends her.

DUCHESSA replies on Jan 24, 2018:

@DavidLaDeau Thanks

Rise of Atheism in Latin America: The Facts and Numbers! ...

BucketlistBob comments on Jan 24, 2018:

Hmmm..... 1/6th the population. Thats pretty good.

DUCHESSA replies on Jan 24, 2018:

@BucketlistBob We are talking Latin America....no America.

Rise of Atheism in Latin America: The Facts and Numbers! ...

BucketlistBob comments on Jan 24, 2018:

Hmmm..... 1/6th the population. Thats pretty good.

DUCHESSA replies on Jan 24, 2018:

And the Catholic church is scaaaaaaaaaared sh....ss of this fact.

How Important is Nudity?

Funandfondles comments on Jan 24, 2018:

I just think it’s wrong how ashamed of the human body people seem to be. It’s one thing to be worried about nudity for hygienic and other practical purposes, but no one should have to be afraid that their body is unacceptable. People are going to get aroused at first, but as long as they ...

DUCHESSA replies on Jan 24, 2018:

@RavenCT I guess if the young man is not "demented" he can control himself. As I said, I only saw one guy getting aroused...he was in his late 20s. When in Spain -World capital of Nudity- I went to get a coffee at the beach's kiosko; behind me was a gentlemen with two kids (they were textiles) and a long line of nudist/ non-nudist. Nobody gave a piff.

WHAT'S YOUR POSITION ON ABORTION ?

AgnoJer comments on Jan 24, 2018:

I'm an advocate of "ounce of prevention", as in the use of birth control. Abortion is a last resort, but better than an unwanted and likely rejected child.

DUCHESSA replies on Jan 24, 2018:

Excellent answer.

How Important is Nudity?

GipsyOfNewSpain comments on Jan 24, 2018:

It is who you are. Comfort zone is important to all humans... a place where you feel at home. But to many clothes is the big equalizer. I always say... if there is an afterlife... there will be no clothes. I remember being about 10 and talking with buddies about when I get married at 19 because I ...

DUCHESSA replies on Jan 24, 2018:

@RavenCT I also like Solair very much; people there were a lot friendliers than in BSV.. Big Bird...the puppeteer?