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Good afternoon everyone! My cable was off for a couple of hours so I was reading.

TomMcGiverin comments on Aug 17, 2019:

Welcome to my world of having only estranged family, instead of supportive family. I'm very grateful for my friends who have replaced them in my life. Maybe this might make it easier for others to understand why it would be so hard to move away from them just to have a better dating pool. Easier said than done. I now have 3 unsupportive siblings and my friends, that's it, in my life.

THIS JUST IN!!!!!

TomMcGiverin comments on Aug 17, 2019:

I haven't drank since 1996, so it's a good thing I'm retired. Most of my jobs were not that enjoyable tho, so I can relate, at least in my memories......

Congratulations to @bobwjr for reaching level 9 !! Woohoo.

TomMcGiverin comments on Aug 17, 2019:

Couldn't happen to a nicer guy...

I am in the chatroom...not sure if its still being buggy.

TomMcGiverin comments on Aug 16, 2019:

Looks like it's being buggy again. It was fine earlier this evening. I tried to join and it wouldn't admit me and it doesn't look like it was letting you chat.

Every time I log on with my Desk Top to Agnostics, I get and error message from Microsoft telling me...

TomMcGiverin comments on Aug 16, 2019:

No, but I've had other problems with the site recently.

A couple we can respect

TomMcGiverin comments on Aug 16, 2019:

Speak for yourself. I loathe them and the Clintons, but for different reasons than conservatives do. Just another pair of sellout, Neo-liberal corporatists who posed as liberals.

Which response is your favorite?

TomMcGiverin comments on Aug 16, 2019:

My problem now is being widowed and trying to date in a local area where the mainstream culture is all about family and kids, even at my age, so even the childless women seem to only want to date family men. Maybe they are trying to hedge their bets for not having kids by dating a guy with kids so they can be adopted by his family if they are widowed and lonely later, then his family will look after them and keep them company. No less selfish than the argument below about having kids so they will take care of the parent in their old age.

Who has been called a nerd? Are you proud of it or is it just me?

TomMcGiverin comments on Aug 15, 2019:

I've never been called a nerd. Other negative labels, yes. I am proud to be an intellectual and am proud when I am labelled that once in a great while. I wish America was a place where the term was not usually accompanied by a sneer.

Sweet. I can't even imagine it though!

TomMcGiverin comments on Aug 15, 2019:

As Tony Soprano once said to his therapist, " The circle jerk of life".....

The site appeared to be down for a while this morning. Did anyone else experience this?

TomMcGiverin comments on Aug 15, 2019:

This evening I tried joining the single/mingle chat room and it wouldn't let me in.

Hi Everyone -I'm in the chatroom at 6:24 PM if anyone wants to chat.

TomMcGiverin comments on Aug 15, 2019:

I tried to join you, it won't work or let me in.

Strange how people have to resort to insults when they don't like someone's opinion "AnneWimsey ...

TomMcGiverin comments on Aug 15, 2019:

I blocked AW a long time ago. I suggest you do the same...

Is it okay to pretend to love someone if you're up front about it?

TomMcGiverin comments on Aug 14, 2019:

Reminds me of the Clintons sham of a marriage a bit. Could never believe that Hillary actually forgave and still loved Bill after all the humiliation he put her thru. No doubt she stayed married to him and they both faked their continued marriage all for her political ambition and their shared hunger for power..... And understand that my contempt for the Clintons, as well as all corporatist pols, is not because I am a conservative, which I am not, but because I am a socialist who hates all pols that are phony and serve the status quo.

More sad evidence for mysogyny in the Land of the Unfree.

TomMcGiverin comments on Aug 14, 2019:

Makes sense to me. Women sure don't do mass shootings that I've ever heard about even tho there are many women who own guns, enjoy shooting, and even have military training with guns. Maybe they just don't have the same level of hatred towards others that these men have and are also not as sexually frustrated. The other piece of the puzzle may be that women do not have the same sense of entitlement as white men, who do almost all the mass shootings, seem to have. Therefore, less rage when they do not get their way in love, jobs, etc..

I am hurt and angry.

TomMcGiverin comments on Aug 14, 2019:

Good looking people attract more interest and people, both of the good and healthy kind as well as the bad and unhealthy. I wish I had your amount of interest in me from others, but I am grateful I have not had your kind of problems with dating. I wish I could understand better or be more empathetic, but I can't and won't pretend that I can. As one of my mentors on here says, it goes both ways. I wish I could understand how people with lots of interest from others think, but I honestly don't. Too bad having your shit together and wanting only one person is not enough these days to get interest from others and find love. I remember being younger and finding that it was often enough back then, but it sure as hell isn't enough now. Wish you the best, Marianne and that I could help....

Hey guys what do say when you meet someone in person from online dating and you are not physically ...

TomMcGiverin comments on Aug 14, 2019:

LL- Thank you for as least asking the ? and thus showing you are more kind and considerate than most people in online dating, who would just take the easy way and ghost. Like skado said below, there is no easy answer. You could do what I do in those rare situations where someone is more interested in me than I am in them and do this: Send them a short message thanking them sincerely for meeting you and point out something positive about them so they feel some encouragement about being dateable in general, but also make it clear that you do not feel they are a match for you and that you are moving on. If they bother to ask your reason or reasons for not wanting to continue to see them or have contact, which is very rare in my experience that someone would ask, I will tell them the blunt truth, since they are an adult and by asking they are implying they are able to handle the truth, so that's what I will give them. On the face of it, asking the reasons why someone is rejecting you may seem to make no sense or be useless, but, having been on both ends of the rejection situation in online dating, it does make some sense in that otherwise the rejected have no real data or info to understand why they are experiencing so much rejection, a common experience in online dating, and it also helps give the rejected more of a realistic idea who they have a chance with in online dating and who they don't. Which, trust me, can be helpful in such in an otherwise impersonal, mysterious process as online dating is anyway. With so much rejection and ignoring that average looking and most people in online dating experience, some honest feedback can be very valuable and useful, esp. if it concerns something the rejected party might be able to do something about, like hygiene, attitude, what they said or shared that was inappropriate etc..

"Are You Pretty Enough For Him?

TomMcGiverin comments on Aug 14, 2019:

I just ran across a profile on Our Time of a woman from my town that had no pics of her, just two of her dog in the backyard and one of a plate of food. Someone this clueless is not even worth bothering to message and tell her to include some pics of herself.

More gangster cats

TomMcGiverin comments on Aug 14, 2019:

Still makes me think of a Tarantino movie, Reservoir Cats........

I wonder how many Woodstock attendees saved those stubs?

TomMcGiverin comments on Aug 14, 2019:

My late wife didn't, but she had pics that prove she was there.

DC MD VA peeps. Happy hour get together posted in our group.

TomMcGiverin comments on Aug 14, 2019:

Wish something like that could happen in the Des Moines area on here, but we don't even have the critical mass to try it.

Joe Biden, speaking in Iowa, says 'poor kids' are 'just as talented as white kids'

TomMcGiverin comments on Aug 13, 2019:

Ah, Uncle Joe, the darling of the Clinton, DLC, Dem establishment leaders who care more about stopping Bernie than winning the next prez election. He will probably be their nominee and, just like Hillary, will be a sure loser in 2020 against Trump. You heard it here first. He is just as out of touch and apathetic about average people as Hillary, just less smooth......

"Are You Pretty Enough For Him?

TomMcGiverin comments on Aug 12, 2019:

Objective beauty, as he defines it, is a real issue that does matter a lot to both men and women. The proof of that is which sort of people on dating sites get their messages read, much less replied to. If your pics are not attractive enough, people will swipe away or reject you on that initial fact, no matter what you say in your message or in your profile essay. Having said that, we have had many discussions already on these boards on the concept of leagues and classes of looks, so I will not repeat all of that here, except to tie it to this video by saying that some if not much of the frustration of online dating is the fact that most, if not all, of us, are trying much of the time to date out of our league or class of looks by pursuing people who are too good-looking for us, based on objective beauty. So we get rejected by them because we are below their level of objective beauty. I had a dating and relationship coach take a look at my dating activity on Match and I asked her if I appeared to be trying to date too much out of my league in who I was messaging, etc. She said I was trying to do that some of the time, but not often enough for her to be concerned about it or for it to be that unusual compared to most people. She said that the point is that when you pursue people outside of your level of looks you can never expect a reply, because you will almost never get one. Perceived beauty, as he defines it, will only come into play with online dating after you have already met the other person's standards for objective beauty, which means it will never have a chance unless your photos are already impressive or your beholder has very low or loose standards of objective beauty, both very rare these days. Very few people who shine or have great in person charisma to compensate for their lack of objective beauty will get that chance with online dating. Those people are better off putting their energy and focus into meeting people IRL and dating organically instead of online.

At current rates a federal reserve board study shows that the top 10% will own 100% of the wealth in...

TomMcGiverin comments on Aug 12, 2019:

In less than 33 years, the US will look like a Mad Max movie and I will be dead, hopefully......

When Black Panthers Carried Guns, Conservatives Supported Gun Control [buzzfeednews.com]

TomMcGiverin comments on Aug 12, 2019:

I was alive back then too. The issue of who, as far as racial groups, were allowed to carry guns and own them has always been about who should hold the real power in the society. Nowadays tho, poor whites are deluded enough to think that owning and carrying guns gives them real power in this society when the clear truth is that real power these days in America is about being wealthy, not having guns.

Curious what men here think when a woman describes herself as “about average” on a dating site ...

TomMcGiverin comments on Aug 11, 2019:

I have been on Match for almost two years and the vast majority of female profiles my age describe themselves as " About Average" in the body type category they choose for themselves. I have gotten to the point that I will not bother messaging the woman if she does not include a full body shot photo of herself in the profile pics, because I will not just take someone's word about their body type, nor should they take my word about my body type. We all know damn well that body type matters to almost all people on dating sites, be they male or female. Too bad some will not admit that harsh truth. BTW, you forgot two other options that I believe are still in the Match list of body type categories, namely Curvy and Big And Beautiful, the latter being a euphanism for the most part, at least in my book......As far as your argument about "average" meaning about 10-20 lbs over the medical ideal, that weight is about average body type in my mind, but, as I said, I long ago quit assuming that body type came with the use of that term on dating sites.....

What to do?

TomMcGiverin comments on Aug 11, 2019:

Bernie got played last time when he accepted the compromise with the party leaders and Hillary supporters to let the party continue to have superdelegates and not let them vote until the second ballot at the convention. He should have known that the party establishment would be ready for him in four years and rig things with a large, diluted field of candidates so that no one candidate would win on the first ballot and thus the superdelegates would once again be able to nominate another corrupt, corporatist centrist like Biden on the second ballot, which is probably what will happen unless Bernie and Warren join forces to unite their supporters and win on the first ballot. Most of the superdelegates are already elected officials and they have no shame. Harassing them will not get them to change their votes for the nominee, altho it might make you feel better.

Got my T shirt and pen!

TomMcGiverin comments on Aug 11, 2019:

Considering how recently you joined, you made level 8 in record time...

Had a nice day with my new girlfriend, Renzie, up at Lake George on a brunch cruise.

TomMcGiverin comments on Aug 11, 2019:

Friendships are very crucial, esp. if you are not close with family, as is my case. What is consistently disappointing is that same sex friendships are hard to find among single men my age. I have tried to become friends with other single men I have met thru Meetup groups and a couple singles groups, but with no luck. These guys just don't seem motivated or interested in making any male friends, they are totally focused on finding a woman to date and seem to consider male friends to be a distraction or waste of their time, even tho we both could use the support, friendship, and encouragement of another friend who is going thru the dating struggles too like them. My one recent friend happens to be married and very socially active. Go figure. But even tho he is encouraging about my dating efforts, he doesn't have any patience or interest in hearing about my negative experiences with it. For that, I have to rely on other friends or vent about it here, where, also, the tolerance is often very limited in what people are willing to hear.

Honey, where is the cat?

TomMcGiverin comments on Aug 10, 2019:

Reminds me of the neighbor cat I knew years ago that was smart enough to know how to hide behind trees from humans.

Only atheists.

TomMcGiverin comments on Aug 10, 2019:

Living in San Fran, you should have tons of non-believing men to choose from, unlike us folks here in flyover land. The stats are definitely on your side in that locale.......

Jeffrey Epstein, accused sex trafficker, is dead by suicide, found in his Manhattan jail cell

TomMcGiverin comments on Aug 10, 2019:

The house of cards was just preserved by this convenient death, what do you mean Paula? His death covers it all up for the guilty members of his sex ring.

Jeffrey Epstein dies while in DOJ supervised prison, shortly after being taken off suicide watch.

TomMcGiverin comments on Aug 10, 2019:

Either way, it's no surprise. This was like Jack Ruby and Oswald after the JFK assassination. There was no way he was going to be allowed to rat out all the VIPS that he stood to get a deal for testifying against concerning his sex ring. If he didn't kill himself, he was going to be whacked anyway and he undoubtedly knew that.

Well, here I am single again....

TomMcGiverin comments on Aug 10, 2019:

Sometimes you can't save a drowning person because they don't seem to even want to try to survive or just don't have it in them to survive any longer. Sounds like you did as much as possible for her. Time to save yourself and not let her pull you under. Like, LL, I am curious if it's someone from this site, so I can stay clear of her myself.

The Fugs I could not get high! A over the top band of dubious merit! Still love their ...

TomMcGiverin comments on Aug 10, 2019:

Beat all hell out of Afroman's " Because I got high"....

On a positive note.

TomMcGiverin comments on Aug 10, 2019:

I am exactly who I say I am on here, for better or worse. Too bad there is no one local to date from Agnostic. Still feel fairly alone on this site.

Arlo Guthrie - Alice's Restaurant 1967 [m.youtube.com]

TomMcGiverin comments on Aug 10, 2019:

So many times in my life, living here in Iowa, I have experienced what Arlo's character does in the song where the draft board tells him, " Kid, we don't like your kind.....".

Shadow doing his tech support "Have you tried turning it on and off again?"

TomMcGiverin comments on Aug 9, 2019:

Looks like a hip kitty to me....

‘Straight Pride’ Leader Slips Up Pleading Case To City Council

TomMcGiverin comments on Aug 9, 2019:

Very funny. Some shit is so strange you just can't make up anything funnier or weirder than that.....I'm sure that will have a long life on You-Tube....

Iowa Religious Extremist Who Burned Library Books Faces The Law [au.

TomMcGiverin comments on Aug 9, 2019:

His attitude is not surprising as he lives in the western part of Iowa, a cultural wasteland and backwater, as far as this Iowan is concerned. There are no universities there, almost everyone is conservative, white, and religious, and Steve King represents them in congress, a man who is openly as racist as Trump. What does surprise me, since Orange City has a college that is conservative Christian, is that some brave souls organized a Pride event. That part is encouraging. About the only liveable parts of Iowa are in the central and eastern parts of the state where there are some universities which attract educated, diverse, and tolerant people. The rest of the state outside the larger cities are mostly filled with rubes, hicks, and other ignorant, narrow-minded types that are best to avoid at all costs....

[thoughtcatalog.com] 40 questions single women are tired of hearing. Do you ask any of them?

TomMcGiverin comments on Aug 8, 2019:

The only one I have ever asked, if any, is some variation on how long have you been single/widowed/divorced, and only to get some idea how long they have been on their own, how settled into being on their own they are, etc. I would only ask this of someone I met from a dating site, otherwise it is none of my business. I also agree with the short list of platitudes at the end of the article, all of which I get sick of seeing used here on Agnostic way too much of the time: Don't worry. The right one is out there. Your right one will come along as soon as you quit looking, etc. All of which are magical thinking and empty platitudes. The reality is that being alone when you prefer to be coupled sucks and others who tell you different are trying to make themselves more comfortable with you or get you to stifle your unhappiness about your situation.

Mass shootings. Perhaps it's a societal issue like obesity and religion?

TomMcGiverin comments on Aug 6, 2019:

Nobody but the police or military need automatic weapons or ones that can easily be converted to automatic weapons. If you have so little trust in your police and military to think that they will be against you should the government decide to impose martial law and become a dictatorship, then you have bigger problems than you will be able to solve with just a large group of preppers, rednecks, and conspiracy nuts armed to the teeth, but too disorganized to beat the combined forces of the police and military who will be much better organized and with integrated communication systems. I can only hope in that case that the grunts in the police and military will stand down and side with the common people as they did at the end of the Soviet Republics in the 80s.

Janis Joplin Big Brother and the Holding Company - Piece of my heart [m.youtube.com]

TomMcGiverin comments on Aug 5, 2019:

It's really annoying here in central Iowa that most women, both my age and younger, only know of Janis from two songs, mainly from her glorified country song, Me And Bobby McGee by Kris Kristofferson, which was a big hit for her even tho it's nothing like her real music (but here in country music land everybody has heard that one and usually likes it best) and then the cover of this song by country singer Faith Hill, which sounds very little like Janis's sound. Man I get sick of how country music dominates the culture here, but I'm too old, tired, and weak to want to move and start over on my own. I tell the women who sing the Faith Hill cover of this or Bobby McGee to please do me a favor and try singing a real Janis song sometime instead of these two lame songs that Janis is connected to, since the songbooks usually also have Get It While You Can, Down On Me, Cry Baby and Try Just A Little Bit Harder, and Little Girl Blue, in other words real Janis songs with soul.

Shirt is slightly altered...(just like me!). Advertising slut.😂

TomMcGiverin comments on Jul 27, 2019:

Thanks for promoting the site Marianne. You make a good Vanna....

Well, Ladies, who wants to take Bachata lessons with moi?

TomMcGiverin comments on Jul 26, 2019:

A straight man who can dance is so far ahead of the game with most women who love to dance that he can be below average looks and still get lots of interest from attractive women. So many of said women are tired of dancing with gay men or else straight men who are full of themselves.

I just told my friend I think I am the runaway bride of dating!

TomMcGiverin comments on Jul 26, 2019:

May well be true. You seem to attract quality men compared to the rest of what's out there, but maybe deep down you don't want to be coupled with anyone. Something to ask someone more qualified than me, like an experienced therapist. Like Deiter said, wish I was as spoiled with good choices as you seem to be.....

The Horrors of Jeffrey Epstein’s Private Island | Vanity Fair

TomMcGiverin comments on Jul 26, 2019:

Sometimes the only justice in this life comes only in vigilante or revenge style. If the father or mother of one of those girls ever catches up to him and blows him away, I wish I could be on their jury to nullify any murder charges against them.......

A few suggestions for the guys on dating sites: First, post a picture of YOU and not some actor.

TomMcGiverin comments on Jul 25, 2019:

Like Sticks says all the time, it goes both ways (with both genders) when it comes to being deceitful and being shallow in online dating or dating in general. Having this debate over and over with each gender defending their fellow gender members becomes really old and tiresome. Let's all be honest enough to just admit that for once and quit waging gender wars on here.

Alaska is Far Out ! Anybody travilin' up this way is welcome to look me up.

TomMcGiverin comments on Jul 25, 2019:

I leave Sun. on a cruise from Seattle to AK, but it only goes as far north as Juneau, so I won't see you.

Does Uncle Sam Exist?

TomMcGiverin comments on Jul 25, 2019:

I don't give a damn, fit that into your poll......

With all kinds of room on the bed to curl up and nap, of course Chloe chooses the newly laundered ...

TomMcGiverin comments on Jul 25, 2019:

Cats target the warmest spot in the room better than a heat-seeking missile.....

Gangster cats:

TomMcGiverin comments on Jul 24, 2019:

Reservior cats, from Quentin Tarantino, coming soon to the big screen........

friends are important...

TomMcGiverin comments on Jul 24, 2019:

Yes and no. While making platonic friends thru a paid dating site like Match happens all the time and there is nothing wrong with that, I recently had an experience with Match what makes me beg to differ on all the happy talk of collateral friendship from dating sites. I met a woman for coffee after trading a bunch of long messages with her and much sharing of personal info. On paper we looked to be very compatible, which she even admitted later after rejecting me by a message the day after we met in person.She also admitted that, unlike me, she had never felt any physical attraction for me based on my pics but still decided to meet me in person because even tho she said that she felt it was pretty unlikely or completely unlikely that she would feel attraction for me after meeting me, she thought I seemed compatible enough to possibly be good friendzone material, so she wanted to meet me for that reason. As I told her in my reply to her rejection message, her attitude about meeting with a man from a dating site after giving him reason to think she was open to and likely interested in seeing if there might be more than friendship, with all the long, friendly, enthusiastic messages, is very patronizing, at least in my book. To have this secret agenda of interviewing and auditioning a guy for solely a friendzone relationship while giving him reason to think that a romantic relationship is actually on the table if very selfish, arrogant and patronizing to the guy. And I told her so. I said guys and women too, for the most part, do not join paid dating sites for the main purpose of making platonic friends and her private agenda was insulting and hurtful, at least to me. This is why, as I told her I do in my online dating, that if I see a woman's pics and don't feel any attraction, I don't message them. If they message me, I reply and simply say I'm not interested. I don't think it's right to play games like she did and lead people onto thinking they have a chance to be more than friendzone when it's already been decided in advance by the other person. Doing that is cruel and selfish. I told her to shove her strategy for finding male friends and maybe join a Meetup group that is not centered around dating to meet platonic men, that way nobody is mislead.

Sweet photos of elderly couples in love [huffpost.com]

TomMcGiverin comments on Jul 23, 2019:

Further proof that even in old age you can still look beautiful and still be loveable, at least to your devoted partner.

Ooooh, that's how it works.

TomMcGiverin comments on Jul 23, 2019:

That's because Repubs love all tax breaks and would like to eliminate all taxes if they could on the upper classes. The are also somewhat bigger warmongers than Dems. That's how they create deficits...

One of ours, tired of being teased with the laser pointer:

TomMcGiverin comments on Jul 23, 2019:

Feline assassin, I figured they existed.....

The conservative scare in our country may be self limiting.

TomMcGiverin comments on Jul 23, 2019:

I hope you're right, but I'm not counting on it.

Back from the third date. Meh. Oh well. Happens sometimes.

TomMcGiverin comments on Jul 23, 2019:

So am I understanding you right that you gave him three dates to see if he was right and are now dropping him? If so, that sounds fair. After three I usually know, at least on my end, if I am all in, physically attracted, and comfortable with the person to want to invest seeing them regularly or not at all romantically.

Munchie was being annoying, as per usual, so my husband shut him out of the office.

TomMcGiverin comments on Jul 22, 2019:

Kitty looks like he's trying to squeeze under the door and might make it thru....

My date for tonight had to reschedule because some family stuff came up.

TomMcGiverin comments on Jul 22, 2019:

I can relate. I try to move on and not bring up past feelings about being stood up in the past when I am meeting someone new, but at the same time, you never forget the feelings from past stand ups. It happened to me twice in a four month period in the first half of this year with online dating.

I guess even the seemingly perfect relationship is really wrought with problems.

TomMcGiverin comments on Jul 22, 2019:

Sounds right up there with falling in love with an alien from a spaceship. That woman is nuts.....

Why can't cigarettes just go extinct already?

TomMcGiverin comments on Jul 22, 2019:

I'm kind of apathetic to their continued use. Their life, their choice, not my problem. Ever since Iowa passed its Clean Air Act 11 years, ago, I've been able to enjoy smoke free bars and restuarants so I could finally go sing karaoke and go hear live music without a ton of secondhand smoke. The right side won for once, then it was no longer affecting me.

Missed opportunity.....

TomMcGiverin comments on Jul 22, 2019:

Sounds like my luck, but I won't lose sleep over it. JWs are too batshit crazy to be compatible with me.....

Agnostic radio Station?

TomMcGiverin comments on Jul 22, 2019:

The idea of this reminds me a lot of the story of Air America, an experiment in lefty talk radio to counter all the right wing talk radio in the US. It ultimately failed to stay in business, altho MSNBC ended up being a similar format with TV, tho no one should have any illusions that MSNBC, owned by General Electric, is not just as pro-corporate as the right wing talk stations and is also the network that fired Phil Donahue and cancelled his show for opposing the Iraq War as well as doing that to Ed Shultz for wanting to cover Bernie Sanders more during the last prez cycle. There is also Free Speech TV on cable and satellite TV that does have more genuine lefty content, such as Democracy Now! I am annoyed by NPR and won't listen to its talk shows because, despite it common rep as being liberal, it is liberal only on cultural issues, but not at all on inequality, war, or corporate greed and misconduct. And no wonder because of how in the last couple decades NPR started taking all that corporate money, just like the Dem party began doing in the late 80s, in the form of corporate "underwriting" or advertising on programs. Both groups lost their souls over that. Nowadays, NPR is a lot of smug, PC programming for the comfortable and well-educated, at least their talk shows, and I just can't stomach that or feel comfortable with it. The only programming I listen to at all on my local public radio station are Marketplace and a few music shows that are produced in my state that have alternative, indie and blues music featured as well as classic rock because their content is so much better than the crap that is now left on commercial, non-satellite radio for the masses.

I am so not looking forward to Saturday I have to go to my sister's Memorial I'm finally at the age ...

TomMcGiverin comments on Jul 22, 2019:

Same here. All the relatives of my parent's generation are gone. It's depressing to know that my generation is next.

The power of Christ compels you!! [youtu.be]

TomMcGiverin comments on Jul 21, 2019:

Or, as Richard Pryor said in the SNL sketch of The Exorcist II, " The bed is on the floor, the bed is on the floor, the bed is on my foot!...."

This is a post in response to another thread where someone was accused of being an ableist for ...

TomMcGiverin comments on Jul 21, 2019:

I agree with you viewpoint on this. Like Deiter said, we all reject people for dating all the time for all kinds of reasons that have nothing to do with bigotry or being illegally discriminatory. I have never personally been accused of being a bigot or unfairlly discriminatory for rejecting someone for dating, altho I suppose I could have been for rejecting someone for being too overweight, too plain looking in their face, too poor, too unintelligent, too thin, etc. If anything, I am probably too much or overly tolerant in being open-minded towards dating someone who is religious, but not strongly so.

Man tries to guilt me into meeting him 2,000 miles away.

TomMcGiverin comments on Jul 21, 2019:

I make no secret of my unwillingness to date LD as well as the reasons why not. I guess I should be grateful that I am undateable or unattractive enough that nobody LD has ever tried to push me into meeting them LD, lol....

I had a date yesterday with a guy I was talking to on okc back in April.

TomMcGiverin comments on Jul 21, 2019:

Good for you. I had a pretty disappointing one yesterday. After trading several long positive messages with her over a few days, we met for coffee and talked for over two hours. She seemed very excited to see me when we met and thru most of the conversation, but I could see her expression change in the final half hour or so. Then, when we walked outside to our cars she kept her distance and remarked about my Bernie sticker on my car and how I needed to vote for whoever the Dem candidate is to get rid of Trump. I told her there is a lot of time left until then to see if the nominee is not Biden or Mayor Pete, so that way I could honestly support the nominee instead of holding my nose and voting. She said she would have to message me some more before deciding to meet again. This morning she sent the expected rejection note and kept it very short, impersonal and vague. " Didn't feel the same chemistry or connection. I 'm looking for something different". I was really disappointed but not surprised as she majored in poli sci in college, her father is a poli sci prof and politics is very important to her, as it is to me. She ended up being like someone strongly religious is with all of us, unwilling to agree to disagree. But there were probably another reason or two. I sent her a reply asking her to be more specific and honest, but we'll see if I get that. It sucks that this woman was otherwise, on paper, the first really compatible one I had found on Match in two years that didn't have any of the usual dealbreakers that I keep talking about hitting in these forums, plus she was cute, at least to me. So it goes.....I have some of my hope back, but it's still frustrating. So close, but so far....... Update: She replied back with a longer, more specific list of reasons she rejected me and claimed that our political diff was not a factor. Sorry I may have assumed wrong and mislead you all. I don't agree with most of her criticisms she made in her long reply, but I won't repeat them here either. Carry on. I have another woman interested in meeting for coffee after I get back from my Alaska singles cruise trip that has traded a few messages with me from Our Time and we'll see how that goes in early Aug..

Remind me...Never bite that wire again!!!!

TomMcGiverin comments on Jul 21, 2019:

Curiosity shocked the cat, better than being killed, I guess....

What number R U ???

TomMcGiverin comments on Jul 21, 2019:

I'm usually 4 or 8.

The universe provides such sweet opportunity! I was just in line at the grocery store with a young ...

TomMcGiverin comments on Jul 21, 2019:

Wish I met women like you in the grocery store....

This sums it up, right here.

TomMcGiverin comments on Jul 21, 2019:

Twisted, I wish you weren't so hard on yourself. I saw that you took yourself off the dating option in your profile, but I think you are a cool person and attractive outside too. If you lived in my area and wanted to meet, I would in a heartbeat. So give yourself some credit.

Keeping it short; not to bore you.

TomMcGiverin comments on Jul 20, 2019:

Reminds me of something I told my late wife a long time ago after we would watch the X-Files together. I told her that just like Mulder told Scully in an espisode, that she was " my human credential". Those who know the show will get it.

Two people walking in opposite directions, heads down, scrolling on their cell phones, walk smack ...

TomMcGiverin comments on Jul 20, 2019:

I own only a tracphone, not a smartphone, and I only use it when I am away from my home landline. I can self entertain with my own thoughts if I am away from home without company or else bring a book to read while I wait on something or need to kill time.

Evidently they made the musical "Cats" into a movie. Here's the trailer. [youtu.be]

TomMcGiverin comments on Jul 20, 2019:

So who is that playing Grisibella and singing Memory? I'm guessing it's Idris, right? The cast is certainly interesting, but I'll pass on seeing it. The trailer sure looks surreal...

The Cats Trailer Looks Great, You Weirdos

TomMcGiverin comments on Jul 20, 2019:

Actually, the song you are referring to, the only hit song from the show, is called Memory and yes, it is simple and repetitive, but when performed well it is really touching and beautiful, even if the song has become a cliche with all the times it's performed at talent shows and elementary school music concerts.

Evidently they made the musical "Cats" into a movie. Here's the trailer. [youtu.be]

TomMcGiverin comments on Jul 20, 2019:

I was really impressed with the costumes of the original productions of Cats, as well as how well the actors moved and danced like cats.

The Cats Trailer Looks Great, You Weirdos

TomMcGiverin comments on Jul 20, 2019:

I am by no means a hater of Cats, but I will pass on seeing this movie version. I am fine with holding to my own memory of seeing it here in Iowa a long time ago with a national tour of it and my dvd recording of it from PBS of a Broadway production of it. I can only assume the film version will not hold up to the older stage versions of it.

Josh and Shannon Harris separation: The author of abstinence book I Kissed Dating Goodbye is ending ...

TomMcGiverin comments on Jul 20, 2019:

I view the goings on of Fundy Christians, even the celeb ones, with sort of a detached take like an anthropologist of watching a primitive tribe. What a strange bunch they are. I really don't care enough to want to make sense of what they do in their private lives.....

Big game hunter killed when shot elephant collapsed on top of him