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Polyamory. Opinions?

Lucy_Fehr comments on Oct 5, 2018:

Not for me but have no objectives for others

Any American Horror Story fans?

Lucy_Fehr comments on Oct 5, 2018:

Loving this season so far

Urban commuting problems?

Lucy_Fehr comments on Oct 4, 2018:

On my list of shit to buy should I find it at a yard sale

A bit depressed

Lucy_Fehr comments on Oct 4, 2018:

About?

How do you feel if the person you’re dating has a close relationship with their ex (the parent of ...

Lucy_Fehr comments on Oct 4, 2018:

It is best for the child if their parents can maintain a good relationship. My ex did a lot of things with the mother of his child. He also paid some of her bills on occasion. Would not have helped his daughter to be evicted from her home. No, it wasn't always easy to bear but then again I attended my ex-husbands 45th birthday party. I once ate a holiday dinner with them as well. Sometimes people object to ex's being friends because they think it looks bad. I personally would not want to date someone that would treat the mother of his child like shit.

Anyone else use All Trails?

Lucy_Fehr comments on Oct 3, 2018:

I had downloaded it before my last trip but didnt get to use it. Forgot I had it until I saw this post.

[damweather.com]. I trust this source.

Lucy_Fehr comments on Oct 3, 2018:

I don't get the hysteria. I detest trump as much as anyone but I knew immediately that it was just an alert system. He just happens to be the president right now

Something I find interesting, members on here trying to encourage conformity without realizing it.

Lucy_Fehr comments on Oct 3, 2018:

I don't see why it is a big deal if someone isn't using their real face. There are many reasons why someone would want to maintain a bit of anonymity.

Indications of scammers on dating sites. Does anyone have any hints?

Lucy_Fehr comments on Oct 3, 2018:

They tell you fairly quickly that they find you captivating in some way. Almost always an engineer or high up in the military.

Here is George Clooney's response after Trump accused him of being a "Hollywood elite.

Lucy_Fehr comments on Oct 3, 2018:

Your first sentence clearly indicates that the following words are Clooney's so you're good.

[you.23andme.]

Lucy_Fehr comments on Sep 30, 2018:

Interesting to read when the ancestors came here. I'm going to posit that you are descended from slaves. My granddaughter is mixed and was told by someone on her other side that they were descended from slaves but no one has done any DNA testing or genealogy thus far according to my granddaughter. She wants to do her dna and Im thinking about getting her one.

Ladies be honest now. Would you date a man with the unibrow? Lol

Lucy_Fehr comments on Sep 30, 2018:

Of course

I've seen a few long-term members leaving lately.

Lucy_Fehr comments on Sep 28, 2018:

Ive been a member for nearly a year but have taken a few month hiatus a couple of times primarily because real life got too busy to sustain multiple hobbies and ag had the least amount of personal feelings invested in it. As time goes on, I open fewer posts and consequently respond to fewer because yeah, it does get boring having the same discussion repeatedly. I see some of the issues being discussed but also seem to have missed much of the drama I keep seeing references to. If I had more time, I would be chasing down the info out of curiosity but then again, "not my circus, not my monkeys" I will never fully jettison facebook due to family but am still hopeful that this site will become the primary someday.

What is the dumbest thing you've got pulled over for, got a ticket, or even arrested for?

Lucy_Fehr comments on Sep 26, 2018:

My brother was a known criminal in this little town for being a thief and my brother and I had never gotten along because he had always been a bad person since childhood. So the lifetime of being judged by his actions has always been a sore spot with me. When I see/hear people say someone is bad because a relative is, I will usually jump to the defense of that person because I know what that is like. In the days before cell phones, I was driving my husband's pickup while he had a friend's full of stuff because we were moving; I was in the rear. . Cops pulled me and said my brother had broken into a home and stolen things and they had reason to suspect I had the property. What was that reason I wonder? They took most of the shit out the pickup and found a wok still in the box. Yup, they claimed a wok was on the list of stolen goods and demanded I prove ownership. Believe it or not, I had the paperwork because I keep shit like that LOL They left all the shit on the side of the road and I was trying to reload it when my husband returned with the empty truck he had been driving. As I am rereading the above, I can see that I am still irritated over 30 years later.

42 years ago today I gave birth to my first child, Connie ?

Lucy_Fehr comments on Sep 26, 2018:

My daughter is always telling me she isn't a child and I always respond with " you are my child and when you are 70, you will still be my child"

Has anyone experienced any workplace prejudice regarding their atheist points of view?

Lucy_Fehr comments on Sep 26, 2018:

They think I am a satanist and appear to fear me. I know it's wrong but that shit is funny

Shit I hit level 7, when the hell did that happen, I was so happy with level 6

Lucy_Fehr comments on Sep 26, 2018:

I know, I busted my ass to get to 7 and then lost the desire to rack up points.

Just read an interesting factoid and some supporting thoughts on why this is: The Millennial ...

Lucy_Fehr comments on Sep 26, 2018:

Fewer marriages = fewer divorces I would imagine

As a child, were you forced to hug/kiss relatives or friends when you didn't want to?

Lucy_Fehr comments on Sep 25, 2018:

Yes I was forced to and no I did not force my children to. There was an incident at the store where an elderly kept trying to talk to my son who did not respond. She said something about rudeness and I immediately told her that my son had been taught not to talk to strangers and reminded her that she was a stranger. My youngest grandson has an aversion to hugging to me. Unsure if he is like that with everyone but my daughter in law tries to coax him into it but I always take his side. He is willing to fist bump so that is what we do.

Anyone else feel isolated?

Lucy_Fehr comments on Sep 24, 2018:

I've had one close friend for most of my life. That friendship had to end so now I find myself lonely for a pal all too often. One thing church has that we in less populated areas do not have is fellowship. I also have an insane schedule where I get up at 3am so am ready for bed when normal people are having dinner.

Men who never learned to cook

Lucy_Fehr comments on Sep 23, 2018:

I can cook pretty well but no longer care to. I also do not consider a lack of cooking ability a deal breaker as long as my potential partner does not think cooking is going to be solely my responsibility.

Children and Religion/Beliefs

Lucy_Fehr comments on Sep 23, 2018:

I never told my kids anything but I did not pretend to be religious either. I was an open critic of the bible however. I think my oldest will eventually be atheist based on some of the things she says such as "P may stop believing in god because she is into science" She kept leaving churches once they started up the anti homosexuality crap and calls herself a christian but will not attend the small minded churches around here. My grandchildren are aware of my lack of belief and since they've grown up knowing it, accept it. I know the oldest does not believe because evidence is lacking. He in turn influences his younger brother and the aforementioned youngest is a budding mad scientist They have occasionally gone to church when staying with friends or the other grandparents but do not seem to be buying into it.

Good Sunday morning! When dating do you judge someone on the type of work they do or just be ...

Lucy_Fehr comments on Sep 23, 2018:

I am more concerned that they have a job or something to go to. Volunteer work is acceptable as is taking care of parents etc. People that have nothing to get up and out for develop personality traits that do not mesh well with me.

Have you met anyone from this site?

Lucy_Fehr comments on Sep 23, 2018:

Had a lunch date with the only other person within 20 miles and 10 years of age at that time. He was interesting but there was no spark.

While I am obviously not religious, I have always been impressed with religious architecture.

Lucy_Fehr comments on Sep 23, 2018:

You can admire art in all of its forms no matter the motivation for creating it. I had a relative give me a turquoise cross years ago that came from a relative on the reservation. I was beautiful and I did wear it for a while. I have it somewhere and will likely give it to my daughter unless she deconverts.

As pharmaceutical companies always put their own interests first and considering the amount of ...

Lucy_Fehr comments on Sep 23, 2018:

No it is not in their best interests to cure anything and I would not be surprised at all to find out that cures exist somewhere in a lab of big pharma. Seems I saw something a while back where a pharma executive admitted that their business model was not sustainable if they found cures.

I highly recommend "A Brief History of Everyone Who Ever Lived" by Adam Rutherford for anyone using ...

Lucy_Fehr comments on Sep 19, 2018:

I just havent delved into it yet. My mother was adopted and I only know her birth mother. I have some clues as to her father may have been based on the memories of an elderly aunt who met the man when she was 14 but have been spread too thinly to devote the time I need to it. I found a first cousin that I didnt know I had and we still do not know how we are related but perhaps someday. I do know that my father came from poor stock and my birth grandmother was poor as well. I suspect that my relatives do not have the extra money to test their dna

This isn't so much about agnosticism as about being tired of always being near the bottom of every ...

Lucy_Fehr comments on Sep 19, 2018:

We don't even have pristine beaches to offer anymore

Asshole Yankees.

Lucy_Fehr comments on Sep 19, 2018:

Oh yeah, I'm familiar with them. They move to Florida because they hate NY then immediately try to turn the community they live in into another NY Port St Lucie has an official that moved here 6 years ago from NY. Considers it a selling point while running for office

What is an item you've inherited that you most treasure?

Lucy_Fehr comments on Sep 19, 2018:

A cedar chest my grandmother had. It was her older sister's before her. Her sister was much older and she lived with her to help take care of her. I spent much time with them as a young child and loved that chest. I once ran away by hiding in it. I did not have a stellar childhood when I was older but those times with them are among the happiest in my memory and that chest is a representation of that time. The chest was put in a shed outside after my grandmother moved to Fl and was the only thing left on the slab after hurricane David. My grandmother gave me the chest when I was out on my own and has been near me most of the time ever since I had an illness 10 years ago and lost nearly everything except my truck, my dog and what I could fit in a small storage unit. All my photographs and personal mementos went into that chest and I paid to store it off and on for a couple of years while I rented a room in other people's homes. I only share my previous travails to illustrate how determined I am and was to keep that chest It currently sits at the foot of my bed and contains chrismas decorations I deem too fragile to store in the garage.

How many of you live near national monuments or landmarks yet haven't visited them?

Lucy_Fehr comments on Sep 19, 2018:

Not really a monument but I am embarrassed to admit I live 5 hours from Key West and have never been. Lived here since I was 12 in 1975. I drove 7 hours to South Carolina a couple months ago, took a cruise to Alaska a couple of weeks ago, been to the Caribbean a couple of times but have never been further south than Miami

I am 48.

Lucy_Fehr comments on Sep 19, 2018:

I am not hopeful about being in a relationship when I live in a conservative, uneducated, Trump loving corridor of churches. There is a church near every school, more than one on nearly every street and the few single men I have met want to change me into their idea of a traditional lady but pay my own way. I am paying my own way and having shit my own way as well. I do not know any other non believers near my age of any gender. Added to the above problems is that I am related to people of color and will not tolerate that racist bullshit my area is so fond of. I get up at 3am for work so go to bed too early to socialize. Sometimes I think I may be lonely for adult companionship as I spend my off hours with my grandkids since they live here but even they are outgrowing me. It is true that I am more intolerant of things I accepted when I was young but I spent a lot of years just being alive rather than living. At least I respect myself now.

Hi, I used genesreunited a few years ago to trace my lot back to 1696 in a coach house in Axminster ...

Lucy_Fehr comments on Sep 17, 2018:

I need to follow up but ancestry tells me that I may be a direct descendant of an american patriot which would make eligible to join the daughters of the revolution.

HI. This group is new. Let's talk about genealogy. I have my tree on ancestry.com also did my DNA.

Lucy_Fehr comments on Sep 17, 2018:

I'm on ancestry and 23andMe. So far I have found out that my birth grandfather was not who I thought he was. I found and met a 1st cousin but we do not know how we are related. Found many 2nd cousins and spent a week visiting one of them a few months ago. I started the whole thing to find a half sibling and to verify native american heritage Im 99.9% white so there is that LOL

Would you settle with a religious person or just stay single?

Lucy_Fehr comments on Sep 17, 2018:

Stay single

New Genealogy Group

Lucy_Fehr comments on Sep 17, 2018:

I had my DNA tested at two companies but have been too busy to research anything so this sounds interesting

I am preparing to depart this site so I am transferring over my groups.

Lucy_Fehr comments on Sep 17, 2018:

I think I may stop using my real name on the site.

Have been AWOL here for a while - anything interesting up?

Lucy_Fehr comments on Sep 8, 2018:

I've only logged on a couple of times in the last 2 or 3 months. By the time I get through all the notifications, I'm done again LOL

Use four words to make an impactful sentence...

Lucy_Fehr comments on Jul 17, 2018:

Be not a dick

What's something that is popular right now that annoys you?

Lucy_Fehr comments on Jul 17, 2018:

Duck lips

How do you plan on raising your children?

Lucy_Fehr comments on Jul 17, 2018:

Badly. JK they're grown

I don't know how many are here, but I would like to ask the black people on this web site a serious ...

Lucy_Fehr comments on Jul 15, 2018:

Oh and you could have gotten your point across without actually using the word yourself.

I don't know how many are here, but I would like to ask the black people on this web site a serious ...

Lucy_Fehr comments on Jul 15, 2018:

Perhaps someone young and still dumb could be absolved but a man who has been in business as long as he has is aware of the consequences and thought he was above them. He deserves everything he loses.

Are you the type of person who seeks revenge when you’ve been wronged by someone?

Lucy_Fehr comments on Jul 15, 2018:

I plan revenge. I rarely follow through but I like to plan revenge that matches the offense. It has been over 20 years since I avenged something so I guess I'm more mature these days.

Hello Houston.

Lucy_Fehr comments on Jul 10, 2018:

Fort pierce is fairly cheap for a coastal town but the community events are small and often church sponsored. Still, I moved back here because a small town still has advantages. I am less than 3 hours from Orlando and Miami.

Waves from soggy saint cloud.

Lucy_Fehr comments on Jul 10, 2018:

I was geocaching at lake lizzie this weekend and water everywhere. Came home with me and my truck muddy

What small act of kindness was once shown to you that you'll never forget?

Lucy_Fehr comments on Jul 10, 2018:

A nurse took me home when I was a 16 year old runaway and sleeping in the hospital lobby. The first kindness shown to me except for a grandma I wasnt permitted to see. She had an infant and it was years before I truly understood the risk she took. Years later I let teens my kids brought home crash at my house as long as they didnt use drugs while in it. Most were lbqt that had been kicked out. Still in contact on facebook with many of them

I'm probably the outlier here, but I think fireworks are overrated and over done.

Lucy_Fehr comments on Jul 2, 2018:

I dont get the hype. Never did

@Admin love the variations now available under the "Like" Button. Way to go!

Lucy_Fehr comments on Jul 1, 2018:

Damn. I was hoping for a middle finger emoji LOL

What would you do if some of your Facebook friends were constantly posting those corny Hallmark ...

Lucy_Fehr comments on Jun 28, 2018:

I also just unfollow anyone that shares too much of anything annoying. As for seeing your posts on other sites the answer is possibly. If someone googled you they could potentially see a post you made on an unrelated site. If facebook should at some time in the future become affiliated with or absorb those other sites, your previous comments could become visible. I personally find this extremely unlikely to happen since your posts would quickly be buried beneath new ones but the possibility does exist. Posts you make on facebook in groups or on pages CAN be seen by your friends and no way to tell which ones will be featured on their feed. At this time your posts in closed groups are safe unless your friends are in the same group.

APPALACHIA’S $84 BILLION SECRET ...

Lucy_Fehr comments on Jun 28, 2018:

The site can't be reached

Star Trek or Star Wars?

Lucy_Fehr comments on Jun 28, 2018:

Trek. I've seen everything trek minus the most recent movie but only saw the first 2 Wars movies. I did enjoy the first Star Wars movie at the time I had a rough childhood and I adored how Spock was stoic no matter what happened. He was my idol for all my childhood and much of my adulthood for that matter.

How young will you date?

Lucy_Fehr comments on Jun 27, 2018:

I think my dating age rule is keeping me from dating LOL I was 17 when my daughter was born. She tends to date older. I pass for at least 10 years younger than I am so I get hit on by men the same age my daughter dates. Ew. This came up in conversation with my daughter recently and she informed me that I could go for it now since she has decided to stick to near her own age now.

I recently made a post that referenced a hideous creature called Alzheimer's Disease.

Lucy_Fehr comments on Jun 27, 2018:

Some people are just like that. I am one of them. My brother was murdered with a shotgun yet I have made jokes about blowing my head off. When I had cancer, I joked about death all the time. Doesn't mean I do not care about people dealing with similar situations, it just means that I dealt with my pain with humor. I get you.

I've been thinking more about the angry and dehumanizing tone that a tiny minority of our members ...

Lucy_Fehr comments on Jun 27, 2018:

I see where fuck trump supporters could be seen as a personal attack but "Fuck Trump" is aimed at a public figure. If someone happens to be upset at that then they are taking it too personally or identifying too closely with trump I like Miley Cyrus but I don't lose my shit when someone calls her names.

Person on this home improvement show said everybody needs "a good screwing surface.

Lucy_Fehr comments on Jun 26, 2018:

LOL

Just when I thought there was nothing happy going on in DC... [businessinsider.com]

Lucy_Fehr comments on Jun 26, 2018:

LOL

I know there have been several messages about blocking.

Lucy_Fehr comments on Jun 21, 2018:

Someone blocked you before you could get last word in? Blocking is so that a user no longer sees stuff from another user. The reason for the block is immaterial. Reporting people for silly reasons is a different story but forcing people to interact with someone they do not wish to would get this site emptied out pretty quickly

Life is short.

Lucy_Fehr comments on Jun 20, 2018:

Good advice lol

What idiot called it "Farmers Only" dot com and not "Chicken Tinder"?

Lucy_Fehr comments on Jun 20, 2018:

LOL

I k we have accumulated a lot of inactive account.

Lucy_Fehr comments on Jun 20, 2018:

No, I disagree vehemently; I myself joined after seeing it advertised but was pressed for time and didn't initially hang around. I came back after a few months and was on here all the time for a while but still take breaks. Had my account been deleted during that initial several month hiatus, I would not have made a new one nor would I have continued to "spread the word"

Pizzas anyone? Lol!!

Lucy_Fehr comments on Jun 12, 2018:

Lol

I have just received a reply to my "Greeter" message from a new member @loveintheair.

Lucy_Fehr comments on Jun 12, 2018:

Translator software needs an upgrade

I'm on this other dating website and I've never been married with no kids.

Lucy_Fehr comments on Jun 12, 2018:

I suspect she fears you won't understand her attachment to her children unless you've "been there". Or she assumes you're a playboy and will hurt her. We all have our red flags I suppose. Mine is socio-economic level. I hesitate to date anyone that is significantly higher up than me. Makes life a bit difficult since I'm more educated than most from a similar background as I but earn less than those whose education I match.

People we meet.

Lucy_Fehr comments on Jun 12, 2018:

Yeah, I don't think so

A Mysterious Silence Has Surrounded Julian Assange [theantimedia.

Lucy_Fehr comments on Jun 12, 2018:

I doubt they feel much shame. More like they fear being called out

Neanderthal dna

Lucy_Fehr comments on Jun 7, 2018:

I have 274 variants I tested on both Ancestry and 23 because I am looking for relatives and wanted to cast a wide net. Guess I will pony up the money for my half brother to test so I can narrow down which side is which Now off to read the comments LOL

I just now got a head's up that profile/bio pics can be 'like'ed! How cool is that?

Lucy_Fehr comments on Jun 7, 2018:

I feel foolish but I don't see that option when I visit a profile

Million dollar idea: I have a new dating site that I might start a kick-starter campaign for.

Lucy_Fehr comments on Jun 4, 2018:

lol Call it Lust for Lids

How do you handle family members that have cut you off or vice versa?

Lucy_Fehr comments on Jun 3, 2018:

They're willfully ignorant bigots and I have mixed grandchildren Not seeing a reconciliation happening.

Ladies, we burned the bra in the 70s.

Lucy_Fehr comments on Jun 3, 2018:

Mine are way too big to not wear a bra. TMI but there it is

What is your fondest childhood memory?

Lucy_Fehr comments on Jun 3, 2018:

I didn't have a great childhood and most of my memories were lessons but the few I have are from visiting my grandmother who was caretaker to her older sister. They adored me and spoiled me terribly when I visited. I don't like soggy flour products so wouldn't eat the bottom of pie crusts. My aunt Mamie would bake me pie crusts. Just the crust and break it up like cookies.

I highly recommend the Pl@ntnet App! It's for identifying plants,you snap a picture and upload it to...

Lucy_Fehr comments on Jun 1, 2018:

Installed. Thanks I have this small tree in my front yard that is beautiful when it flowers but nobody knows what it is.

I am just finding out now, at 61, that some of my friends are racist.

Lucy_Fehr comments on Jun 1, 2018:

Ive had to give up a friendship from childhood because of racism. From the use of the N word to complaints of my daughter taking her mixed race kids around too many black people.

Has anyone single here, or at least, living alone, wonder about what type material things really ...